Child I dont know in my car- Do i have the right to be annoyed?

K4t · 04-07-2015 10:37PM

You do have the right to be annoyed, but you'd be rather pathetic to exert it - I'd also be asking serious questions about your driving ability, as you yourself have already done by posing this quandary.

What reg is your car and where do you live so I can try and avoid you if we're close by>?

volchitsa · 04-07-2015 10:38PM

IrishLoriii wrote: »

Hi all,
Im 18 and just got my full license. Last Thursday my friend was minding her little sister who is 8 and wanted something to do- the sister burns easily in the sun so we decided to go to the cinema to see that new kids film. I said Id drive in because we live pretty rural so it was easier for us all and Ive been doing it for the last 20 months anyway (driving). I was going to suggest her sister bringing a friend but thought against it because I wouldnt really be comfortable with another person who I dont know's child in my car. I arrived at the house and out walked my friend her little sister and one of their cousins who is 10. My friend just said ''Sarahs coming'' and smiled and they all got in the car. I was a bit annoyed and I did throw a look because I wasnt asked if it was ok or anything at the end of the day I was the driver. We arrived in and my friend explained that Sarah is being bullied so her mam decided to invite her along to the cinema with us. I made a point of saying that I didnt feel that comfortable having her in the car but she brushed it off...anyway I was talking to my sister about this and she said im right. Sarah is a lovely child and all but I have met her once before and if anything happened in the car its my responsibility..Ive been really annoyed since then but do I have the right to be or whats your opinion on having peoples kids you dont really know in the car??

18 you say? :eek:
I predict that by the time you are 30 you will look back on this thread and shudder with embarrassment. Either that or you will be a mental case.

For your sake, I hope it's the former.

Good luck OP, you have a lot to work on.

The Backwards Man · 04-07-2015 10:42PM

I know exactly where you're coming from! I hate having people I don't know in the car too. Do what I do, tell them to fcuk off and buy a car of their own.

Sunnyisland · 04-07-2015 10:53PM

I thought you caught someone trying to steal your car op,
Make up some sort of club for your car and then insist its members only, you can even get doormen ha ha ha

Sunnyisland · 04-07-2015 10:53PM

Goodnight...

04-07-2015 11:00PM

Sir Osis of Liver. wrote: »

If it happens again,challenge the child to a fist-fight in the style of Victorian Gentlemen.

That should sort it once and for all.

Marquees de Queensbury Rules, my good man?

Deank · 04-07-2015 11:02PM

IrishLoriii wrote: »

Hi all,
Im 18 and just got my full license. Last Thursday my friend was minding her little sister who is 8 and wanted something to do- the sister burns easily in the sun so we decided to go to the cinema to see that new kids film. I said Id drive in because we live pretty rural so it was easier for us all and Ive been doing it for the last 20 months anyway (driving). I was going to suggest her sister bringing a friend but thought against it because I wouldnt really be comfortable with another person who I dont know's child in my car. I arrived at the house and out walked my friend her little sister and one of their cousins who is 10. My friend just said ''Sarahs coming'' and smiled and they all got in the car. I was a bit annoyed and I did throw a look because I wasnt asked if it was ok or anything at the end of the day I was the driver. We arrived in and my friend explained that Sarah is being bullied so her mam decided to invite her along to the cinema with us. I made a point of saying that I didnt feel that comfortable having her in the car but she brushed it off...anyway I was talking to my sister about this and she said im right. Sarah is a lovely child and all but I have met her once before and if anything happened in the car its my responsibility..Ive been really annoyed since then but do I have the right to be or whats your opinion on having peoples kids you dont really know in the car??

My eyes hurt

OneOfThem · 04-07-2015 11:03PM

You're being a big fvcking Jessie.

efb · 04-07-2015 11:06PM

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zNgcYGgtf8M

Yeah the opposite of this, wait... the op probably doesn't want the strange child in her dreams either...

efb · 04-07-2015 11:08PM

Blazer wrote: »

It probably wouldn't bother me but I'm been driving over 10 years but if I was in your shoes starting out driving again I'd probably be very hesitant about letting other children into my car. Not sure on the rule about booster seats/cushions etc but all that comes into play. If something happened it would be your responsibility at the end of the day. Remember..it's your car, you're the driver and the final decision rests with you. If something goes wrong there's no point blaming your friend etc as you made the final decision. If you're comfortable with that then it's fine, if not talk to your friend and explain why it won't happen again.

