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Wedding on match day

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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 3,553 ✭✭✭Tarzana2


    Gatica wrote: »
    I think this would be the case among many of my friends as well. There's no way you can compete with an important match like that.

    If it was just one match, I'd have suggested enabling the guests to watch the match, as they'd remember you and your wedding as legend for that and thank you for it. 3 matches, and you're talking people skipping your wedding, or at the very least being distracted for the best part of the whole day.

    Besides, it's not like the match day crept up on you on your wedding day without you knowing... You know full well it'll be on that day; it may be rude to skip out parts of a wedding to watch a match, but I think it's just as rude to knowingly set a competing event on what is a very important day for many. Why push a date you know will be a conflict for many? Change the date - save yourselves the heartache and headache and pick a different date that you can enjoy with your guests.

    The OP has already said he is changing the date.


  • Business & Finance Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators, Paid Member Posts: 17,009 Mod ✭✭✭✭Toots


    I think you're right to change the date OP. I remember when I went to view the hotel where I got married, we were in the bar afterwards having a bite to eat. There was a wedding on that day (we viewed that day deliberately because it meant we got to view the room set up for the wedding before the B&G arrived) and there were a few people in the bar who were obviously guests, watching a match on the TV. Dinner was called, and most of them went off, apart from 2 guys who just stayed there watching the match. About 20 minutes later one of the bridesmaids came in and went over, she was obviously giving out to them and telling them to get in, I heard her say "you've missed the starters!". She gets no joy from them, and goes off. Barman has been watching the exchange and goes over to have a word; again nothing doing. Next thing a bloke who was either the father of the bride, or of the groom, came in and was very obviously pissed off about it. Argued with them for a few minutes, and they still wouldn't budge. Mysteriously a few minutes later the Sky went off, and they skulked off. (it was fixed a few minutes after that ;))

    I actually couldn't get over the rudeness of it, particularly having seen the menu the B&G picked, and how much drink etc was being laid on I'd say it was costing them at least €100 per head. It wasn't even a big match either, it was just some random football game. And these arseholes would be the same ones who would probably be on their ear before the first dance, because they missed the dinner, and then eat all the evening food.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 3,553 ✭✭✭Tarzana2


    ^^^^

    So rude. I reckon all those people chiding them might not have helped though (IMO, the bar staff shouldn't have got involved), they probably dug their heels in more then. They must be close to the marrying couple for such a fuss to be made. Awful behaviour on their part though.


  • Business & Finance Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators, Paid Member Posts: 17,009 Mod ✭✭✭✭Toots


    I reckon they must have been close enough for their absence to have been noticed. TBH that makes it even worse - if they were a random +1 and stuck down the back next to old work colleagues or something that'd be slightly less awful. But still incredibly rude nonetheless, particularly considering the B&G (or their parents) would have had to pay for their uneaten meals.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,915 ✭✭✭clint_silver


    Toots, you gave an idea there, for anyone having a wedding clashing with a match, ask the venue to turn off tv's "on request of the B&G" when asked. A few would skulk but they forget about that quick enough.


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  • Moderators, Business & Finance Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 51,685 Mod ✭✭✭✭Stheno


    Toots, you gave an idea there, for anyone having a wedding clashing with a match, ask the venue to turn off tv's "on request of the B&G" when asked. A few would skulk but they forget about that quick enough.

    A few might leave for a local hostelry showing the sporting event!


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2, Paid Member Posts: 33,620 ✭✭✭✭HeidiHeidi


    Toots, you gave an idea there, for anyone having a wedding clashing with a match, ask the venue to turn off tv's "on request of the B&G" when asked. A few would skulk but they forget about that quick enough.

    All very well if you have exclusive use of the venue, but I can't see hotels potentially pissing off other (possibly regular) punters just for a bride and/or groom!


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 18,150 ✭✭✭✭Malari


    Toots, you gave an idea there, for anyone having a wedding clashing with a match, ask the venue to turn off tv's "on request of the B&G" when asked. A few would skulk but they forget about that quick enough.

    I can see that being an even bigger challenge to some to find somewhere else to watch it! I doubt anyone lingering in a bar rather than eating dinner would be quick to forget it.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 117 ✭✭Jonotti


    As an aside, if I'd invited someone to a wedding and paid 50 quid+ for their meal, and they chose to spend the day watching rugby, I'd never talk to them again. You'd have to be a class A **** to do that, and I am into my sport.

    They have paid for their own meal so you don't own them in that sense. Yeah its pretty rude but you have to realise that most people do not want to be at your wedding and are only there for social obligation.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 3,553 ✭✭✭Tarzana2


    Jonotti wrote: »
    They have paid for their own meal so you don't own them in that sense. Yeah its pretty rude but you have to realise that most people do not want to be at your wedding and are only there for social obligation.

    Right... but if you accept an invitation to that social obligation, behave accordingly.


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,915 ✭✭✭clint_silver


    Jonotti wrote: »
    They have paid for their own meal so you don't own them in that sense. Yeah its pretty rude but you have to realise that most people do not want to be at your wedding and are only there for social obligation.

    I dont believe this to be the case, most people enjoy a night out, dressing up, and seeing friends and family, having a party later on, being entertained , letting the hair down. Whilst some people will be there with a dash reluctant obligation, that has to be the minority in any given crowd, otherwise weddings wouldnt be known as happy occasions, which they are.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 117 ✭✭Jonotti


    I dont believe this to be the case, most people enjoy a night out, dressing up, and seeing friends and family, having a party later on, being entertained , letting the hair down. Whilst some people will be there with a dash reluctant obligation, that has to be the minority in any given crowd, otherwise weddings wouldnt be known as happy occasions, which they are.

    I think most people would rather spend the 500-1000 it costs to attend on a decent holiday.


  • Users Awaiting Email Confirmation Posts: 1,495 ✭✭✭pajero12


    You're right to change it OP, My poor sister is in a similar position, If Ireland top the group then they're playing Argentina the day after her wedding which is pretty perfect, If they are runners up then they play the All Blacks at 8pm the evening of her wedding.

    *Taking for granted Ireland qualify and the All blacks top the group


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