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My elderly widowed father was scammed!

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  • #62
    Massimo Cassagrande
    Closed Accounts Posts: 626 ✭✭✭Massimo Cassagrande


    I'm glad I never had siblings. I only have two sisters. Siblings sound like right cnuts.


  • #63
    foggy_lad
    Closed Accounts Posts: 20,373 ✭✭✭✭foggy_lad


    lanos wrote: »
    I think you handled the whole situation perfectly.
    Old people have terrible judgement and need protecting.
    The excuse that it gives him some happiness is horse****.
    A bit of short term happiness does not give him the moral
    right to crap on the feelings of his family who will be left to pick up the pieces
    I don't agree that old people generally have terrible judgement or need protecting but often elderly people can feel a bit vulnerable or more correctly quite "Alone" when they live on their own and will often allow someone like this woman to gain a foothold because she provides a bit of much needed company companionship and conversation especially in the evenings.

    Well done on getting rid of one of the worst kind of leeches in society OP.


  • #64
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 9,005 ✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    koutoubia wrote: »
    Ah no doubt about it myself and my siblings are looking after the inheritance. We want the house. Better we did then some stranger.
    And yeah I probably lied to my dad but the Gardai seemed more interested in getting her info then me scaring my dad.
    My conscience is clear!

    You ****ing bellend!


  • #65
    fepper
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,431 ✭✭✭fepper


    Deleted User wrote: »
    You ****ing bellend!

    That's a nasty answer,of course she is right what she did


  • #66
    Samaris
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,544 ✭✭✭Samaris


    She sounds like she was a scammer in this case, but your methods were pretty disrespectful to your father. Not to mention that it might make him very nervy of finding a good, decent companion that he might want to spend his time with because you've given him some nonsense while "protecting" him from this particular woman.

    Maybe that's an intention, in which case I suggest you take a pretty damn hard look at yourself. I would hope it wasn't, that you wouldn't set out to deliberately block your father from having another relationship for fear of inheritance, and that you just went for 'ends justify the means' as the situation seemed urgent.

    If it turns out that this woman -is- a scammer (and I agree she certainly seems likely to be), from what the Gardai say, then you owe your father a proper explanation of what you said to him.

    That's my tuppence-worth at least.


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  • #67
    koutoubia
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,360 ✭✭✭koutoubia


    Samaris wrote: »
    She sounds like she was a scammer in this case, but your methods were pretty disrespectful to your father. Not to mention that it might make him very nervy of finding a good, decent companion that he might want to spend his time with because you've given him some nonsense while "protecting" him from this particular woman.

    Maybe that's an intention, in which case I suggest you take a pretty damn hard look at yourself. I would hope it wasn't, that you wouldn't set out to deliberately block your father from having another relationship for fear of inheritance, and that you just went for 'ends justify the means' as the situation seemed urgent.

    If it turns out that this woman -is- a scammer (and I agree she certainly seems likely to be), from what the Gardai say, then you owe your father a proper explanation of what you said to him.

    That's my tuppence-worth at least.

    I have nor the rest of my family have any objections to whether my father has a relationship or not and I said that to him as did the rest of my family.
    But while someone is blatanly taking advantage of him while he is doped up on meds and spending more time in hospital then not then we come home one day from hospital to find this girl has moved a heap of her **** in without any consent then I did what I did, Right or wrong, I couldnt care less.
    I spoke to the rest of my family this evening and he is in much better form and has said that he really didnt understand what was happening with her.

    As I said if I had to do it again tomorrow I would.


  • #68
    topmanamillion
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,642 ✭✭✭topmanamillion


    [Deleted User] wrote: »
    Irish people, including children, have been circling around old people eying up their property since the dawn of time. Live in a rural area and know of two women who mske a beeline for single elderly farmers, ferrying them around, cooking, ending up with the farm, 1 of them has about 4 farms now.
    I know of a family who have done something very similar. An elderly man with a large farm and no close relatives died a few years ago. When he was alive they would put cattle on the land and kept friendly with him. When he died they just kept doing it and are currently doing up his house.
    There was no will and they had grazing rights after grazing their cattle for so long. Property is theirs.


  • #69
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 22,384 ✭✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    koutoubia wrote: »
    My dad has still got is full faculties and had his life to live.
    koutoubia wrote: »
    e he is doped up on meds and spending more time in hospital then not...

    Now I'm unclear.

    Has he his full faculties or is he doped up on meds? Settle on one line anyway. Because it is kinda important to the whole story. If he was in full possession of his faculties, then of course he could give her his house and all his assets. But if he was doped up, things become very different.


  • #70
    Kristopherus
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 11,902 ✭✭✭✭Kristopherus


    topmanamillion wrote: »
    I know of a family who have done something very similar. An elderly man with a large farm and no close relatives died a few years ago. When he was alive they would put cattle on the land and kept friendly with him. When he died they just kept doing it and are currently doing up his house.
    There was no will and they had grazing rights after grazing their cattle for so long. Property is theirs.

    The property is theirs only if they had constant possession of it for 12 consecutive years.


  • #71
    Maximus Alexander
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 13,080 ✭✭✭✭Maximus Alexander


    koutoubia wrote: »
    Personally I dont really care whether you approve whether I lied to my father etc.
    My siblings and I got advice. acted on it.
    End of.

    Should probably have just posted this on your blog then.


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  • #72
    lanos
    Closed Accounts Posts: 600 ✭✭✭lanos


    If I ever find myself in the same position as this old man I will be sure to transfer my assets to my children then I will be able to have fun with any young fit girl who comes my way.
    Of course if i am too senile or lazy to take proper precautions with the family wealth, then I hope my family will step in and do whatever is necessary.


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