PS...forgot this was after hours so better off posting or moving this to the motors forum. Otherwise as seen above

Motors forum:

I spend all day polishing it and I was gonna do laps of Tesco carpark with the lads...

Massimo Cassagrande · 04-07-2015 11:11PM

Did the "Stranger child" at least stump up for petrol money OP?

Deank · 04-07-2015 11:20PM

efb wrote: »

Motors forum:

I spend all day polishing it and I was gonna do laps of Tesco carpark with the lads...

Spit roast for 3, bet you were twitching with anticipation.

04-07-2015 11:20PM

You are quite right. Now that you're 18 you must not allow yourself to be near anybody under that age unless they are related by blood or you are dating their mother.

efb · 04-07-2015 11:21PM

Deank wrote: »

Spit roast for 3, bet you were twitching with anticipation.

foggy_lad · 04-07-2015 11:23PM

IrishLoriii wrote: »

Hi all,
Im 18 and just got my full license. Last Thursday my friend was minding her little sister who is 8 and wanted something to do- the sister burns easily in the sun so we decided to go to the cinema to see that new kids film. I said Id drive in because we live pretty rural so it was easier for us all and Ive been doing it for the last 20 months anyway (driving). I was going to suggest her sister bringing a friend but thought against it because I wouldnt really be comfortable with another person who I dont know's child in my car. I arrived at the house and out walked my friend her little sister and one of their cousins who is 10. My friend just said ''Sarahs coming'' and smiled and they all got in the car. I was a bit annoyed and I did throw a look because I wasnt asked if it was ok or anything at the end of the day I was the driver. We arrived in and my friend explained that Sarah is being bullied so her mam decided to invite her along to the cinema with us. I made a point of saying that I didnt feel that comfortable having her in the car but she brushed it off...anyway I was talking to my sister about this and she said im right. Sarah is a lovely child and all but I have met her once before and if anything happened in the car its my responsibility..Ive been really annoyed since then but do I have the right to be or whats your opinion on having peoples kids you dont really know in the car??

And Breath!

seriously I understand your concern but at the end of the day if we were to worry about what might never happen and let such things rule our lives we would never learn to drive in the first place and would certainly never ever do anything as risky as going outside or to a cinema where there might be other people in case they might maybe sneeze on you.

as for having responsibility for an extra 8 year old, your 18 so should be mature enough to handle any situation that might arise or else you probably are not mature enough to drive or look after even one child.

Deank · 04-07-2015 11:25PM

efb wrote: »

Whut?

Sir Osis of Liver. · 04-07-2015 11:25PM

Deleted User wrote: »

Marquees de Queensbury Rules, my good man?

By jingo,anything else wouldn't be cricket old boy.

Call Me Jimmy · 04-07-2015 11:27PM

Ah a slightly better quality trolling is like a breath of fresh air

Bongalongherb · 04-07-2015 11:29PM

Don't worry about it OP, I have a policy from the last 8 years that no children are allowed in my car (It's my own private policy) ever. I would never allow kids in my car because if some asshole hit me on my travels then I would never be able to live with it if said children were injured or worse.

A person of which has their full drivers licence and feels good and safe at all times is all nice and dandy, but the lone-wolf or drunk can come out of nowhere and decimate a driver in seconds. Maybe my forced policy by myself is a bit over the top, but I never allow my niece or any kids in my car. It's just me and an adult friend. I can trust myself with getting them there safely, but I cannot put my faith in other drivers out there.

Many electrons flow correctly to their destination, but the odd-one takes a different path, and as such can fcuk it all up.

jimgoose · 04-07-2015 11:39PM

Just drive the damn car and leave the Drama Llama at home.

Bongalongherb · 04-07-2015 11:47PM

Get that fcuking sounds going man, while your driving along on your tod with no screamers in the car, just whistle to the road........................................

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RAO-3ORSly8

Custardpi · 04-07-2015 11:55PM

Yeah, this sort of situation can be awkward alright. Thankfully there's a simple solution. Get one of your other mates to start a rumour that you're a paedophile. That way nobody else will want you to chauffeur their children. Problem solved!

Xaracatz · 05-07-2015 12:11AM

Bongalongherb wrote: »

Don't worry about it OP, I have a policy from the last 8 years that no children are allowed in my car (It's my own private policy) ever. I would never allow kids in my car because if some asshole hit me on my travels then I would never be able to live with it if said children were injured or worse.

A person of which has their full drivers licence and feels good and safe at all times is all nice and dandy, but the lone-wolf or drunk can come out of nowhere and decimate a driver in seconds. Maybe my forced policy by myself is a bit over the top, but I never allow my niece or any kids in my car. It's just me and an adult friend. I can trust myself with getting them there safely, but I cannot put my faith in other drivers out there.

