Partner being chatted up

PTH2009 · 01-07-2015 12:25AM #1

So its you and your other half and you go to the bar alone to get drinks and when u go back theres some guy or girl trying to get stuck into your partner. What do u do ??

Theres always pests who try and get stuck into girls who are at hen parties etc. I saw a guy dancing with a girl and he keep dancing behind guys who walked past them mocking them, instant punch in the face if someone tried to get a laugh at my expense.

suicide_circus · 01-07-2015 12:33AM

Usually just run up behind them and hit them with a chair

Cold War Kid · 01-07-2015 12:34AM

Roll them up in a carpet and throw them off a bridge!

Atlantic Dawn · 01-07-2015 12:35AM

If it's a lady and there's no ring on her finger she's on the open market, like a car with a for sale sign.

Not a NSA agent · 01-07-2015 12:36AM

If its a woman, ask her to join us. If a man, probably ignore him.

Del2005 · 01-07-2015 12:36AM

PTH2009 wrote: »

So its you and your other half and you go to the bar alone to get drinks and when u go back theres some guy or girl trying to get stuck into your partner. What do u do ??

Go back to your seat or standing location and start talking to your partner again.

Mr. Incognito · 01-07-2015 12:38AM

I take it as a compliment and save a few quid on the next round.

My missus is gorgeous so happens all the time.

Thankfully i am not an insecure dope that even needs to ask what the appropriate reaction should be

skittles8710 · 01-07-2015 12:43AM

Mr. Incognito wrote: »

i am not an insecure dope

A bit obnoxious and unnecessary though.

Junkyard Tom · 01-07-2015 12:44AM

I'm not entirely sure but it would definitely involve fire.

4zn76tysfajdxp · 01-07-2015 12:46AM

PTH2009 wrote: »

Theres always pests who try and get stuck into girls who are at hen parties etc.

Heh heh heh. Yeah...

wp_rathead · 01-07-2015 12:46AM

Mr. Incognito wrote: »

I take it as a compliment and save a few quid on the next round.

My missus is gorgeous so happens all the time.

Thankfully i am not an insecure dope that even needs to ask what the appropriate reaction should be

Tad OTT there dont you think?

cerastes · 01-07-2015 12:47AM

Mr. Incognito wrote: »

I take it as a compliment and save a few quid on the next round.

My missus is gorgeous so happens all the time.

Thankfully i am not an insecure dope that even needs to ask what the appropriate reaction should be

I wouldnt consider anything along the lines of saving a few quid on drink myself? I wouldnt consider a drink be bought under most circumstances, certainly not that.
I wouldnt be getting all offended myself, but there are some that will persist and be annoying when a situation is clear, either stupidly drunk or maybe waiting to be told enough is enough so they can get offended?

NachoBusiness · 01-07-2015 12:56AM

Throw him into the jukebox.

steddyeddy · 01-07-2015 12:57AM

It's not being an insecure dope wanting to move on some absolute creep hitting on your woman and not taking no for an answer. Plenty of times I was out with girlfriend's and female friends just having the chats and some absolute creep is dancing behind them begging for a kiss. It's not only creepy it's really rude.

darkpagandeath · 01-07-2015 01:08AM

A leather glove to the face and demanding a duel works.

Samaris · 01-07-2015 01:13AM

Hah, if it was me, I'd just wander back over and grin evilly at my partner over her shoulder, because I always find it hilarious.

Tangatagamadda Chaddabinga Bonga Bungo · 01-07-2015 01:51AM

I think it's up to the person who's getting chatted up to say I'm actually here with my partner, we'd rather just be alone together now thanks, bye.

Nothing wrong with a public display of loyalty.

Filmer Paradise · 01-07-2015 03:26AM

Sometimes when we are out, lads chat up Mrs Paradise.

They have good taste, but she always politely declines their advances.

Ruu · 01-07-2015 03:46AM

This would be a fairly accurate scene of the events.

il gatto · 01-07-2015 07:22AM

I wasn't much of one for it when I was single. If you got chatting, fine, but I wouldn't "chat up" random women. So I don't like it when others to it to my missus. Especially if she's clearly with you. That's beyond the pale. I'd get quite thick at that point.
I think the chatee also bears responsibility. If someone is clearly coming on to you, you should end the conversation. Or be very curt with them. Myself and my missus have both got pissed off with each other when someone a bit leery has been chatting to us and we've engaged in the conversation beyond normal politeness.
It's natural. I wouldn't call it sad or insecure.

keithclancy · 01-07-2015 07:33AM

Depends on whether shes uncomfortable or not.

If shes chatting and not uncomfortable then i'd do nothing, if she is uncomfortable then would probably come over and tell him politely to go away.

