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Is this what you imagined?

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  • Posts: 25,909 ✭✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    This is more or less how I imagined my life. Except I'd be driving around in a van solving mysteries.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 12,468 ✭✭✭✭OldNotWIse


    Hatless wrote: »
    I never had much of a plan, as I didn't have a clue what to do with my life.
    The younger me would still be extremely disappointed with how it's turned out though. :pac:

    I'm happy though - your perspectives and priorities change with age/circumstances.

    Younger me would definitely be disappointed, but then again do we have higher standards when we are not aware of our own limitations?


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 3,389 ✭✭✭NachoBusiness


    OldNotWIse wrote: »
    I don't think I appreciated how much the need for a child would dominate my plans. Initially, I said 22 because I figured sure I'll have it all by then and I'll be at my most fertile etc. 22 came and went and so did the plans. Got to 30 and started panicking, so set 35 as the "cut off" age. Now I'm 32 and nervously flicking past fertility articles in magazines and trying not to do a saddo victory dance when I'm reminded of my fertility each month. It's as if the need to be a parent just bulldozes the rest of the plans :P

    If it makes you feel any better, Beverly D'Angelo had twins with Al Pacino when she was 49!


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 12,468 ✭✭✭✭OldNotWIse


    If it makes you feel any better, Beverly D'Angelo had twins with Al Pacino when she was 49!

    That does make me feel better... Another 17 years to p1ss around :pac:


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 31,152 ✭✭✭✭KERSPLAT!


    Definitely not. Pretty much nothing has gone to plan. Some things I'm glad it didn't, others not so much


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  • Posts: 22,384 ✭✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    OldNotWIse wrote: »
    I don't think I appreciated how much the need for a child would dominate my plans. Initially, I said 22 because I figured sure I'll have it all by then and I'll be at my most fertile etc. 22 came and went and so did the plans. Got to 30 and started panicking, so set 35 as the "cut off" age. Now I'm 32 and nervously flicking past fertility articles in magazines and trying not to do a saddo victory dance when I'm reminded of my fertility each month. It's as if the need to be a parent just bulldozes the rest of the plans :P

    Met wife at 12.

    Going out at 17.

    Married at 29.

    House at 35.

    First kid at...40!


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 12,468 ✭✭✭✭OldNotWIse


    Met wife at 12.

    Going out at 17.

    Married at 29.

    House at 35.

    First kid at...40!

    So you waited 28 years! :p


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 25,946 ✭✭✭✭Neyite


    OldNotWIse wrote: »
    That does make me feel better... Another 17 years to p1ss around :pac:

    Another 9 for me so! :D

    I had this idea as a kid that I'd be married at 25, fart out a few kids and be done breeding by 30. He would go out to work and I'd work part time from home and raising kids. Life has turned out a bit different from that but I have no regrets. Even the crap times in my past have taught me something. The recession has hit hard and money has to stretch -sometimes not far enough, but I'm so happy with what I have right now. A few more quid is always welcome though!


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2, Paid Member Posts: 29,964 ✭✭✭✭_Kaiser_


    Never really had a defined plan growing up.. knew I wanted to do something with computers but not sure exactly what, so did a few years in college, was recruited out of there by one of the multinationals and spent a few years working up and around the business but still at "senior worker drone" level in various Support roles

    Then in the Good Times I decided to join the public sector and moved into IT management which rounded out the skillset and taught me a lot and I discovered I was pretty good at it. Still allowed me to be hands on too so things were pretty good and I transformed the place from an IT perspective... until the recession hit and the culls in the PS started - including me :(

    Spent a year out of work which was very tough and hard to keep motivated to apply for jobs in the face of rejection after rejection or total silence as a response. Worse again was the mentality that you're some sort of "waster" or "scrounger" for DARING to claim the benefits you've paid for for years! Not just from people on places like Boards either - from the very staff that are supposed to assist and support you too!

    But eventually I got a contract role and managed to turn that into a permanent one and 6 years later I've a Mid-senior Global Management position with a very good team of guys working for me.

    In between all this I became a Daddy too which was probably the BIGGEST change (and shock!) to my life but he's a great little fella and it actually helped me with the above too as when it's no longer just you to think of, you start to push yourself harder and less prone to getting comfortable in a rut.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 488 ✭✭smoking_kills


    I wanted to be a porn star. I eh, came up short :(


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,034 ✭✭✭mad muffin


    Life has turned out precisely as I imagined it would be… shît.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 12,234 ✭✭✭✭Cee-Jay-Cee


    I never had any dreams or aspirations other than to be happy with whatever presented itself to me along the way. I have never really been disappointed or unhappy for any length of time and have a good job, a beautiful wife and two gorgeous little girls. My life has been very good so far, long may it last.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 493 ✭✭Tsipras


    This reminds me of a great Sopranos scene :)

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vqTWW6CWC0s


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 22,635 ✭✭✭✭PARlance


    House 24, Engaged 25, Married 27, 1st Kid 29, 2nd Kid 31.

    As someone said earlier, it could be someone's dream but it certainly wasn't mine.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,597 ✭✭✭Witchie


    I had the usual childhood notions of being something exciting (or as I saw it then) such as an air-hostess, archaeologist, actress, writer, detective etc.

    2 things I was sure of though was that

    1. I would never do the big church wedding thing with everyone staring at me and I didn't. Got married on the beach in Barbados with just himself and myself.....the fact that he turned out to be the wrong one is neither here nor there.

