So I recently met a girl......

Irishguy16 · 08-07-2015 03:26PM #1

Just as the title says, but the only problem is she has a boyfriend. We went out for a meal a few weeks ago, and during the meal she made reference to the fact that she's in a relationship,only once, besides that she was flirtatious and really engaging and it almost seemed like a date.

We met again today, and no word about her boyfriend this time,we spent most of the afternoon together.It seems that she's enjoying the company, and so am I, and I'm beginning to like her, I'm not sure what's happening, or going to happen.

Does anyone have any advice? any tactics or guidance?

qo2cj1dsne8y4k · 08-07-2015 03:27PM

If she cheats with you she'll cheat on you

mawk · 08-07-2015 03:28PM

Are you willing to:

be comforting when he is hurling abuse at her and making harassing phonecalls at 1am?
Or
Be suddenly ignored when she chooses him over you?

If so then go ahead

professore · 08-07-2015 03:31PM

She might be lying about the boyfriend. Either way bad news.

Cookie_Dough · 08-07-2015 03:32PM

How did you end up going for a meal? Did you/ her think it was a date? I wouldn't trust a girl that would go for 1 on 1 (secret?) dinners with another guy.

Even if she dumped the bf and got with you, how do you know that she wouldn't begin going for meals with other guys? Unless of course she is completely oblivious to you fancying her. Either way I think she's playing you

Dick phelan · 08-07-2015 03:32PM

LexieOnRale wrote: »

If she cheats with you she'll cheat on you

Yep and who's to say he's the only one she's meeting with behind her boyfriends back, You could never trust them knowing their proven to cheat.

08-07-2015 03:33PM

Leave her alone, she's taken and there's plenty of other women out there for ya.

Kermit.de.frog · 08-07-2015 03:34PM

Thread title promised much, Op delivered so little.

Pumpkinseeds · 08-07-2015 03:34PM

Run.

arayess · 08-07-2015 03:36PM

LexieOnRale wrote: »

If she cheats with you she'll cheat on you

This is not true. It's possible not a given

There are plenty of marriages out there that began as an attached person meeting somebody else.

Op do what you want , it's your life.
If you want her , go get her.

Don't let the morality of the worthies on the internet stop you.
If she loves her bf she'll turn you down and you'll have your answer.
Life great when you know where you stand.

uch · 08-07-2015 03:36PM

Kidnap her and Marry her, sure it'll be great craic

galljga1 · 08-07-2015 03:38PM

Go for it dude, life's too short.

foggy_lad · 08-07-2015 03:38PM

Irishguy16 wrote: »

Just as the title says, but the only problem is she has a boyfriend. We went out for a meal a few weeks ago, and during the meal she made reference to the fact that she's in a relationship,only once, besides that she was flirtatious and really engaging and it almost seemed like a date.

We met again today, and no word about her boyfriend this time,we spent most of the afternoon together.It seems that she's enjoying the company, and so am I, and I'm beginning to like her, I'm not sure what's happening, or going to happen.

Does anyone have any advice? any tactics or guidance?

Who paid for the meal?
Does she see you as just a friend?
Does she think you are gay so not worried about you hitting on her?
Why waste your time on someone who is with another person?

mad muffin · 08-07-2015 03:42PM

I dont see what the problem is? Sex without the commitment.

Gowan boyo!!

aujopimur · 08-07-2015 03:43PM

Get the ride, then run.

NotCominBack · 08-07-2015 03:43PM

I can't work out whether the op is 6 or 60, because of this, "I'm out"

Post partially taken from dragons den

realdanbreen · 08-07-2015 03:43PM

What are her initials? I think I know her.

endacl · 08-07-2015 03:44PM

Maybe she was referring to the fact that she's in a relationship with you, op, and you're a wee bit slow on the uptake?

Magico Gonzalez · 08-07-2015 03:44PM

I know plenty of long term couples, song with kids who met when the one or the other was in a relationship with someone else.

Don't drag it out any further though. Next time, tell her how you feel, what you want etc.

If she's into it, she'll dump the jockey, if not, cut and run.