Many electrons flow correctly to their destination, but the odd-one takes a different path, and as such can fcuk it all up.

What if you refused to bring a child in your car and they got hit by an oddly travelling electron while standing by the side of the road wondering why you didn't like them?

Seriously though - that's a very peculiar policy.

Bongalongherb · 05-07-2015 12:23AM

Xaracatz wrote: »

What if you refused to bring a child in your car and they got hit by an oddly travelling electron while standing by the side of the road wondering why you didn't like them?

Seriously though - that's a very peculiar policy.

A peculiar policy in the mind of each individual it would be. I just never allow kids in my car, ever.

Not sure what your meaning is in the above bold. An oddly travelling electron akin to an oddly out of phase driver either drunk or drugged up flowing across the road into me with kids in the car is not in my liking.

Maybe it's just me, but I will not chance it and then have to deal with it. One less hassle for me. If you don't allow it, this scenario cannot happen. Maybe I'm just too cautious, but cautiousness is a good tool to have imo.

And the added hassle of getting the kids to clean the car after their sweet rappers and paper bags stuck to the back seats. Maybe that's a good idea ? give them a lift and then have them clean my car... why didn't I think of that ? great idea. That was a bright light-bulb.

Robsweezie · 05-07-2015 12:27AM

plot twist: sarah is the spawn of satan and you're right to be uncomfortable

Bongalongherb · 05-07-2015 12:38AM

OP let them get the bus Ie. public transport, it will be easier on your mind and less hassle. My excuse is... My car broke down a few days ago so you're out of luck I'm afraid. While later on I drive down to the ring of Kerry for the weekend with the telescope and binoculars and two trays of beers camping on the mountains with amazing euphoria.

Rosie Rant · 05-07-2015 12:49AM

I get why you would be annoyed. You don't know Sarah and you don't know if her parents would even be OK with letting her go off in a car with a virtual stranger. I just hope Sarah didn't hear you saying that you were annoyed that she was there. It isn't very nice to hear you're not completely welcome, especially when you're already being bullied and are feeling insecure.

Xaracatz · 05-07-2015 01:12AM

Bongalongherb wrote: »

A peculiar policy in the mind of each individual it would be. I just never allow kids in my car, ever.

Not sure what your meaning is in the above bold. An oddly travelling electron akin to an oddly out of phase driver either drunk or drugged up flowing across the road into me with kids in the car is not in my liking.

Maybe it's just me, but I will not chance it and then have to deal with it. One less hassle for me. If you don't allow it, this scenario cannot happen. Maybe I'm just too cautious, but cautiousness is a good tool to have imo.

And the added hassle of getting the kids to clean the car after their sweet rappers and paper bags stuck to the back seats. Maybe that's a good idea ? give them a lift and then have them clean my car... why didn't I think of that ? great idea. That was a bright light-bulb.

My meaning is that you can't predict or prevent a random occurance happening - whether it's in your car or not. If a child gets injured in your car, you may feel responsible. If a child gets injured because you would not let him/her in your car, should you not feel equally responsible?

One eyed Jack · 05-07-2015 01:13AM

IrishLoriii wrote: »

Ive been really annoyed since then but do I have the right to be or whats your opinion on having peoples kids you dont really know in the car??

Congratulations OP on getting your full license anyway first off. Secondly though, there's not much point in getting annoyed about something you can't change now. It's done.

I wouldn't carry my child's friends in the car because I don't want that responsibility on my shoulders. It's nothing against the children themselves, it's just not something I would be prepared to do. I'm really not sure what's with all the snarky responses here tbh, they're a bit much.

Bongalongherb · 05-07-2015 01:31AM

Xaracatz wrote: »

My meaning is that you can't predict or prevent a random occurance happening - whether it's in your car or not. If a child gets injured in your car, you may feel responsible. If a child gets injured because you would not let him/her in your car, should you not feel equally responsible?

You can by not allowing it in the first place.

A child cannot get injured in my car because they will never be in my car, and as such I will never be responsible.

If a child gets injured because you would not let him/her in your car, should you not feel equally responsible

Why would I let black-eyed children in my car ? Huh, do you really think I am going to stop for them ? Not a fcuking chance, i'LL BE GONE IN A FLASH.

Those kids with the black eyes are frightening, I don't want anything to do with them.

Child I dont know in my car- Do i have the right to be annoyed?

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