    2. I didn't want kids. I wanted to be like my aunt and just travel the world at the drop of a hat, live it up in exotic places with no responsibilities......screwed that one up. My baby sister was born when I was 17 and I never knew it was possible to love someone as much as I did her and from that moment on I only really wanted to be a mammy. Everything else was incidental.

    Now my 2 boys are 21 and 18, I am 42 and when my youngest heads to college next year, I am going to be like my beloved aunt and travel the world.

    I have sorta achieved the childhood dreams of writing as I work as a freelance writer for the web and a lot of the research is almost like detective work sometimes and also do acting in my spare time.

    Overall my life is nothing like I imagined it would be but I am just about a year away from making it more like my childhood dreams.


  • Posts: 26,219 ✭✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    I don't think it really matters if your childhood dreams come true. The only thing that matters is contentment, satisfaction, and if you're lucky, healthy doses of happiness. If life was so plannable and predictable, it'd be a lot more boring than it is.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 81,060 ✭✭✭✭biko


    It's not at all what I imagined, in most ways it's more exiting.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 12,468 ✭✭✭✭OldNotWIse


    PARlance wrote: »
    House 24, Engaged 25, Married 27, 1st Kid 29, 2nd Kid 31.

    As someone said earlier, it could be someone's dream but it certainly wasn't mine.

    It's probably mine :)


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 3,049 ✭✭✭discus


    PARlance wrote: »
    House 24, Engaged 25, Married 27, 1st Kid 29, 2nd Kid 31.

    As someone said earlier, it could be someone's dream but it certainly wasn't mine.

    I'm actually jealous!


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,188 ✭✭✭LDN_Irish


    Witchie wrote: »
    1. I would never do the big church wedding thing with everyone staring at me and I didn't. Got married on the beach in Barbados with just himself and myself.....

    Amazing! I'd have loved to do that. Whereabouts did you do it? I stayed by Rockley beach before I had kids to swallow my previously disposable income! I'd have loved to do a tiny wedding like that but cultural expectations on my wife meant we needed nearly 200 guests there! But sure the same cultural expectations meant her father had to pay for it so it wasn't all bad!


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 17,745 ✭✭✭✭kylith


    If it makes you feel any better, Beverly D'Angelo had twins with Al Pacino when she was 49!

    Yeah, but who wants to be running around after toddlers when they're in their 50s?


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 12,468 ✭✭✭✭OldNotWIse


    kylith wrote: »
    Yeah, but who wants to be running around after toddlers when they're in their 50s?






    Someone who is 49 and desperately wants children.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 17,745 ✭✭✭✭kylith


    OldNotWIse wrote: »
    Someone who is 49 and desperately wants children.

    Fair point, but I'd visit a sperm bank well before that.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 12,468 ✭✭✭✭OldNotWIse


    kylith wrote: »
    Fair point, but I'd visit a sperm bank well before that.
    Because that's the answer to all fertility problems.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 13,080 ✭✭✭✭Maximus Alexander


    When I was four years old I was really into Thomas The Tank Engine, and when my parents asked me what I wanted to be when I grew up, apparently I told them "a train track". Not a train driver, or even a train mind. The track.

    Now naturally I never lived up to those lofty goals, but I can't say I'm disappointed.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 12,468 ✭✭✭✭OldNotWIse


    When I was four years old I was really into Thomas The Tank Engine, and when my parents asked me what I wanted to be when I grew up, apparently I told them "a train track". Not a train driver, or even a train mind. The track.

    Now naturally I never lived up to those lofty goals, but I can't say I'm disappointed.

    They must have been so worried about you! :D


  • Posts: 21,740 ✭✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    kylith wrote: »
    Fair point, but I'd visit a sperm bank well before that.

    It's possible that wouldn't work.
    It is very painful to long for a child and be unable to conceive one or to feel the reality of it moving further and further away. 49 is a bit of a crazy age alright to be having babies but for a woman or a man who felt it would never happen I imagine the joy experienced is immense.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,597 ✭✭✭Witchie


    LDN_Irish wrote: »
    Amazing! I'd have loved to do that. Whereabouts did you do it? I stayed by Rockley beach before I had kids to swallow my previously disposable income! I'd have loved to do a tiny wedding like that but cultural expectations on my wife meant we needed nearly 200 guests there! But sure the same cultural expectations meant her father had to pay for it so it wasn't all bad!

    Dover beach, not far from Rockley! Arrived on the Saturday, had to go to Bridgetown to get the licence on the Monday and on Tuesday afternoon, having spent the day lounging around the pool we decided that we should probably go clean ourselves up a bit for our wedding on the beach in front of our hotel. He showered and dressed and went down to wait for me, I showered, did my own hair, no make up, photographer came up to room took a few pics and I strolled down to join him. The woman who worked in the hotel and had organised the photographer, cake and flowers was one witness and an Irish guy hanging out at the beachside bar and was on his honeymoon was the other. So relaxed.

    We went for a gorgeous meal in a restaurant called "Secrets" that was set on a beach with the patio where we dined out on stalks on the water.

    Collected our marriage cert on the Friday and continued to enjoy another week in paradise before coming home to a surprise party my family had organised.

    Would do it very similarly again if could find some poor fecker to put up with me.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 13,080 ✭✭✭✭Maximus Alexander


    OldNotWIse wrote: »
    They must have been so worried about you! :D

    They still bring it up 26 years later, so either they're very relieved, or very disappointed. :D


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 22,559 ✭✭✭✭AnonoBoy


    You f*ckers all had PLANS????

    God damn it. That's probably where I went wrong.

    Have yet to make one of those for my life.


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