Partner being chatted up

Menas · 01-07-2015 11:39AM

Rogelio Screeching Mushroom wrote: »

Online, at least. I'd say some of the tough man spoofers in this thread would cack themselves at the prospect of defending their ladies' honour.

I would say most of those ladies would be mortified at the prospect of their 'man' trying to protect them in such a situation!

not yet · 01-07-2015 11:40AM

PizzamanIRL wrote: »

Burn your partners hair off to reduce the amount of people approaching her?

Whats that smell....

Ah, must be a spit roast !!!

Areyouwell · 01-07-2015 11:42AM

Rogelio Screeching Mushroom wrote: »

Online, at least. I'd say some of the tough man spoofers in this thread would cack themselves at the prospect of defending their ladies' honour.

I call it keyboadanitis - a condition were some males develop Clint Eastwoodesque toughness, combined with the physical size & strength of the Mountain from The Game of Thrones and all while using the keyboard.:pac:

Greenmachine · 01-07-2015 12:01PM

Some guys really can't take a hint. Remember one guy trying to chat my OH up right in front of me. I eventually just said to him "If you keep it up, you'll get your hole alright, and ask if he had ever been ridden by a guy"

Medusa22 · 01-07-2015 12:02PM

I find that taking off my stiletto heel and stabbing them with it does the trick. Ah it happens to myself and my partner every once in a while, because we're both women I usually give the fella the benefit of the doubt at first, sometimes they genuinely think that we are just friends and they don't realise that we're a couple and then we just try to subtly show him that we are together and they usually get the message and leave. That makes us laugh then, well I feel a bit sorry for the men that come over in those situations because I think they're a bit embarrassed when they realise. I don't mind men smiling or looking over if we are being affectionate either, when someone is hitting on my partner usually she makes polite conversation first but if she sees that it is heading somewhere then she usually tells them that we're together. I do get annoyed if then the fella doesn't take the hint and still insists on asking her out or we have had men say things like 'ah well, you can come along too, we can all go out together' and I'm like ah great, thanks, what a wonderful offer :pac:

OldGoat · 01-07-2015 12:07PM

Medusa22 wrote: »

... then we just try to subtly show him... I do get annoyed if then the fella doesn't take the hint

We don't understand 'subtle'. Nahaa, never have and never will. Being subtle with a man is a total waste of every ones time.

Public_Enema · 01-07-2015 12:11PM

Massimo Cassagrande wrote: »

"Fcuk off now, good lad.." would be my general response. I'm quite large, so generally the hint is taken quite quickly.

So you're probably really five foot two and afflicted with little man syndrome..:pac:

NachoBusiness · 01-07-2015 12:19PM

Medusa22 wrote: »

..we just try to subtly show him that we are together..

OldGoat wrote: »

We don't understand 'subtle'. Nahaa, never have and never will. Being subtle with a man is a total waste of every ones time.

If two women subtly tried to show me they were together.. my inebriated mind would think:

'They want me to come and watch them have sex in their penthouse apartment. Thank you God, thank you so much!'.

01-07-2015 12:20PM

Rough Sleeper wrote: »

Good way to needlessly escalate the situation and start a fight for absolutely no good reason. i'll use this in future along with classics like "What are you looking at," "So I'm nothing then?!" and "That's my pint." Variety is the spice of life.

The question was "being chatted up". If someone is just talking etc to a gf that's fair enough and it doesn't bother me at all but its fairly obviously looking at someone what their intentions are particularly if they are very close or leaning in, hands starting to stray etc.

I have no issue telling someone to fu*k off and fast if they are making a nuisance of themselves.

zl1whqvjs75cdy · 01-07-2015 12:22PM

Smash 'em straight in the ****ing bonce innit? ****ing mug.

Medusa22 · 01-07-2015 12:28PM

OldGoat wrote: »

We don't understand 'subtle'. Nahaa, never have and never will. Being subtle with a man is a total waste of every ones time.

NachoBusiness wrote: »

If two women subtly tried to show me they were together.. my inebriated mind would think:

'They want me to come and watch them have sex in their penthouse apartment. Thank you God, thank you so much!'.

