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How can I stop my father from kissing me?

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  • #32
    nikkibikki
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,226 ✭✭✭nikkibikki


    OP for the good of your mental health, I think you need to look into getting out of this house. Some sort of an assisted living arrangement. Please, please, please talk to a social worker. Copy and paste your post here if you want and email it to them. I know it's quite a morbid thing to say but your mother won't be around forever to help with your mobility issues. And the older she gets, the less able for it she will be also.

    Are you aware of Arthritis Ireland OP? There's also a Facebook page which I am on (I have a form of arthritis too) for arthritis sufferers under 50. I find I get great support there. I would assume having RA that you are under the care of a rheumatologist and those units usually have a specialised nurse in them. Can you speak to yours?? All this stress can't be helping your physical or mental health. And I don't just mean the 1 or 2 weeks a year your Dad comes to stay. I get the impression that as much as a help your Mam is with you physically, that's about it. I know the unknown is scary OP, but it sounds like you are utterly miserable and you are so young. RA is a hard disease to live with but you have arthritis, arthritis doesn't have you.


  • #33
    quickbeam
    Moderators, Recreation & Hobbies Moderators Posts: 16,287 Mod ✭✭✭✭quickbeam


    hemakesmesick wrote: »
    Can somebody help me phrase it in a way that doesn't make it sound like an attack on her or my father, in a way that doesn't make it seem like I'm accusing him of anything inappropriate, but makes it clear that I need her help to make this stop?

    "Mum, when the family comes to stay and you and the rest head out, dad comes in to my room and kisses me in a way I don't like. I've asked him to stop and he won't, and I'm not strong enough to physically stop him. I really need your support on this the next time he comes to stay. Can you, or one of the rest of the family ensure I'm not left alone with him, please. You may think I'm over-reacting, but I really find the situation uncomfortable and am asking you to support me on this one."


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