Girls, would you date a man smaller than you?

Peregrine · 15-07-2015 08:34PM

Candie wrote: »

Well, putting them down is a bit extreme. :eek:

I'd let them down nicely though, there's no way I'd say 'Fek off, chubby/shorty'.

Sorry, I should rephrase that.

steddyeddy · 15-07-2015 08:35PM

I'm attracted to 20 year old blondes wearing hotpants. If that's wrong well lock me up and throw away the key.

15-07-2015 08:35PM

Candie wrote: »

Word for word what I was about to post. Except I'm a teeny bit smaller than you. The only man I can think of who'd be smaller than me is Peter Dinklage!

No I wouldn't date a man smaller than me, but then again I've yet to meet a man smaller than me.

As long as you're polite and kind about it, of course it's not a problem.

NO, FCUK *YOU*

Sam Kade · 15-07-2015 08:36PM

Gerry Rio wrote: »

Ive just seen this on a dating site on a profile:

Quote:

"Guys, if you are smaller oe younger than me then please dont mail as its not going to work"

Now the age thing I get but this girl is 5 foot 9! Its a safe assumption that some guys are going to be smaller than her. Im 5 foot 8 myself.

What is girl's fascination with men's height these days? Do they equate it to being big "elsewhere" too or something? Is it a "I want to be feel protected" primal thing?

Years ago you would hear a bit about this being a thing but now it seems to be the norm with the vast majority of girls in that if a guy is smaller then he doesnt have a shot.

Thoughts?

She's a gobsh1te, all she had to say was that she prefers taller men.

15-07-2015 08:37PM

bluewolf wrote: »

NO, FCUK *YOU*

YOU'RE NOTHIN' SPECIAL!

Sam Kade · 15-07-2015 08:44PM

Kwiecien wrote: »

I'm tall.

Previous boyfriend was shorter than me. It didn't bother me. My height bothered him though. He would whine if i wore high heels! He thought everyone was staring at us (they weren't). Relationship didn't last....

10 years on - I'm marred to a lovely man, 6'5" - he admitted he asked me out because I'm tall too

It's not about height, it's attitude. I can't help being tall. Issues like weight can be dealt with, people can lose and gain weight.

Height doesn't make any difference when you're lying down

How Soon Is Now · 15-07-2015 08:44PM

Ah its great being 6ft4 :-).

Except when your buying jeans that is!

15-07-2015 08:45PM

I'm 5'9" but have an attraction to women who are taller than me. Went on a couple of dates last year with a 5'11" girl. Although I've found that a lot of women aren't interested in me being shorter than them.

kfallon · 15-07-2015 08:45PM

How Soon Is Now wrote: »

Ah its great being 6ft4 :-).

Except when your buying jeans that is!

I'm happy enough with me 5' 11" tbh, I don't stand out, that'll do for me!

How Soon Is Now · 15-07-2015 08:47PM

kfallon wrote: »

I'm happy enough with me 5' 11" tbh, I don't stand out, that'll do for me!

I have a cousin who's taller then me in high heels! I feel uncomfortable when a woman is taller than me for obvious reasons!!

15-07-2015 08:50PM

I'm just under 5'10", so it's a bit hard to say that! Especially as most Irish guys tend to be 5'9" ish. I wouldn't mind if they were shorter. My OH is a tiny bit taller than me, about half an inch, if not less. I don't wear heels anyway, they hurt too much.

Sam Kade · 15-07-2015 08:51PM

How Soon Is Now wrote: »

I have a cousin who's taller then me in high heels! I feel uncomfortable when a woman is taller than me for obvious reasons!![/QUOTE]So what are they?

15-07-2015 08:53PM

Dogowner55 wrote: »

Wouldn't date a girl over 150lbs, it's fine if women have a height preferences.

LOL, I hope you are not being serious. Many women at that weight can be in great shape.

Roquentin · 15-07-2015 08:53PM

i saw a doc once on the decision theory of either sex. what do guys look for in a woman and what do women look for in a guy. the one thing most of the women said was necessary was height, as in they liked a man who was tall. there are many reason for this.

--evolutionary psychology: to males of the species would clash over the right to mate with the female and the strongest would earn it. this then is still evident today in the human species. a woman is looking for a strong confident man

--Image wise: this is the man a woman will be projecting to her world. she is going to be seen by family, friends and social media with this man. If the man is very small, it doesnt look impressive in her family, friends and peers eyes. Image has a huge bearing in who a woman chooses. ideally a woman wants a man who is in high demand, because in high demand makes her feel good. a small man is not a man in high demand.

--Sexual element: that she is unconsciously and aware that the man is much smaller than her, may make the sexual element of the relationship difficult. this would stem from the evolutionary psychology point of it.

--children: if hes small, theres a high chance that the children could be small and hence she would be unconsciously aware of that.

By small i mean a man under 5,6 id say. rory mcilroy looked small when dating caroline, but i wouldnt consider him small at all. a woman will choose a guy who impresses her. he may not be the best looking but has confidence or money or both and hence she sees a good future in him. a small guy is just a deal breaker. it just doesnt impress her consciously or unconsciously

How Soon Is Now · 15-07-2015 08:53PM

Sam Kade wrote: »

How Soon Is Now wrote: »

I have a cousin who's taller then me in high heels! I feel uncomfortable when a woman is taller than me for obvious reasons!![/QUOTE]So what are they?

