Child I dont know in my car- Do i have the right to be annoyed?

kylith · 05-07-2015 01:31AM

On the one hand it's your car and you get to decide who can be in it. On the other hand it's a bit dickish to want to exclude a kid who's having a hard time for, really, no good reason.

05-07-2015 01:37AM

Bongalongherb wrote: »

You can by not allowing it in the first place.

A child cannot get injured in my car because they will never be in my car, and as such I will never be responsible.

Why would I let black-eyed children in my car ? Huh, do you really think I am going to stop for them ? Not a fcuking chance, i'LL BE GONE IN A FLASH.

Those kids with the black eyes are frightening, I don't want anything to do with them.

But you don't want any child in your car in case something happens. Apparently the OP is not that bothered if something happens to a child they know, it's the unknown ones they fret about!

Bongalongherb · 05-07-2015 01:37AM

kylith wrote: »

On the one hand it's your car and you get to decide who can be in it. On the other hand it's a bit dickish to want to exclude a kid who's having a hard time for, really, no good reason.

Everyone to their own, but it's a road-rally out there at peak traffic times

Let them walk, good exercise, they don't need a lift in most cases.

Bongalongherb · 05-07-2015 01:51AM

kylith wrote: »

On the one hand it's your car and you get to decide who can be in it. On the other hand it's a bit dickish to want to exclude a kid who's having a hard time for, really, no good reason.

Can you clarify this comment above ? not sure what it's exact meaning is.

weldoninhio · 05-07-2015 02:24AM

I'm not sure if want to get in the car with some of the loopers in this thread!! You wouldn't let a child in your car, niece, nephew, family friend?? If you are so worried about crashing perhaps you shouldn't be driving.

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One eyed Jack · 05-07-2015 02:40AM

weldoninhio wrote: »

I'm not sure if want to get in the car with some of the loopers in this thread!! You wouldn't let a child in your car, niece, nephew, family friend?? If you are so worried about crashing perhaps you shouldn't be driving.

It's not that I'd be worrying about my driving at all, I just wouldn't want to be responsible for someone else's children. If only everyone else were as good a driver as I am, then none of us would have to worry about insurance either.

It's pretty normal for a lot of people nowadays that they won't carry other people's children in their cars, not because of their own driving ability, but because of the responsibility of carrying other people's children.

weldoninhio · 05-07-2015 02:43AM

One eyed Jack wrote: »

It's not that I'd be worrying about my driving at all, I just wouldn't want to be responsible for someone else's children. If only everyone else were as good a driver as I am, then none of us would have to worry about insurance either.

It's pretty normal for a lot of people nowadays that they won't carry other people's children in their cars, not because of their own driving ability, but because of the responsibility of carrying other people's children.

So would you not allow your child's friends/relatives into your house/garden, since they'd be your responsibility there??

Bongalongherb · 05-07-2015 02:45AM

weldoninhio wrote: »

I'm not sure if want to get in the car with some of the loopers in this thread!! You wouldn't let a child in your car, niece, nephew, family friend?? If you are so worried about crashing perhaps you shouldn't be driving.

No. It's just babies and young children. It's just a no-go scenario.

That's great it starts with an earthquake, birds and snakes and aeroplanes.. the world will never be the same.

And speaking about Loopers ? welcome to the thread, and the end of the world because a person is taking the cautious route....

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u4HjlkKw6do

One eyed Jack · 05-07-2015 02:52AM

weldoninhio wrote: »

So would you not allow your child's friends/relatives into your house/garden, since they'd be your responsibility there??

Huh?

Those are completely different scenarios from carrying a stranger's child in my car. That's what the OP is talking about.

weldoninhio · 05-07-2015 03:23AM

One eyed Jack wrote: »

Huh?

Those are completely different scenarios from carrying a stranger's child in my car. That's what the OP is talking about.

Her friends cousin. Hardly picking a stranger up off the street. If her friend called to her house with the young cousin, would she refuse them entry??

osarusan · 05-07-2015 08:48AM

As the person who was driving, perhaps you have a right to be annoyed that no one bothered to tell you about the extra child who had been invited to the cinema.

But, unless it's fairly well known that you are worried about having people you don't know in your car and being responsible for them, maybe no one thought it was all that important to actually let you know in advance.

blade1 · 05-07-2015 09:07AM

Poor Sarah, not only being bullied at school but also being victimised on a trip to the cinema.

One eyed Jack · 05-07-2015 09:38AM

weldoninhio wrote: »

Her friends cousin. Hardly picking a stranger up off the street. If her friend called to her house with the young cousin, would she refuse them entry??

Again, that's a completely different scenario. Why can't you just work with what actually happened, as opposed to just going off on tangents arguing something else entirely?

05-07-2015 09:43AM

I've not seen anyone actually explain what possible problem there is here, and I'm very confused.

05-07-2015 09:47AM

Deleted User wrote: »

I've not seen anyone actually explain what possible problem there is here, and I'm very confused.

I think the OP objected to the imposition of a responsibility she didn't ask for.