Well it helps to have some insight into the male pysche. Now I wonder if we're just giving them encouragement. Good to know anyway

Rough Sleeper · 01-07-2015 12:59PM

Deleted User wrote: »

Are people not allowed to talk to other people any more without getting threats of violence?

Absolutely not. Having a member of the opposite sex engage in conversation with your partner is the ultimate in social slights and failure to react aggressively will result in the official designation of social hierarchy on your passport being downgraded from alpha to beta, possibly even gamma. When faced with such an affront, you should urinate on the ground in front of them and bellow at the top of the lungs while performing a war dance, till your rival drops their gaze and presents their back to their male superior.

Posturing and pointless aggression is what separates the human race from base beasts. Leave reason and diplomacy to the rest of the animals.

Mesrine65 · 01-07-2015 12:59PM

I walk up, introduce myself & say, 'I see your already acquainted with the OH, how's it going?'

inforfun · 01-07-2015 01:11PM

Chat away. If the gf is fed up with it, she knows how to finish the conversation herself.

Dont try to touch though. Just don't.

Rosie Rant · 01-07-2015 01:12PM

I usually just put my hand on his a$$ and raise my eyebrow at her or growl and give her my famous evil-eyed death stare

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cajonlardo · 01-07-2015 01:17PM

My wife and I were at one of her company's parties. This lad asked her to dance and neither of us thought anything about that.
As the night went on yer man kept coming back and asking her to dance again. I think she danced with him maybe 3 times but cut the last one short when he put his hands on her waist.She declined a couple of times but he kept coming back.Her boss even told the lad that she was married to me and had a family.Later on there was no spare chairs so she was sitting on my lap and I swear he put his hand on her bare shoulder and asked her to dance. I just caught his sleeve and had a word in his ear. Told him that was enough and to let it go. Better that I spoke to him than if my wife did, she might have put it a bit blunter. I'd say the whole episode was just uncomfortable and spoiled a good night.

There was a room full of attractive women and plenty of them single. I've no idea what this lad thought a dance would lead to but there are some strange people knocking around. Wouldn't resort to hitting him.Even though if it might have woke the dozy git up a bit.

Potatoeman · 01-07-2015 01:25PM

What are they going to do, steal her?

hynesie08 · 01-07-2015 01:34PM

So, what i gathered from some in this thread is that if another man comes within 50 feet of the girl you're with you must immediately establish dominance because the women are apparently incapable of telling someone to get lost.

Either you lads know some wallflowers or you need some serious therapy.

Shemale · 01-07-2015 01:38PM

People saying violence isn't the answer sometimes it is.

In my example the guy saw me with my date and then as soon as I left her alone he was trying it on.

My wife was out and this fella came over she was nice and told him a few times she was married, he kept trying it on and tried to steal a kiss saying your husband isn't here. She eventually said if you don't **** off now I will ring my husband, he will be here in 5 minutes and you will be in a whole load of trouble. Guess what happened? He ****ed off.

Agricola · 01-07-2015 01:42PM

Best option is just to channel Begbie from Trainspotting. "SEE YOU, AYE YOU......... YOU CHATTIN' UP MY BIRD SON? :mad: "

Kirby · 01-07-2015 01:43PM

Shemale wrote: »

Guess what happened? He ****ed off.

If you had told him your username, odds are he would have done that a lot sooner.

PARlance · 01-07-2015 02:04PM

Looks like it's just myself that gives the other guy a chance by sneaking off to another pub...

One eyed Jack · 01-07-2015 02:10PM

It's never bothered me at all tbh, my wife is an adult, capable of handling her own business. I don't feel any particular reason to intervene if a guy or girl is just chatting her up or whatever.

I'll never forget the time we were in Corfu though. We were in the club and I went to the bathroom, and as I came out of the bathroom, my wife was trying to sink back into the couch to get away from one of the locals who was nibbling the ear off her. I was weak laughing at the sight of it, it was like the cat that tries to get away from the clutches of Pepe LePew

My wife gets a little tetchy alright if we're out with her friends and they're being a bit overly familiar with me, I can handle myself alright, and that's exactly what she's afraid of :pac:

Seriously though, no, it's understandable when one of her friends tried to latch on to me one night in the club to kiss me and I'd to physically push her off me, there's harmless intent and then there's just being malicious. Her friend was being malicious and likes to be a bit of a drama queen. No need for that sort of thing.

