"Man Up" campaign by SafeIreland

http://www.independent.ie/irish-news/new-domestic-abuse-law-will-ban-online-and-phone-contact-31400363.html

New domestic abuse law will ban online and phone contact

July 24

Survey results issued by the EU Agency for Fundamental Rights revealed that one in seven Irish women reported experiencing physical and/or sexual violence from a partner from the age of 15.

Since 1996, 206 women have been unlawfully killed in Ireland, with more than six out of 10 of these killed in their own homes. More than half of the women in cases resolved by the criminal justice system were murdered by a partner or former partner.

eviltwin wrote: »

Any figures for how many men are killed by female partners or former partners?

On average about seven women and two men are killed by their current or former partner every month in England and Wales.

http://www.bbc.com/news/uk-22610534

iptba wrote: »

I was reading this and thinking great, a gender neutral piece.

However, then I came across:

Survey results issued by the EU Agency for Fundamental Rights revealed that one in seven Irish women reported experiencing physical and/or sexual violence from a partner from the age of 15.

Since 1996, 206 women have been unlawfully killed in Ireland, with more than six out of 10 of these killed in their own homes. More than half of the women in cases resolved by the criminal justice system were murdered by a partner or former partner.

No mention of male victims or female perpetrators.

The minister said that domestic violence remains a big problem, with one in five women experiencing domestic violence.

iptba wrote: »

Irish Times piece similar: http://www.irishtimes.com/news/crime-and-law/new-laws-proposed-to-support-domestic-violence-victims-1.2295963

Irish Examiner piece seems to be neutral:
http://www.irishexaminer.com/breakingnews/ireland/proposed-new-domestic-violence-laws-aim-to-protect-and-support-victims-688036.html
Figure does have two images of female victims but also one image with male victims (probably not made for the press conference).

RTE has this piece http://www.rte.ie/news/2015/0724/716887-domestic-violence-barring-orders/ which includes:

It would be interesting to see whether male victims were mentioned.

http://nerdyshel.tumblr.com/post/124247234676/imagine-this

Imagine This
martytries:
exopolitico:
tabbitcha:
sum-mermaiid:
anti-feminist-pug:
Imagine that your partner has been hitting you. Yelling at you. You’ve been married for a few years, you’re both in your 30s, you have a little daughter, and everything you do seems to be wrong. You’ve been made fun of, mocked and belittled by your partner.

But you need them, because you can’t take another failed relationship. You can’t be alone again, and they’ve got you convinced that all the beatings and scratches and scrapes are your fault.

You tell your friends and they laugh. No matter how many bruises or cuts you show them, it’s still your fault, so you hide them. You feel trapped, but you don’t feel like you can escape. You’re convinced that you’re just locking yourself in.

And you see online one day an article. Someone else went through what you have. They got the cuts, the bruises, the scratches. You see that here is hope and freedom from these beatings. The physical and emotional pain can go away, there is someone there to help!

So you write down a list of 10 abuse victim hotlines, for people being abused. And you call them one by one.

If you were a man:
6 of those hotlines would refuse to help because of your gender.
3 of those hotlines would refer you to or give you a number to a hotline dealing with people that abuse and are looking to stop.
1 of those hotlines would help.
Out of those 10, 2 of those would also laugh at you or say you deserved it.

If you were a woman:
10 of those hotlines would help.

Abuse is very scary, but what seems scarier to you; being abused, reaching out and getting the help you need, or being abused, reaching out and getting laughed and turned away over 60% of the time because of who you are?
Only 8% of men who call abuse hotlines find them ‘very helpful’ and get the assistance they need.

Women can abuse. Men can be abused. Men need equality and help too https://nationalparentsorganization.org/blog/3977-researcher-what-hap-3977.
Wtf is this trash lol
how is this trash?

All they could say is “this is trash” because this study was written and published by a woman with a PhD and is comprehensive and heavily sourced.

Just to add some quotes found in the study from men who tried to seek help:

• They laughed at me and told me I must have done something to deserve it if it happened at all.

• They asked how much I weighed and how much she weighed and then hung up on me…I was told by this agency that I was full of BS.

• They accused me of trying to hide my “abuse” of her by claiming to be a victim, and they said that I was nothing more than a wimp.

• They didn’t really listen to what I said. They assumed that all abusers are men and said that I must accept that I was the abuser. They ridiculed me for not leaving my wife, ignoring the issues about what I would need to do to protect my six children and care for them.

And maybe the saddest one: They just laughed and hung up the phone.

Man can be abused too , this is not trash

My father had to suffer hell for years , and he ended up in hopsital too because of my mother . So don’t you dare to say that a man can’t suffer from abuse because that’s bull****. It happens , it can happen to everyone . And the fact that people are not willing to help is just sick
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Gran Hermano wrote: »

Great to read we no longer have domestic violence in lesbian relationships nor do we have women attacking/abusing men or children.

Labour will make communities safer - Ó Ríordáin
13 February 2016

Statement by Aodhán Ó Ríordáin TD
Minister of State at the Department of Justice and Equality and Arts, Heritage and the Gaeltacht with special responsibility for Equality, New Communities and Culture and Drugs Strategy

[..]

Legislate to improve the protections available to victims of domestic violence, most critically for those victims in crisis situations and will also make the courts process easier for victims of domestic violence;

Domestic abuse: Men 'need more help', victims' organisation says

By Erinn Kerr
BBC News NI

http://www.bbc.com/news/uk-northern-ireland-35364979

iptba wrote: »

Just happened to come across this:


While men with housing needs are completely ignored in this press release from the National Social Change Agency working on Domestic Violence in Ireland.

He said Aherne, the writer behind Mrs Merton and the Royle Family, tried to “brainwash” him with negative comments before becoming physically abusive.

Describing the start of the violence, he wrote: “She attacked me, using her nails to scratch at my neck, tearing off my necklace and ripping my top. It was proper shocking stuff.

“And although she was really contrite the next morning, it marked the beginning of some serious screaming-banshee behaviour – putting cigarettes out on my arm, attacking me with bottles, knives, chairs and other assorted furniture. It would be set off by the slightest thing – talking or looking at another woman was a favourite.”

On one occasion, Hook wrote, Aherne slapped him in front of “30 assorted comedians” in the middle of a British Comedy awards afterparty. He described another incident when Aherne allegedly took scissors to his possessions, including photographs of his children.

iptba wrote: »

Big two-day conference on domestic violence in Ireland is on at the moment:
http://safeirelandsummit.ie/programme/

Doesn't look like there is any focus on male victims.