Speaking your mind?

LETHAL LADY · 23-12-2015 03:04AM #1

Now don't get me wrong I'm no wallflower, but I'll have to admit I do bite my tongue at times, for the sake of peace mostly. I reckon most folks are non-confrontational and just let things slide, but I do wonder has anyone had a snap moment, think Michael Douglas in Falling Down.

Mine was fairly innocuous really, but I have witnessed people loose the complete run of themselves. A chap I used to work with had lost complete control of his mind. The chap ended up scooping handfuls of puddle water into his gob. God bless him!

NachoBusiness · 23-12-2015 03:17AM

LETHAL LADY wrote: »

The chap ended up scooping handfuls of puddle water into his gob. God bless him!

You can't just tell us that bit and not the rest.

What in the name of God led up to that? Was there a row about who could and could not drink the Balloygown in the communal office fridge or something?

ArtSmart · 23-12-2015 03:20AM

So, you say you were a bit lethal lady?

Details please.

endacl · 23-12-2015 03:25AM

NachoBusiness wrote: »

What in the name of God led up to that?

Was it something like this...?

Please say it was something like this!

ArtSmart · 23-12-2015 03:30AM

NachoBusiness wrote: »

Nancho, did you just change your avatar to Bad Santa recently, or was it always that way.

certain pollsters want to know...

Hammer89 · 23-12-2015 03:38AM

I nearly became a Jehovah Witness a few years ago, solely because I was too nice to tell your one to f*ck off. That should illustrate how confrontational I am. That's absolutely true as well. She left me what can only be described as a JW brochure and told me to read a certain chapter and she'd be back in a week to go through it with me. Thankfully she never returned.

kettlehead · 23-12-2015 03:45AM

If you're in Wicklow just drive around blaring music.

NachoBusiness · 23-12-2015 03:46AM

ArtSmart wrote: »

Nancho, did you just change your avatar to Bad Santa recently, or was it always that way.

certain pollsters want to know...

When Whoopsie put her Santa hat on hers, I changed mine. I'm easily led like that.

donegaLroad · 23-12-2015 04:11AM

'Beware the fury of a patient man..'

I like this saying. I totally understand its meaning.

Graces7 · 23-12-2015 08:19AM

donegaLroad wrote: »

'Beware the fury of a patient man..'

I like this saying. I totally understand its meaning.

So true...that last straw unleashes great rage

23-12-2015 08:37AM

In the past few months, I have told 3 former friends to take a hike in cases where before I would have bitten my tongue. In recent days, met a fellow about work. He hadn't answered an email in 4 months, then spent a couple of weeks bombarding me with emails, so invited him in. Meeting was fine, went through everything...and at the end he had the cheek to ask me why the delay. So very firmly and clearly told him where to go. I just can't be done with that level of nonsense and unreasonableness now.

Badly Drunk Boy · 23-12-2015 09:06AM

Hammer89 wrote: »

I nearly became a Jehovah Witness a few years ago, solely because I was too nice to tell your one to f*ck off. That should illustrate how confrontational I am. That's absolutely true as well. She left me what can only be described as a JW brochure and told me to read a certain chapter and she'd be back in a week to go through it with me. Thankfully she never returned.

No follow through! That's the problem with the Jay Double-ues. I hope yer wan has a lovely Christmas.

qo2cj1dsne8y4k · 23-12-2015 09:06AM

Years ago I would let everyone walk all over me. People in school, my friends, people at work. But I have definately swung from one extreme to the other. I wouldn't think twice about telling someone to **** off now.
I've learned the more you do because you're nice, the more you're expected to do and the more of an eejit you're taken for. It goes from "thanks for that" to it being expected as standard and then some. "Could you do this and this as well?"

Life's too short to make yourself miserable trying to make others happy. Make yourself happy first and foremost and then worry about other people.

TG1 · 23-12-2015 09:17AM

LexieOnRale wrote: »

I've learned the more you do because you're nice, the more you're expected to do and the more of an eejit you're taken for. It goes from "thanks for that" to it being expected as standard and then some. "Could you do this and this as well?"

I'm learning the above at the moment, I would never have said boo to a goose but the last year has been rough and I've learned no one else is going to have me as priority 1 so I may as well have myself! It's tough and sometimes you have to shout a bit but it's better than the way I was previously when I wouldn't open my mouth.

The one time I really did was in connection with being told I was being let go from a job. I just explained how I felt after having a meeting on a Monday to discuss projects for 2015/16 and then being told 4 days later there was no job. Apparently I was unnecessarily loud... I didn't think so at the time!

Hammer89 · 23-12-2015 01:37PM

Deleted User wrote: »

In the past few months, I have told 3 former friends to take a hike in cases where before I would have bitten my tongue. In recent days, met a fellow about work. He hadn't answered an email in 4 months, then spent a couple of weeks bombarding me with emails, so invited him in. Meeting was fine, went through everything...and at the end he had the cheek to ask me why the delay. So very firmly and clearly told him where to go. I just can't be done with that level of nonsense and unreasonableness now.

Did they accuse you of using Americanisms?

ASoberThought · 23-12-2015 02:33PM

It's all about judging the moment but no one should allow another to walk all over them.

Mesrine65 · 23-12-2015 03:44PM

I have no problem speaking my mind...

I would have no future in the diplomatic corp.

Medusa22 · 23-12-2015 07:39PM

I'm really awful at speaking my mind, and most of the time I let people walk all over me while I silently seethe with rage. There usually comes a time though, a tipping point, a boiling point, where I unleash my fury, either that or I just cut them out of my life :pac:

RayM · 23-12-2015 10:56PM

I can tolerate a huge amount of shit before it even occurs to me to speak my mind. And even then, I try to be very diplomatic about it. I'm not a fan of conflict and I try to steer clear of those who are.

Starscream25 · 23-12-2015 11:01PM

In the spirit of avoiding major confrontation I'd usually throw a 'I respectfully disagree with you there' or a 'you can kindly go **** yourself'.

the evasion_kid · 23-12-2015 11:07PM

im one of those people who bottle it up for a while.....then unleash a torrent of truth and sit looking at the bridges burning....chawing on an apple!

Mesrine65 · 24-12-2015 06:29PM

the evasion_kid wrote: »

im one of those people who bottle it up for a while.....then unleash a torrent of truth and sit looking at the bridges burning....chawing on an apple!QUOTE]:pac::pac::pac:

Sunnyisland · 24-12-2015 06:37PM

I am a bit like a smouldering volcano, I always look for the positive's in people, I always try and give the benefit of the doubt, but sometimes people take your kindness as a weakness and then I explode //

osarusan · 24-12-2015 06:44PM

No, I'll bottle up the anger and nourish it into a festering rage.

Then I'll spend my personal time re-imagining and acting out the scenario, but this time I verbally crush them and leave them broken. Later, I'll come up with an even better thing to say, and do the whole thing all over again.

Great fun.

maudgonner · 24-12-2015 07:03PM

osarusan wrote: »

No, I'll bottle up the anger and nourish it into a festering rage.

Then I'll spend my personal time re-imagining and acting out the scenario, but this time I verbally crush them and leave them broken. Later, I'll come up with an even better thing to say, and do the whole thing all over again.

Great fun.

I am AMAZING at arguing. As long as it's at least half an hour after the incident has happened. And it's after I've had a good four or five trial runs figuring out what I should have said. Then the people who pass me in the street, arguing with myself like a madzer, are stunned at my verbal dexterousness.

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