Gaydar

Adamantium · 15-05-2015 12:45PM

I go out to nightclubs and bars with this in my backpocket; they come at night mostly....mostly.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ziv3c4y_duA

Trond · 15-05-2015 12:48PM

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Mint Aero · 15-05-2015 12:51PM

I'm straight so I don't have any gay friends. Don't have anything against the gays just never had anything in common with them.

15-05-2015 01:28PM

My brother is gay you'd be more likely to get a thump off him than a slap on the arse or anything like that. He's a stereotypical track suit wearing Dublin lad with a bit of a rough accent if I'm being honest. You wouldn't pick him out as gay. I asked him his opinion on the usual gay camp persona we all know and he said it's the most unattractive thing ever. He says that he likes blokes so why would he wanna go out with a high pitched drama queen that calls people 'bitch' and the likes. Makes sense to me. So with him you wouldn't know. With others, you can tell straight away (excuse the pun) with over the top hand gestures and soft voice and that's not generalising, it's always been the case in my experience.

biko · 15-05-2015 01:30PM

I've no gaydar at all. Someone has to be beyond supergay for me to notice.

Polo_Mint · 15-05-2015 01:33PM

MagicMarker wrote: »

I used to think like you OP, then I went to a gay bar and saw a crap load of men I never would have guessed were gay had I seen them elsewhere.

They were looking at you thinking the same thing

Yamanoto · 15-05-2015 01:38PM

Mint Aero wrote: »

Don't have anything against the gays just never had anything in common with them.

It ain't all leather chaps, Mykonos & building the definitive Judy Garland record collection ya know.

'The gays' share pretty much the same interests as anyone else in society, so I'd be fairly sure you've an awful lot in common with millions from all across the world.

jiltloop · 15-05-2015 01:38PM

I think it's safe to say that most people would not have clocked Brendan Behan as gay. Nothing dainty about him.

anvilfour · 15-05-2015 01:39PM

Banjo String wrote: »

Ooooh this thread is just fabulous!

Divine, darling!

anvilfour · 15-05-2015 01:39PM

From looking on the internet for instance I can see that all lesbians are aged 18-25 and mostly Eastern European... :-D

Mint Aero · 15-05-2015 01:40PM

Yamanoto wrote: »

It ain't all leather chaps, Mykonos & building the definitive Judy Garland record collection ya know.

'The gays' share pretty much the same interests as anyone else in society, so I'd be fairly sure you've an awful lot in common with millions from all across the world.

Not with the ones I've met anyways.

rainbowdrop · 15-05-2015 01:41PM

Canis Lupus wrote: »

How hard is it to spot a check shirt and short haircut?

I have long blonde hair, wear make-up and like to dress up! I wouldn't dream of wearing a checked shirt. You would never know I'm lesbian unless I told you........

You probably meet lesbians every day, but assume they are straight because they don't conform to your stereotype of what you think we look like!

anvilfour · 15-05-2015 01:47PM

rainbowdrop wrote: »

I have long blonde hair, wear make-up and like to dress up! I wouldn't dream of wearing a checked shirt. You would never know I'm lesbian unless I told you........

You probably meet lesbians every day, but assume they are straight because they don't conform to your stereotype of what you think we look like!

I am also a heterosexual male who screams girlishly when I stub my toe and loves cooking, self grooming and musicals... Sometimes people including gay men have mistaken me for being gay but we're allowed to be human!

Oh what a beautiful morning, oh what a beautiful gay... :-D

Anita Blow · 15-05-2015 02:00PM

I think it's more confirmatory bias than anything. I wouldn't be outwardly camp or anything and I'm gay. You might walk down the street past 2 lads, one will be camp and conform to the stereotype while the other might look like a regular lad yet may also be gay. The latter's sexuality wouldn't even pop into your head. My experience is that there's more regular gay lads than camp.

15-05-2015 02:05PM

Mint Aero wrote: »

Not with the ones I've met anyways.

Mod

Dude. Stop trollin'.

Fat Christy · 15-05-2015 03:54PM

fortwilliam wrote: »

I have often been confused by the reaction of gay friends when I tell them it is obvious (In 90% of cases) who is gay.

This is not meant as an insult, just an observation, it is plainly clear (in 90% of cases) when you meet someone for the first time and just know he/she is gay..

Why is this taken as a negative, I am told "Don't be stupid, you cannot tell someone is gay just by talking to/ meeting them"

Truth is... yes you can (In 90% of cases)

Do you agree?

In before AH "It's obvious you are gay" etc:pac:

I disagree. Maybe I'm slow but when 2 of my closest friends told me they were gay I nearly fell off the chair in shock. This was on 2 separate occasions, they're not actually friends with each other.

I didn't see it coming at all.

keeponhurling · 15-05-2015 04:44PM

Banjo String wrote: »

Ooooh this thread is just fabulous!