Most men are equally harmless, no need to get het up about it.

crockholm · 01-07-2015 02:17PM

Could always ask the 2 of them if they are up for the 4-balling.Complete with the post-coitus high five.

MissFlitworth · 01-07-2015 02:26PM

Stalk up to her, push her on the ground, possibly a swift tug on the hair/hair extensions or an open handed slap. Then snotty, bawling crying in my boyfriends face, accusations of not caring aplenty, few hard jabs in the chest, possibly lash my gin in his face (depending on how expensive it was. He's not getting a free Hendricks facial) then stalk off into the night. If he doesn't follow me home in 10ish minutes I start destroying his electronics & flushing his lego.

Don't understand why people get so pissed at someone trying to chat up or talk to their partner, to get said partner you had to do the same thing and unless they're physically trying to unzip and mount them what's the big deal

razorblunt · 01-07-2015 02:33PM

cajonlardo wrote: »

My wife and I were at one of her company's parties. This lad asked her to dance and neither of us thought anything about that.
As the night went on yer man kept coming back and asking her to dance again. I think she danced with him maybe 3 times but cut the last one short when he put his hands on her waist.She declined a couple of times but he kept coming back.Her boss even told the lad that she was married to me and had a family.Later on there was no spare chairs so she was sitting on my lap and I swear he put his hand on her bare shoulder and asked her to dance. I just caught his sleeve and had a word in his ear. Told him that was enough and to let it go. Better that I spoke to him than if my wife did, she might have put it a bit blunter. I'd say the whole episode was just uncomfortable and spoiled a good night.

There was a room full of attractive women and plenty of them single. I've no idea what this lad thought a dance would lead to but there are some strange people knocking around. Wouldn't resort to hitting him.Even though if it might have woke the dozy git up a bit.

You'd never think it would happen at work but it does!
My OH started a new job and there was a summer BBQ organised for a few weeks later.
Each department takes turns organising and it her team's turn. Her boss was just having a chat with her one day and casually mentioned "I never knew your partner worked here". She corrected him on it and he told her some lad from another team had put her down as a +1. Looking back she said she barely had spoken to the guy, though in hindsight he did tend to go to the printer alot which her desk was next to and have general chit chat.

Her boss had to informally have a chat with him and his own boss about it, he had done something similar for a work event earlier that year.

01-07-2015 02:35PM

Shemale wrote: »

People saying violence isn't the answer sometimes it is.

In my example the guy saw me with my date and then as soon as I left her alone he was trying it on.

My wife was out and this fella came over she was nice and told him a few times she was married, he kept trying it on and tried to steal a kiss saying your husband isn't here. She eventually said if you don't **** off now I will ring my husband, he will be here in 5 minutes and you will be in a whole load of trouble. Guess what happened? He ****ed off.

It's sad they'll only accept a no from another man, not from the woman

zeffabelli · 01-07-2015 03:49PM

bluewolf wrote: »

It's sad they'll only accept a no from another man, not from the woman

Yes they do, it's just that women wont come out and say "I am not interested in you, you bore me."

Instead they come out with some **** about their husbands and play right into to this assumption of property.....

Sunnyisland · 01-07-2015 04:12PM

When I was drinking I was a possessive jealous bloke , now I am just a sober one :-)

Irishcrx · 01-07-2015 04:49PM

Majority of Irish people are actually horribly bad at dealing with people and situations without getting super aggro super quickly.

To me , it's not a huge deal if a guy is chatting to my girlfriend unless he's being inappropriate , I trust her so I wouldn't intervine unles she wanted me to, gave me a look etc.

And at that it doesn't have to be 'Hands off my bird' ' Here YOU!' or 'I'll bleedin batter ya'...shockingly most lads are grand with ' Sorry buddy , she's spoken for ' bit of a nod...bit of humour involved and generally it's all gravy...they probably didn't know she had a boyfriend so take it easy lads.

Partner being chatted up

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