Giving a Token Gift to a Stranger

kassie · 28-07-2015 02:49PM #1

I just wanted to get a bit of feed back on sending a token gift to, effectively, a stranger. I know of this person, we share the same hobby and are “friends” on a few social media sites, but I don’t ever recall speaking face to face. I saw something the other day and she immediately popped into my head so on impulse I purchased the item with the intention of sending it anonymously, but now I have an angel/devil situation going on in my head, angel saying it’s a nice and kind thing to do and devil saying it’s a weirdo thing to do.

What are your thoughts, how would you feel if you received a token gift in the post anonymously?

snubbleste · 28-07-2015 02:50PM

Creep!

nelly17 · 28-07-2015 02:51PM

I think we're done here

darkpagandeath · 28-07-2015 02:51PM

Its Sh*te right ? Is it in a policeman's hat ?

Ruu · 28-07-2015 02:52PM

What is it? Anonomously..no, just send it from yourself and say why. Something to do with the shared hobby might be okay. Underwear or perfume...nnyyyyeeehhhh...you are heading down the wrong road.

Lisha · 28-07-2015 02:52PM

Sending it Anonomously is creepy.saying who it's from and why is cute.
I'd send it

Barely There · 28-07-2015 02:53PM

She'll think you're a weirdo.

At best.

shamrock55 · 28-07-2015 02:53PM

Send it but for god sake dont send it anonymousley

Sinister Kid · 28-07-2015 02:54PM

It's a boardsie isn't it?

How do you have her address??

Mr. Incognito · 28-07-2015 02:54PM

Opens mail.

Gift from stranger on internet.

*Deletes stranger on internet.

Raminahobbin · 28-07-2015 02:55PM

Personally, I'd send it anonymously and sit back and enjoy the confusion :P

SEPT 23 1989 · 28-07-2015 02:56PM

didn't the judge warn you about this type of behavior?

waraf · 28-07-2015 02:56PM

sending it anonymously would be just plain weird. I'd be so freaked that I'd probably chuck it in the bin if I was the recipient

Custardpi · 28-07-2015 02:56PM

It depends on what your motive is in sending the item & how that might be regarded by the recipient. Are you hoping the relationship might develop into something more than it currently is for example (whatever that might be)? The value of the item would also be a factor. If it's anything more than a fiver value that might feel weird to receive from someone who is almost a stranger.

biko · 28-07-2015 02:57PM

Message her on one of these social sites and say
"Hey, I saw this and thought of you."

Even that could be a bit stalkerish like, but then I don't know your situation.

Don't you have shared friends you could ask?

Heroditas · 28-07-2015 02:57PM

kassie wrote: »

I just wanted to get a bit of feed back on sending a token gift to, effectively, a stranger. I know of this person, we share the same hobby and are “friends” on a few social media sites, but I don’t ever recall speaking face to face. I saw something the other day and she immediately popped into my head so on impulse I purchased the item with the intention of sending it anonymously, but now I have an angel/devil situation going on in my head, angel saying it’s a nice and kind thing to do and devil saying it’s a weirdo thing to do.

What are your thoughts, how would you feel if you received a token gift in the post anonymously?

It's creepy. You don't know the person at all, bar some interaction via social media.

smash · 28-07-2015 02:57PM

Send it, with a framed photo of you, in a package sealed with a kiss.

lazybones32 · 28-07-2015 03:00PM

Either send it anon or don't send it at all. Random gifts out of the blue will cause suspicion to people that aren't children.

If you send it anon, you must stay anon for life. Don't send it to her and then 5 years down the line say 'remember that x you got in the mail? It was me!!!'

If you think it will be a nice gesture and brighten up her day, send it. The whole point of sending it is to benefit her, right? Not to make you feel good and to be rewarded with gratitude etc.

kassie · 28-07-2015 03:02PM

the token cost €1, its being sent with the intention of "saw this, thought of you, hope it helps" i don't want anything from it... its simply just a kind gesture, they are few and far between these days!

this person is going through a bit of a rough patch (she posts openingly on her social media) and the token gift is just healing stone/worry stone, plus its sort of linked to our mutual hobby in a round about way

kassie · 28-07-2015 03:04PM

lazybones32 wrote: »

Either send it anon or don't send it at all. Random gifts out of the blue will cause suspicion to people that aren't children.

If you send it anon, you must stay anon for life. Don't send it to her and then 5 years down the line say 'remember that x you got in the mail? It was me!!!'

If you think it will be a nice gesture and brighten up her day, send it. The whole point of sending it is to benefit her, right? Not to make you feel good and to be rewarded with gratitude etc.

thats exactly it!!!

Barely There · 28-07-2015 03:05PM

kassie wrote: »

the token gift is just healing stone/worry stone,

Yeah, they don't work.

Don't send.

wylie · 28-07-2015 03:05PM

If its something small and inexpensive, post it and tell her the truth. "seen this and thought of you". Plus you could totally freak her out if its sent anonymously.

lazybones32 · 28-07-2015 03:07PM

kassie wrote: »

the token cost €1, its being sent with the intention of "saw this, thought of you, hope it helps" i don't want anything from it... its simply just a kind gesture, they are few and far between these days!

this person is going through a bit of a rough patch (she posts openingly on her social media) and the token gift is just healing stone/worry stone, plus its sort of linked to our mutual hobby in a round about way

Go for it. It's a nice, genuine sentiment and won't cause any misunderstandings.

Trond · 28-07-2015 03:07PM

"I swear your Honour, I just wanted to put the present under her pillow"!

Yellowblackbird · 28-07-2015 03:28PM

You could buy the devil a small thoughtful gift and get it onside.

Also tell the devil and anger they should be on your left and right shoulder and not inside your head. That's just straight up schizophrenia.

DeadHand · 28-07-2015 03:31PM

I'd forget about it and concentrate instead on developing relationships with people who are actually in my life.

BattleCorp · 28-07-2015 03:32PM

biko wrote: »

"Hey, I saw this and thought of you."

Not a good idea if the token gift was something that you saw in a sex shop.

Custardpi · 28-07-2015 03:34PM

kassie wrote: »

the token gift is just healing stone/worry stone

That's a euphemism for crack, isn't it?

coffeepls · 28-07-2015 03:42PM

I'd go with the fact that you're uncomfortable thinking of sending this gift.
Don't send it I think. You sound like a very genuine person, but go with your gut instinct that it is a little weird sending them an actual item.

Maybe you will become friends outside of social media in the long run. I'm very good friends with some folks on social media (that I've never met face to face) - but even after knowing them very well for years, an actual gift, even if it was just a small token like a worry stone, would freak me a bit.

Yellowblackbird · 28-07-2015 03:42PM

DeadHand wrote: »

I'd forget about it and concentrate instead on developing relationships with people who are actually in my life.

How will he get to meet the people in your life?

kassie · 28-07-2015 03:54PM

thanks for all the genuine answers and views. If i received something similar in the post, i would be thrilled to think someone thought of little old me in their busy day and took the time to send it. It would be slightly annoying not knowing who sent it (thats just my curiosity!), but either way i wouldn't be freaked out, i'd be thankful!

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