Partner being chatted up

il gatto · 01-07-2015 08:07AM

So many level headed people here. I'm less so but don't go throwing slaps. I usually just walk back and say hello and look like I'm expecting my missus to introduce him as someone from work or a friend or acquaintance of hers I'd not met. When this doesn't happen, I look at them as if to say "and you're here why?".
Sounds complicated but only takes a few glances, no aggro and the message normally gets across.

GLaDOS · 01-07-2015 08:08AM

Returning to my seat usually makes the situation pretty obvious and they somewhat sheepishly say their goodbyes.

il gatto · 01-07-2015 08:10AM

barneystinson wrote: »

How does one hold a cuck, I wonder?

With a cuckholder, obviously

this is what happens when you become reliant on auto correct and it does nothing to help sometimes.

Shemale · 01-07-2015 08:18AM

Was on a first date with a stunner in a quiet bar where you could see every table, went to the bar , was gone less than a minute to see some fool trying to chat her up.

The table was about 5 foot from an open double door, found the angle, big shoulder and yer man was standing looking down a corridor.

JacquesDeLad · 01-07-2015 08:22AM

PTH2009 wrote: »

So its you and your other half and you go to the bar alone to get drinks and when u go back theres some guy or girl trying to get stuck into your partner. What do u do ??

Theres always pests who try and get stuck into girls who are at hen parties etc. I saw a guy dancing with a girl and he keep dancing behind guys who walked past them mocking them, instant punch in the face if someone tried to get a laugh at my expense.

Dump him/her.

You could do without the hassle as could your partner. If you really get bothered that much by such things.

In my experience it's what you don't see that's the biggest threat, but why get upset about events out of your control? Getting paranoid just makes you the dick.

KungPao · 01-07-2015 08:29AM

Hire a couple of goons to beat him to a bloody pulp.

Menas · 01-07-2015 08:29AM

I would be having words with your partner! A simple 'fcuk off' normally gets rid of someone attempting to chat you up.

Streetwalker · 01-07-2015 08:34AM

Ask him to get his langer out and have a measuring contest. If it's a woman hooters out will be fine.

il gatto · 01-07-2015 08:35AM

Menas wrote: »

I would be having words with your partner! A simple 'fcuk off' normally gets rid of someone attempting to chat you up.

You must be insecure and territorial. Sure the poor lad is only trying to initiate coitus with the love of your life.

razorblunt · 01-07-2015 09:28AM

Massimo Cassagrande wrote: »

"Fcuk off now, good lad.." would be my general response. I'm quite large, so generally the hint is taken quite quickly.

I don't get responses like this. There's no need to to be patronising to the person.
Now had my wife told him that she's married and he still hung around even after it, I'd have no problem with your response.
I'm "quite large" and I've only ever had to use this response once.

The worst scenarios are where, as another post already said, the lad hangs around trying to disguise what he was doing, it gets awkward for everyone!

You'll note I referred to scenarios involving my OH, she's definitely the better half so it happens frequently enough. She used to be a barmaid though so is well able to handle herself with inane chatter.

01-07-2015 09:35AM

Massimo Cassagrande wrote: »

"Fcuk off now, good lad.." would be my general response.

+1 on that none of this nicey nicey crap, "Rev up and f*ck off"!

agent graves · 01-07-2015 09:36AM

id go over to my girlfriend pretending i didn't know her and start hitting on her infront of the guy hitting on her, she is always up for the laugh and would play along..

GLaDOS · 01-07-2015 09:39AM

I assume people advocating an aggressive response would be happy to receive same if they were unknowingly chatting up a taken woman?

Pumpkinseeds · 01-07-2015 09:42AM

I just say I'm married. If that doesn't get the message through then 'fcuk off and die' usually does the trick. So I don't actually need my husband to say anything. On occasion when it's happened as soon as my husband comes back they leave, but mostly he's seen them walking off in a huff while he's at the bar. Anyone who knowingly tries to pick up a married man/woman is a cnut in my opinion. If it's some woman trying to chat up my husband the withering look she gets from me as I approach the table usually moves them on fairly quickly.

PizzamanIRL · 01-07-2015 09:46AM

Junkyard Tom wrote: »

I'm not entirely sure but it would definitely involve fire.

Burn your partners hair off to reduce the amount of people approaching her?

fussyonion · 01-07-2015 09:49AM

It's happened to me and happened recently when we were both down the country for the weekend.

Other half went to the loo and this fella came up and started chatting me up.
I was polite and then he asked where my fella was.
I told him he was in the loo. He said "Oh he's abandoned you!", to which I just smiled.
Then he asked if he could sit down beside me and I told him "No, you're OK".