PM sent

Galwayguy35 · 15-05-2015 05:13PM

I'd never have guessed Varadkar was gay, or Ursula Halligan as lesbian.

Fleawuss · 15-05-2015 05:37PM

Sometimes yes sometimes no. It's not as easy spot the religious loons.

strobe · 15-05-2015 05:42PM

Tbh, I've never heard someone was gay, male or female, and not thought "Yeah, no sh1t..", but then again someone's sexuality isn't something that comes up a huge amount, so there could well be a huge number of people that were where I didn't know.

moc moc a moc · 15-05-2015 05:57PM

Agricola wrote: »

Jizz hands and mouth wide open = Gay.

FTFY

One eyed Jack · 15-05-2015 06:26PM

In my experience, more people are surprised to find out I'm actually married, because they had assumed upon meeting me that I was gay! :pac:

It doesn't really bother me at all, I'm used to it by now (except for the time when one girl insisted I had to be gay, I was just in denial :rolleyes: ), but it wouldn't be the first thing would pop into my head upon meeting someone for the first time. I never actually cared whether someone was or wasn't gay or lesbian or bisexual, but people that make their sexuality the be-all and end-all of their identity or their personality are just a head melt.

I never understood the whole "coming out" thing either tbh. I've seen people react badly when they didn't get some sort of a reaction for their "I've got something to tell you", and there's me thinking "What have they done now?". After that, telling me they're lesbian or gay or bisexual just doesn't register all that high on my list of things I give a shít about.

silverfeather · 15-05-2015 07:02PM

When I did drama I met a lot of guys who were 'camp' but were actually straight. I know a lot of feminine lesbians and a lot of 'butch straight girls'.

The drama bug seems to affect body language and likes, just because a guy likes show tunes doesn't mean he is gay.
Everyone thought Mikhail Baryshnikov was gay. Boy were they wrong.

If you see overtime them checking someone out or flirting etc.

Some straight guys when flirting with you actually look to onlookers as camp. The expression of affection or sweetness or whatever is misread.

You also have to take into consideration cultural body language.

I have a friend who is always being mistaken for gay and is 100% straight.

I would never presume anything.

Some of the guys I have been out with have been quite camp. You can't tell.

There are a lot of gay guys just into sports and very 'straight male' orientated activities too.

silverfeather · 15-05-2015 07:21PM

And what if they are Bi?

15-05-2015 07:37PM

fortwilliam wrote: »

Do you agree?

You know of confirmation bias? You think you know 90% or more of the people who are gay because you know the ones where you turn out to be right. You do not know the false hits and negative hits. So numerically you are self selecting the data that makes you think your radar works. Because you are simply oblivious of the data that with falsify it.

You are detecting the ones easy to detect or who want to be detected.

looking_around · 15-05-2015 08:36PM

Mint Aero wrote: »

I'm straight so I don't have any gay friends. Don't have anything against the gays just never had anything in common with them.

What an odd comment.

whats your orientation got to do with your friends orientation?
Or are you only a FWB kinda guy?

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On post, I wouldnt say I can guess if someones gay. Sometimes can, like guessing any other trait

Irish Guitarist · 15-05-2015 08:50PM

You don't need to be a genius to tell that some people are gay.

On the other hand I can never remember which was the gay Kray twin.

silverfeather · 15-05-2015 10:06PM

Anyway a campness on a straight guy can be quite sexy. For years I had a crush on Danny Kaye (straight)....hell no I was in love with that guy...sigh....

It can be a turn on. A tiny wee bit Kenneth Williams. But I sensed he could be nasty...reading his diary i was right ...he was gay though.

Calibos · 15-05-2015 10:22PM

To hammer home the point like others in the thread:

The statistic you have discovered is not that you can spot a Gay man 9 times out of 10. You have discovered the statistic that 9 out of 10 camp acting men are gay.

I'm straight. Camp gay guys make me cringe. Yet paradoxically I myself seem to camp it up when talking to women without even thinking. I can't stop myself, I don't understand why I do it!

I've had people assume I was gay.

silverfeather · 15-05-2015 10:36PM

Calibos wrote: »

To hammer home the point like others in the thread:

The statistic you have discovered is not that you can spot a Gay man 9 times out of 10. You have discovered the statistic that 9 out of 10 camp acting men are gay.

I'm straight. Camp gay guys make me cringe. Yet paradoxically I myself seem to camp it up when talking to women without even thinking. I can't stop myself, I don't understand why I do it! I've had people assume I was gay.

You are mirroring female body language. It's what a lot of people do when they like someone even just as a friend. You mirror their thoughts feelings etc through body language and gestures. Someone tilts their head you do it sympathetically or empathic...with women you are doing it with their body language. Most men are a little more affectionate with women and kids. Think about it you act more like a kid around kids....

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