Dead simple. Get to the point, sharpish.

Fat Christy · 08-07-2015 03:45PM

Maybe she just wants to be your friend?

The Moldy Gowl · 08-07-2015 03:49PM

Don't be that guy.

Don't go home wrecking for a girl. It's not worth it. Get her to breakup with him first if anything.

Generic Dreadhead · 08-07-2015 03:50PM

Gowlasauras Rex wrote: »

Don't be that guy.

Don't go home wrecking for a girl. It's not worth it. Get her to breakup with him first if anything.

Homewrecking! :pac:

She's probably having a few casual dates with some guys, nobody said she's married, 3 kids, mortgage, holiday home etc.

Samaris · 08-07-2015 03:51PM

Are you comfortable putting yourself in a position where you're falling for a girl who's with someone?

If it was me, I'd be putting some distance in there or else placing her firmly into the friendzone until such a time as she is unattached. Anything else is just setting up three people for heartache. The ultimate responsibility is hers, she's the one that's attached, but really, you know about it now, so there's a certain onus on you to have some cop on.

justchecked · 08-07-2015 03:52PM

Impregnate her and have the rival male spend his resources on raising your child.
This way your genes will be passed on to the next generation. Also, angry pirate her on your last fling. Then move on to a new pasture where the females are not related to you prior conquest.

Generic Dreadhead · 08-07-2015 03:53PM

Was her boyfriend coming back from the bar with her drink?

Did he hit ya a dig and tell ya to stay away from his woman before whisking her away?

Thought that was par for the course now no?

Saipanne · 08-07-2015 03:54PM

I met my current girlfriend when we were both seeing other people, although neither of us were in a "relationship". Anyway, I don't regret my actions and neither does she!

I'd say try see how it goes, but don't jump in there. Maybe she'll leave him for you instead of cheating.

BQQ · 08-07-2015 03:54PM

Irishguy16 wrote: »

Just as the title says, but the only problem is she has a boyfriend. We went out for a meal a few weeks ago, and during the meal she made reference to the fact that she's in a relationship,only once, besides that she was flirtatious and really engaging and it almost seemed like a date.

We met again today, and no word about her boyfriend this time,we spent most of the afternoon together.It seems that she's enjoying the company, and so am I, and I'm beginning to like her, I'm not sure what's happening, or going to happen.

Does anyone have any advice? any tactics or guidance?

I bolded the relevant parts.
Welcome to the friendzone, sir. Hope you enjoy your stay.

One eyed Jack · 08-07-2015 03:54PM

Irishguy16 wrote: »

Just as the title says, but the only problem is she has a boyfriend. We went out for a meal a few weeks ago, and during the meal she made reference to the fact that she's in a relationship,only once, besides that she was flirtatious and really engaging and it almost seemed like a date.

We met again today, and no word about her boyfriend this time,we spent most of the afternoon together.It seems that she's enjoying the company, and so am I, and I'm beginning to like her, I'm not sure what's happening, or going to happen.

Does anyone have any advice? any tactics or guidance?

You hardly need to be told to ask her what's the story with her and her boyfriend?

Ethel · 08-07-2015 04:06PM

Irishguy16 wrote: »

Does anyone have any advice? any tactics or guidance?

Sure. what are you in it for? (1) One nighter? (2) tap every now and again when you can't pull? or (3) a relationship?

She seems bored with her current relationship if shes out wining and dining with you and flirting. If you're on for option one or two, well you're as bad as her. Both aware there is a boyfriend in the frame, so I don't expect either of you to do the right thing. In this case, do what you like - let the hormones take over.

Option three, tell her to end it with himself and you'll take her on. I wish you a happy and loyal union. I just hope she doesn't get bored again.

Generic Dreadhead · 08-07-2015 04:08PM

Ethel wrote: »

tell her to end it with himself and you'll take her on.

For just the summer or evenings and weekends too?

Rakish Paddy · 08-07-2015 04:10PM

aujopimur wrote: »

Get the ride, then run.

Hit it and quit it, bro.

So I recently met a girl......

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