Im used to being taller than women and a lot of fellas. There's not many Irish girls out there 6ft4 upwards in fairness!

Dogowner55 · 15-07-2015 09:00PM

Lia_lia wrote: »

LOL, I hope you are not being serious. Many women at that weight can be in great shape.

Actually most are, they don't let themselves go too fat 150lbs is hitting upper level chubby on most avg height women.

Cold War Kid · 15-07-2015 09:03PM

Junkyard Tom wrote: »

As a small man, who used to be a tall girl, I would never date a man, who was a woman, who was taller than me when I was a tall girl.

Mr ****ing Picky. :mad:

bisounours · 15-07-2015 09:03PM

Roquentin wrote: »

a small guy is just a deal breaker. it just doesnt impress her consciously or unconsciously

I worked in HK a few years ago with a beautiful French girl who was single. She found it hard to date as most foreign men seconded there were with wives/family, and those that were single were usually stricken with "yellow fever." She was open to the idea of dating a Chinese man, but not one "whose jeans she couldn't fit into." She was in no way overweight, but the average waist size there (for men) was around 25"/26."

steddyeddy · 15-07-2015 09:03PM

A friend of mine is 5,5 and is getting an operation that will add two-three inches. It's sad when it comes to this.

15-07-2015 09:06PM

steddyeddy wrote: »

A friend of mine is 5,5 and is getting an operation that will add two-three inches. It's sad when it comes to this.

That's more than a problem with his height. To go through that for a few inches seems like it's something running deeper in his self image. It's just too extreme, he must see himself as the sum of his height.

If he's nice send him to me, he can be the Howard to my Bernadette!

bisounours · 15-07-2015 09:06PM

steddyeddy wrote: »

A friend of mine is 5,5 and is getting an operation that will add two-three inches. It's sad when it comes to this.

are you being serious or are you talking about one those of emails offering to, eh, upsize?

Cold War Kid · 15-07-2015 09:07PM

How could it actually be known a woman is 150lbs+ unless she has to go through being weighed as part of dating.

A woman who's small in stature might actually be kinda chubby at less than 150lbs and a woman who's tall could be slim and muscular.

Nothing wrong with a guy not fancying fat women but throwing in a set weight like 150lbs is just limiting his options. Why not just say "overweight".

steddyeddy wrote: »

I'm attracted to 20 year old blondes wearing hotpants. If that's wrong well lock me up and throw away the key.

Why on earth would there be something wrong with it?

15-07-2015 09:07PM

Wasn't that a fashion for women in china or somewhere, getting leg extensions??
http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/worldnews/1529586/Why-little-Miss-Li-paid-a-man-1600-to-break-her-legs.html

RhubarbCrumble · 15-07-2015 09:09PM

I'm 5 3" (female) There aren't many men who are shorter than me!

bisounours · 15-07-2015 09:12PM

bluewolf wrote: »

Wasn't that a fashion for women in china or somewhere, getting leg extensions??

That is the procedure I was thinking of if the previous comment wasn't being smutty (it is AH!)
Agonising pain and the fragility of the bones even IF the bones had healed well, let alone when they don't (shudder)

Teyla Emmagan · 15-07-2015 09:12PM

steddyeddy wrote: »

A friend of mine is 5,5 and is getting an operation that will add two-three inches. It's sad when it comes to this.

That is really sad. Those leg lengthening things are supposed to be terribly painful. Although maybe they have scoliosis, so not so bad.

I am 5 foot 2. We are all short arses in our family. We are all also amazing (IMO). So I ticked the 'personality' box. Oddly enough I have never been with a man of my height or less, though I have fancied several of them.

steddyeddy · 15-07-2015 09:12PM

Candie wrote: »

That's more than a problem with his height. To go through that for a few inches seems like it's something running deeper in his self image. It's just too extreme, he must see himself as the sum of his height.

If he's nice send him to me, he can be the Howard to my Bernadette!

I agree Candie but it became an issue when people rejected him because of his height. I used to work in a gym when I was 16 and a lot of the girls with anorexia or bulimia I encountered looked gorgeous but one or two comments from people gave them that complex.

His girlfriend is actually stunning so I don't know what he's upset about. He's a genius too so that works in his favour.

steddyeddy · 15-07-2015 09:14PM

bisounours wrote: »

are you being serious or are you talking about one those of emails offering to, eh, upsize?

Yea I am. I'm not a surgeon so I can't tell you the ins and outs of it but apparently it's agony and has a very long recovery period.

steddyeddy · 15-07-2015 09:15PM

Cold War Kid wrote: »

How could it actually be known a woman is 150lbs+ unless she has to go through being weighed as part of dating.

A woman who's small in stature might actually be kinda chubby at less than 150lbs and a woman who's tall could be slim and muscular.

Nothing wrong with a guy not fancying fat women but throwing in a set weight like 150lbs is just limiting his options. Why not just say "overweight".

Why on earth would there be something wrong with it?

I'm only joking CWK I generally go for girls around 25 I'm ~30.

bisounours · 15-07-2015 09:17PM

steddyeddy wrote: »

Yea I am. I'm not a surgeon so I can't tell you the ins and outs of it but apparently it's agony and has a very long recovery period.

I don't know this procedure well but have read about it. Entails breaking the bones and adding pins, encouraging the bones to stretch and at certain intervals pulling the pins slightly further and further so the bones can grow. I am cringing typing this....

Girls, would you date a man smaller than you?

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