Other half came back and saw him but he didn't react, just asked if I was alright and was this fella hassling me.

Other fella apologised, shook my fella's hand and walked off.
My other half is a lot more understanding than I would be.
If I saw a girl chatting my fella up, I'd go apesh*t.

Crooked Jack · 01-07-2015 09:49AM

PTH2009 wrote: »

So its you and your other half and you go to the bar alone to get drinks and when u go back theres some guy or girl trying to get stuck into your partner. What do u do ??

Theres always pests who try and get stuck into girls who are at hen parties etc. I saw a guy dancing with a girl and he keep dancing behind guys who walked past them mocking them, instant punch in the face if someone tried to get a laugh at my expense.

Got a couple of issues there, have you buddy?
Tell me, who is it youre really angry at? Is it the guy dancing you want to punch, or is it PTH2009 you really want to punch?

PizzamanIRL · 01-07-2015 09:50AM

If your partner doesn't have a big neon light above their head, saying "I'm taken", then what's the need for an aggressive approach to the person chatting them up?

They have to talk to the person to find out if they're single or not. You should trust your partner to tell them they're taken if the person tries to make an advance.

Menas · 01-07-2015 09:58AM

ScienceNerd wrote: »

I assume people advocating an aggressive response would be happy to receive same if they were unknowingly chatting up a taken woman?

But those advocating an aggressive response are already in relationships and should not be chatting up ANY woman!

mathie · 01-07-2015 09:58AM

I'd just punch him in the face to be sure.

Even if it's the waiter, a work mate, a friend, someone asking for directions.
You can never be too sure.

That chugger saying "Hello!" to your missus as you walk down the street?
Insta-punch.

The woman handing out leaflets on Christianity?
A likely story. She's just trying to hit on my woman.
Down you go God-botherer.

That guy returning my womans handbag that she left behind?
Yeah right.
UFC-style haymaker.

GLaDOS · 01-07-2015 10:02AM

Menas wrote: »

But those advocating an aggressive response are already in relationships and should not be chatting up ANY woman!

I meant when/if they were single

OldGoat · 01-07-2015 10:44AM

I just start weighing up the probability of a threesome.

01-07-2015 10:48AM

Are people not allowed to talk to other people any more without getting threats of violence?

If there's a guy being a dick, I can ask him to leave myself, if he's being nice, then no need to be nasty to him.

I'll chat to anyone who chats to me, unless they're actually trying it on or being sleazy then what harm?

4zn76tysfajdxp · 01-07-2015 10:51AM

Massimo Cassagrande wrote: »

"Fcuk off now, good lad.." would be my general response. I'm quite large, so generally the hint is taken quite quickly.

Yeah, right. :rolleyes: I suppose you'd suggest you "take it outside" as well, eh? Utter spoofery.

Rough Sleeper · 01-07-2015 10:54AM

Brody Deafening Tumor wrote: »

+1 on that none of this nicey nicey crap, "Rev up and f*ck off"!

Good way to needlessly escalate the situation and start a fight for absolutely no good reason. i'll use this in future along with classics like "What are you looking at," "So I'm nothing then?!" and "That's my pint." Variety is the spice of life.

ziggy · 01-07-2015 10:56AM

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Rough Sleeper · 01-07-2015 10:57AM

Massimo Cassagrande wrote: »

"Fcuk off now, good lad.." would be my general response. I'm quite large, so generally the hint is taken quite quickly.

Being stronger than other people is sweet. Sometimes if I'm walking along I'll spit on people's shoes or snatch the food they're eating out of their hands if it looks tasty. They can't do anything about it so it's fine for me to act like a ****ing bellend.

Menas · 01-07-2015 11:00AM

ScienceNerd wrote: »

I meant when/if they were single

Ah yeah, agreed with you there.
Aggression should never come in to it unless someone is trying to chat up someone else who does not want to be chatted up and has politely stated that.

I have a buddy who is a chatter box. Plain and simple. He loves talking to people, stangers, male and female.
But that does come across as 'chatting up' sometimes which gets the wrong kind of reaction. But generally it is not, and should not be a problem.

4zn76tysfajdxp · 01-07-2015 11:02AM

Rough Sleeper wrote: »

Being stronger than other people is sweet. Sometimes if I'm walking along I'll spit on people's shoes or snatch the food they're eating out of their hands if it looks tasty. They can't do anything about it so it's fine for me to act like a ****ing bellend.

Online, at least. I'd say some of the tough man spoofers in this thread would cack themselves at the prospect of defending their ladies' honour.

01-07-2015 11:35AM

TomTheToad wrote: »

All this talk of violence is psychopathic.

I find it erotic. Must give Fight Club another watch tonight.

Pants down, of course.

Partner being chatted up

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