And many posters are saying that it was no big imposition, she was carrying a child in the car anyway.

faceman · 05-07-2015 09:54AM

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Bm3pu7HCocM

kylith · 05-07-2015 09:59AM

Bongalongherb wrote: »

Can you clarify this comment above ? not sure what it's exact meaning is.

The kid is being bullied and had been offered a nice day out. The OP didn't want them there in case they crashed, despite the fact that they were perfectly happy to so risk the lives of their friend and their friend's sister. How do you think the little wan would have felt being refused? 'You can't come in case there's an accident.' 'But you're bringing them.' 'Yeah, but I don't know you.'

If you're happy to bring two people but not a third then unless the third person is disruptive or dangerous I don't see any good reason for refusing them, so doing so would be a bit dickish, don't you think?

mackeire · 05-07-2015 10:32AM

So there's a child being bullied in school. Her mother sees a chance for her to feel good about herself with a trip to the cinema with her friend and her little cousin.

The mother doesn't know the driver but reckons that they are ok since they are friends with her friend.

As the car pulls away, the mother with tears in her eyes says "god I hope Sarah's ok, she's being bullied in school and deserves a nice day out with her little friend".

But she's a bit worried because she saw the driver give a strange look when he found out that Sarah is going to the cinema with them.

The mother decides that she will go onto after hours to see if she was right to be worried about this narkey teenage driver, but to her surprise, there's already a thread from the teenage driver giving out about having to bring her child to the cinema!!
"Why does everybody hate Sarah" she exclaims with her heart racing and eyes welling up, "she's just a child who wanted to go see the new kids film and now there's a post on the internet about it".

Poor Sarah just can't catch a break!!

Moral of the story: don't be such a selfish bastard and try look at things from other peoples point of view! Yes you were nervous driving the car, but get over yourself, you're driving for two years!!

scrimshanker · 05-07-2015 10:32AM

Id be more concerned that there's no mention of child seats for the 8 year old. The 10 year old is probably big enough to not need one...

Let's get this straight, OP. You pull up, the child is introduced, you're made aware that she's being bullied and your reaction is to shoot a look? Have a think about that... I sincerely hope the girl was totally oblivious.

You're only 18, so I'll cut you some slack. You reacted very immaturely. What a reasonable adult would do when a child is foisted on them with no warning (but without any real cause for concern) is to be friendly and welcoming to the kid, take an interest in them, be nice. Then LATER, when the child is nowhere near and can't overhear or pick up on the vibes I'm sure you gave off, say it to the adult responsible that you were surprised to see another child, you weren't totally comfortable with it and would have appreciated warning etc.

You can't help how you feel (personally I think you're getting your knickers in a twist over nothing, she is your friends cousin and I'm sure the trip was cleared with the girl's parents) but you can help how you react. Don't be a dick with kids around in future.

folamh · 05-07-2015 11:30AM

Of course boardsies jump at the chance to disparage this user at length over trivial bullsh*t (this thread must have the most pages on the front page right now?). But y'all would be singing a different tune if this was a story about a carcrash with a stranger child in the car.

Sheep Lover · 05-07-2015 11:34AM

Fair play OP. That's the longest post I've ever seen that says absolutely nothing. Just a wee story about your trip to the cinema.

DeadHand · 05-07-2015 11:43AM

Young men are wretched feminised cowards these days.

DeadHand · 05-07-2015 11:55AM

folamh wrote: »

But y'all would be singing a different tune if this was a story about a carcrash with a stranger child in the car.

Yes, but it isn't.

If humanity operated on the principle of "we best not embark on this enterprise lest someone somewhere be hurt" we'd still be living in trees.

MadDog76 · 05-07-2015 12:49PM

ALiasEX · 05-07-2015 02:13PM

She wouldn't have been in your car if you had tied her to the roof.

weldoninhio · 05-07-2015 02:19PM

folamh wrote: »

Of course boardsies jump at the chance to disparage this user at length over trivial bullsh*t (this thread must have the most pages on the front page right now?). But y'all would be singing a different tune if this was a story about a carcrash with a stranger child in the car.

Yeah, you can't move for the threads in here after a car crash trying to find out if all affected passengers were well known to the driver. Absolutely ridiculous post. One of the most ridiculous I've ever seen in here.

corner of hells · 05-07-2015 03:00PM

Has anyone heard from the OP ? I'm just a bit worried .

super_furry · 05-07-2015 03:05PM

U ok hun?

Diamond Doll · 05-07-2015 03:06PM

By the way the thread title is totally misleading - you make it sound like the child was allowed into your car without your permission or knowledge.

As the driver, you're the responsible person here. If you weren't comfortable with the situation, you shouldn't have started the ignition. Same as (for example) if you've a young passenger refusing to wear a seatbelt, or a drunk passenger purposely distracting your attention while driving, it's your responsibility to decide whether or not to continue with the journey. No good trying to avoid the blame if something goes wrong.

Anyways I think it was a complete overreaction on your part.

Child I dont know in my car- Do i have the right to be annoyed?

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