Why should a man offer a seat to a woman on train/bus?

Naos wrote: »

Poster stated that women are better communicators than men (one part of their statement) and you said you cannot believe that attitude exists. The only reason I can imagine you state you cannot believe that attitude exists is because you disagree with it.

Yes but then you moved the goalposts.

The post I replied to said

shootermacg wrote: »

Sure there are exceptions, but in general I think you'll find that women are "in general" better communicators better teachers and more tolerant of kids than men.

whereas YOU said

Naos wrote: »

So are you saying that men and women, in general, communicate their feelings equally?

2 completely different statements. As I said read the posts again and more carefully.

One eyed Jack wrote: »

If you actually believe that it's "no wonder" "fathers get such a bad deal in this country", then surely you must already be aware that attitudes like that "still exist"?

Fair point. I will rephrase then that I despair that attitudes like this still exist.

Candie wrote: »

Faith restored! I don't take up much room either!

Would that be sitting your Candie ass down??*


*Dwayne The Rock Johnson**


**sorry couldn't resist

It's nice to be nice and all that.....but I have to say it does annoy me when I hold the door open for someone and they don't thank me.

Was in the bank the other day (the one that has those stupid double doors that only open one at a time after the first door closes and the button is pressed) and held it open as 3 older men walked in to the bank. Not one acknowledged my existence or thanked me for holding it. It was like I wasn't there!

So I wondered were they just (1)Rude & Unmannerly (2)Completely unaware of anything going on around them and thought that the door automatically stayed open with out any human interference. Thoughts?

BabysCoffee wrote: »

It's nice to be nice and all that.....but I have to say it does annoy me when I hold the door open for someone and they don't thank me.

Was in the bank the other day (the one that has those stupid double doors that only open one at a time after the first door closes and the button is pressed) and held it open as 3 older men walked in to the bank. Not one acknowledged my existence or thanked me for holding it. It was like I wasn't there!

So I wondered were they just (1)Rude & Unmannerly (2)Completely unaware of anything going on around them and thought that the door automatically stayed open with out any human interference. Thoughts?

I'm going to go with rude and unmannerly on that one, caused by the fact that they were completely unaware of anyone or anything else going on around them.

I'd always hold the door open for someone, but it's a pain in the arse sometimes when they're a bit of a distance away and they just amble up, that's when I'm thinking "Jesus meet me half-way will ya!" :pac:

Then they say thank you and I'm like "Well now I just feel like an arse!" :pac:

Ahh it's annoying sometimes, but I tend not to let it get to me, I'm not being forced to be polite or mannerly by anyone, it's just something I do because I wouldn't feel right if I didn't at least consider the other person or people. Most people are polite and pleasant, and for those that aren't, well, I just think you're always going to get the odd one

One eyed Jack wrote: »

I'm going to go with rude and unmannerly on that one, caused by the fact that they were completely unaware of anyone or anything else going on around them.

I'd always hold the door open for someone, but it's a pain in the arse sometimes when they're a bit of a distance away and they just amble up, that's when I'm thinking "Jesus meet me half-way will ya!" :pac:

Then they say thank you and I'm like "Well now I just feel like an arse!" :pac:

Ahh it's annoying sometimes, but I tend not to let it get to me, I'm not being forced to be polite or mannerly by anyone, it's just something I do because I wouldn't feel right if I didn't at least consider the other person or people. Most people are polite and pleasant, and for those that aren't, well, I just think you're always going to get the odd one

I sometimes consider barking "You're Welcome" as they pass by without thanking me. But I don't want to be that di*k so I just go on my way. I guess we can only control ourselves and no one else's behavior.

Figbiscuithead wrote: »

Answer my question first and I'll answer yours.

I just did, and I asked first

Naos wrote: »

Basic respect. If both man & woman go to leave at the same time, someone has to stop to allow the other to move out.
Men are generally bigger so it'd most likely seem like they are being physically domineering if they are not the ones to stop.

Why the need to generalise, in a situation where people are directly dealing with other people and you can see their size.
Why not just say you yield to smaller people so as not to give the impression of domineering over people.
Letting ladies out of a lift first just some back to outdated notions of chivalry.

Because for thousands and thousands of years that was the role women played in society.

You're not backing up your claim, just providing more opinions.

Why does he? Bring a baby around to a group of men & women ranging all ages.
The women of the group are a lot more likely to coo and ah over the baby than the guys, more likely to want to hold the baby etc.
You're just trying to be outraged.

Because he's making a factual claim.
And your above comment doesn't prove that women are "better communicators, better teachers and more tolerant of kids than men".

zeffabelli wrote: »

The reason for this us the same for not wearing a brown leather belt with black shoes, for showing up for dates with your hair combed and your shirt ironed, answering emails promptly, thank you notes, returning phone calls, showing you care.

Respect. You transmit what you expect.

Hanging on to the remnants of dignity here.

And why do you only apply this to women in this situation?