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3ryan · 31-08-2015 09:31PM #1

hi everyone only 2 more weeks to the wedding- just trying to finish the last few bits and was talking to a friend and she mentioned a few bits that I wouldn't have though of so looking for opinions.

did people get wedding coins to exchange as part of their ceremony and for the signing of the registrar did people get a fancy pen

also do people have a little cushion for d rings?

thanks

Faith · 31-08-2015 09:52PM

We didn't have coins, although my husband came by the house that morning and delivered a bunch of flowers and a 'piece of silver' in the form of an old coin

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I only thought about a pen when we were about to sign the register! The celebrant had one, so no, we didn't get anything fancy.

We just gave our best man the rings in their boxes. A cushion could be nice, if you're having a ring bearer.

3ryan · 31-08-2015 09:55PM

thanks Faith. we don't have a ring bearer so will just leave them in their boxes.

An Bhanríon · 31-08-2015 10:13PM

No, no and no! Left out lighting of candles and exchange of coins from ceremony as we figured vows and exchange of rings was enough for us! Never thought about pen, but didn't have a photographer taking a close up so it didn't matter. Rings were in box. Unless you really want those things leave them out and get some time to chill. There's enough to be doing already getting ready for your wedding I'm sure!

Toots · 01-09-2015 12:50AM

We didn't do coins, the only reason being that the template I used for the ceremony booklets never mentioned them, and I completely forgot to add the piece in. I only remembered after I'd finished printing them out, and there was no way I was re-doing 120 booklets!

Regarding the pen, are you getting married in a church or civil service? Again, this was something that never even crossed my mind until we were about to sign the thing

, and the priest produced a fancy pen that he always has on him when he does weddings so it'll look nice for the photos :pac: Apparently my photographer also had a fancy pen in his pocket for that very reason, so unbeknownst to us we were surrounded by fancy pens that day!

solerina · 01-09-2015 10:17AM

Definitely didn't do the coins, forgot about them. Havnt a clue what pen we used to sign the register, whatever one the priest had available I suppose. Don't stress the small things, they don't really matter !!!!

Malari · 01-09-2015 11:35AM

Never heard of coin exchanging! My dad has an Important Signing Pen that he uses for official documents :pac: I'll ask him to bring that.

stickybookmark · 01-09-2015 12:30PM

Didn't do the coins, I wanted to keep the mass as short as possible (am very proud it was exactly 1 hour :-) so I left out all uncecessary bits including some of the vows so the coins got the chop.

Regarding the pen yes I made a big deal of this as I had been presented with a beautiful quill shaped silver pen in a little stand a few years ago by some people that were going to the wedding (in recognition of writing something that won an award) so I really wanted to use that pen as it had a special significance.

Ring cushion no- I toyed with the idea but I was too paranoid something would happen to the rings and I felt the sturdy box that they came in from the jewellers was more reliable than a cushion. As a result the page boys (i had 2!) didn't actually do anything re the rings ...which was noticed and commented on by one of them afterwards! think he was little put out so maybe I should have at least organised for him to bring up the box. Then again that would have been picking one page boy over the other so then I'd have had to find another job for the other one or his parents would be put out etc.....
If you have no page boy - forget the cushion thing. If you have one, either get the cushion (no idea where you're based but they had these for sale in Vibes & Scribes wedding section in Cork) and get page boy to bring it up or simply get page boy to bring up the box to ye. That would be my advice

CorkClaire82 · 01-09-2015 02:29PM

We did the coins but that was because my parents still have the coin they used which they got from my dad's dad so it had sentimental value. Then I was looking around the house and found a JFK 2 dollar coin so used that as well as the proper sentimental one.

We signed the register in the sacristy as my husband didn't want the big photo showy bit with us having to posh for 10s of photos but the priest did have a fancy quilly pen, wasted on us though

Cushion no, we didn't have a page boy and it never occurred to me anyway.

Milly33 · 01-09-2015 04:16PM

The register had a pen with her for ours. To be honest you don't even see it so unless you really want one tis grand.
Cushion (rings) was just used the boxes our dads had them and gave them to us to give.

One thing I thought of after as out venue didn't have a clock and I didn't have my phone on me, a small little watch or just a pin watch or something is very handy. I went through the entire day not know what time it was...

The coin exchange is nice but again if your not into it don't bother.. My nephew gave me a lucky penny something borrowed.. he put a little nail polish on it so I knew which one and I had to give it back to him. Something like that might be nice...

3ryan · 01-09-2015 07:15PM

Thanks for all the responses - will leave the rings as is and will see if the Priest has a pen. Probably will get the coins. Oh just another question I have 180 guests how many mass booklets do people print?

Milly33 · 01-09-2015 07:32PM

Id say half the amount.. Didn't have them ourselves but a lot of stuff we did print one for everyone and they were wasted

solerina · 02-09-2015 10:47AM

3ryan wrote: »

Thanks for all the responses - will leave the rings as is and will see if the Priest has a pen. Probably will get the coins. Oh just another question I have 180 guests how many mass booklets do people print?

Half is plenty. Most get left in the church/ hall afterwards anyway.

Pistachios & cream · 02-09-2015 11:09AM

I had about the same number of guests and i printed 100. i did roughly 1 per couple and a few extras.

I also didnt do a full mass booklet, just a trifold with the main bits and the headings of the rest.

pooch90 · 02-09-2015 05:20PM

We did the coins as they were the ones my parents used, given by my paternal grandmother.

The pen we used was one my dad gave me on a crystal plinth to mark the millennium (my dad is dead now so it was personal)

We had a cushion that my mam made with ribbons matching our colour scheme. We had a ring warming ceremony so wanted to have them on something nice. Of course my ring fell off as they came back up to us but it was funny.

Didn't do booklets, just big blackboards with the bridal party and order of service written on them. We didn't have a church ceremony though, I've heard some priests insist on having them. They always just get abandoned in the church or thrown in the bin afterwards. I'd do enough for half and leave them in baskets at the doorway. Make sure you make it someone's job to gather them afterwards.

stickybookmark · 03-09-2015 12:05PM

3ryan wrote: »

Thanks for all the responses - will leave the rings as is and will see if the Priest has a pen. Probably will get the coins. Oh just another question I have 180 guests how many mass booklets do people print?

I had 150 and I printed 20.
One for everyone that was doing a reading or reflection, one for the musicans and a couple of spares for family.
It was best man's job to make sure everyone that should have one had one

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