She'd do the same for me.

In Ireland it's a bit different in bars as it's more aggressive, excessive touching or telling people directly what you think can start a fight.

Plates · 01-07-2015 07:38AM

PTH2009 wrote: »

instant punch in the face if someone tried to get a laugh at my expense.

How does that work, exactly? An "instant" punch? Is it like a reflex action? How often does this happen to you?

il gatto · 01-07-2015 07:42AM

Plates wrote: »

How does that work, exactly? An "instant" punch? Is it like a reflex action? How often does this happen to you?

God no. He means a powdered fruit punch you add water to. A fruity splash to dissuade would be cuckholders. It certainly lets them know who's boss.

01-07-2015 07:46AM

Sheesh, overreactions everywhere.

Other men have approached my wife and started conversations. She hasn't sprang away from them hissing that she belongs to another for she hath undergone the ceremony of marriage. She makes polite conversation back. Then I land back and she politely says this is my husband. The fellows are usually nice and then gradually over the next minute or 2 move along. Some linger for a few minutes as they don't want to make it so obvious that they were chatting up. And life goes on.

Massimo Cassagrande · 01-07-2015 07:47AM

"Fcuk off now, good lad.." would be my general response. I'm quite large, so generally the hint is taken quite quickly.

01-07-2015 07:48AM

PTH2009 wrote: »

So its you and your other half and you go to the bar alone to get drinks and when u go back theres some guy or girl trying to get stuck into your partner. What do u do ??

Theres always pests who try and get stuck into girls who are at hen parties etc. I saw a guy dancing with a girl and he keep dancing behind guys who walked past them mocking them, instant punch in the face if someone tried to get a laugh at my expense.

You get used to it. Nothing to worry about or care about I feel - let alone get violent about. I would treat such a person in exactly the same way as anyone else I, we, or they, happened to strike up a conversation with in a bar. I guess some people feel a display of violence or machoism or some such is required to mark your territory or some animalistic thing. But perhaps nothing says "I am secure and not threatened by you" better than simply not caring or being threatened.

Backstreet Moyes · 01-07-2015 07:49AM

Mr. Incognito wrote: »

I take it as a compliment and save a few quid on the next round.

My missus is gorgeous so happens all the time.

Thankfully i am not an insecure dope that even needs to ask what the appropriate reaction should be

So you are happy saving money and somebody else spending time with your missus on a night out?

Is the point of going out on a night out with her to spend time with her.

She sounds like a lucky girl if you are happy saving money and happy somebody else is entertaining her instead of you.

osarusan · 01-07-2015 07:58AM

I just point out that the long piece of rope tied around her waist ends up in my hands, "so as you can see, she is actually my property."

Once they've seen the rope, that is usually the end of things.

Fishyfreak · 01-07-2015 07:58AM

In fairness, when this happens it's usually because the person approaching is locked out of their head and has spotted someone standing alone. 90% of the time they are probably too pissed to notice that you werewith someone a couple of minutes ago.

Backstreet Moyes · 01-07-2015 08:01AM

PTH2009 wrote: »

So its you and your other half and you go to the bar alone to get drinks and when u go back theres some guy or girl trying to get stuck into your partner. What do u do ??

Theres always pests who try and get stuck into girls who are at hen parties etc. I saw a guy dancing with a girl and he keep dancing behind guys who walked past them mocking them, instant punch in the face if someone tried to get a laugh at my expense.

You do realise when people are out it's usually to try chat up and meet up with people mostly. Now unfortunately for both men and women who are out to meet someone they are not mind readers. So unless someone has a banner saying they are in a relationship then somebody who approaches a person doesn't know if they are in a relationship.

Their are exceptions of some people who are too drunk or just idiots who don't leave it go and deserve a punch. But most just get embarrassed and walk away when they realise the person is with somebody. Men are not out to embarrass you are make you look like an idiot don't be paranoid.

Just out of curiosity how exactly do you approach women because by your logic if you ever approach someone and they are in a relationship you deserve a punch in the face.

In my situation my other half just tells them she is with someone and when i come back they get embarresed and go but their is the odd idiot who doesn't go.

It's not about jealousy if i am out with her then we are out to enjoy each others company. If she had no interest in a guy but had a big conversation while i was their then i would be pissed because we are out together. Likewise she would be the same if it was me striking up a long conversation with a women.

barneystinson · 01-07-2015 08:04AM

il gatto wrote: »

God no. He means a powdered fruit punch you add water to. A fruity splash to dissuade would be cuckholders. It certainly lets them know who's boss.

How does one hold a cuck, I wonder?

Partner being chatted up

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