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Another ex thread - still have feelings for, how to deal with?

  • 30-07-2015 11:02PM
    #1
    galaxybubbles
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7 ✭


    I was seeing a guy for six months and we broke up around Christmastime. He basically wasn't able to commit to me and said it was getting too serious. I wasn't happy with that and ended things.

    I seriously regret how I reacted and wish I could turn back time. He was a very nice guy. I initiated contact with him again lately and we met up for lunch. It was short and sweet and we got on well.

    We've been in sporadic contact since. I still really like him but I don't know how to let him know or if there is any point. In the six months we were apart, he didn't make any contact with me but has been polite when I've initiated it.


Comments

  • #2
    CaraMay
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 4,652 ✭✭✭CaraMay


    Op his words and actions are very clear. He told you what he felt and that he couldn't commit to you. On top of that he didn't contact you when it finished. He's being polite to you but clearly not interested in romance op or he would be taking his chance with you.

    He's your friend op. Move on and meet someone who can commit


  • #3
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,005 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Oh I don't know OP...It sounds like he still isn't ready to commit or he would have brought it up when you met him for lunch. This may sound harsh but absence makes the heart grow fonder..unfortunately in your case it seems like he is just interested in you casually and is being polite


  • #4
    galaxybubbles
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7 ✭galaxybubbles


    Thanks for the replies. It was me who initiated the lunch because I still have feelings for him. I didn't want to bring it up over that lunch.

    I guess I know in my heart that if he did still have feelings for me, he would have let me know. Probably a long time ago. It's good (?!) to hear it from others that he isn't interested so I can try to silence the little voice in my head telling me that I should tell him I still have feelings for him.

    I just need to find a way to move on now. Onwards and upwards!


  • #5
    The Iron Giant
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2, Paid Member Posts: 14,080 ✭✭✭✭The Iron Giant


    galaxybubbles wrote: »
    Thanks for the replies. It was me who initiated the lunch because I still have feelings for him. I didn't want to bring it up over that lunch.

    I guess I know in my heart that if he did still have feelings for me, he would have let me know. Probably a long time ago. It's good (?!) to hear it from others that he isn't interested so I can try to silence the little voice in my head telling me that I should tell him I still have feelings for him.

    I just need to find a way to move on now. Onwards and upwards!

    Just know as well that it's totally normal to still have feelings and to still wonder about having another shot at it. Seven months is not a very long time in the grand scheme of things but it's good that you're still on good terms. Don't beat yourself up about it or think that how you feel is out of line. It's totally normal.

    Time will move you on and you'll find someone just as, if not even nicer, than that guy who'll be thrilled to commit :)


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