Gaydar

fortwilliam · 15-05-2015 10:25AM #1

I have often been confused by the reaction of gay friends when I tell them it is obvious (In 90% of cases) who is gay.

This is not meant as an insult, just an observation, it is plainly clear (in 90% of cases) when you meet someone for the first time and just know he/she is gay..

Why is this taken as a negative, I am told "Don't be stupid, you cannot tell someone is gay just by talking to/ meeting them"

Truth is... yes you can (In 90% of cases)

Do you agree?

In before AH "It's obvious you are gay" etc:pac:

Banjo String · 15-05-2015 10:27AM

Ooooh this thread is just fabulous!

Captain Chaos · 15-05-2015 10:28AM

With men. yes it's very clear about 85% of the time.

With women on the other hand for me I find it very hard to tell.

kneemos · 15-05-2015 10:31AM

Captain Chaos wrote: »

With men. yes it's very clear about 85% of the time.

With women on the other hand for me I find it very hard to tell.

Lets not argue about 5%.

gravehold · 15-05-2015 10:31AM

Captain Chaos wrote: »

With men. yes it's very clear about 85% of the time.

With women on the other hand for me I find it very hard to tell.

Gaydar is done by how camp a guy is, it can have lots of false postivies.

I know plenty of straight camp guys, they are annoying as **** but straight.

I am not sure you can tell if someone is definitely from looking at them

Egginacup · 15-05-2015 10:38AM

I can usually tell. Not always though so it's not a given.

I was surprised that the news presenter Anderson Cooper was gay and that aussie celebrity chef Bill Granger was straight, haha.

Stillhouette · 15-05-2015 10:42AM

fortwilliam wrote: »

I have often been confused by the reaction of gay friends when I tell them it is obvious (In 90% of cases) who is gay.

This is not meant as an insult, just an observation, it is plainly clear (in 90% of cases) when you meet someone for the first time and just know he/she is gay..

Why is this taken as a negative, I am told "Don't be stupid, you cannot tell someone is gay just by talking to/ meeting them"

Truth is... yes you can (In 90% of cases)

Do you agree?

In before AH "It's obvious you are gay" etc:pac:

Gay friends of mine sometimes point out who they think is gay and who's in the closet. It is incredibly irritating.

Agricola · 15-05-2015 10:48AM

Jazz hands and mouth wide open = Gay.

Osmosis Jones · 15-05-2015 10:52AM

[Insert McBain picture]

Baron Kurtz · 15-05-2015 10:55AM

Gayface. They may not be gay, but there is always gayface. Examples might be, Louis from One Direction and Zac Effron.

Canis Lupus · 15-05-2015 11:15AM

Captain Chaos wrote: »

With men. yes it's very clear about 85% of the time.

With women on the other hand for me I find it very hard to tell.

How hard is it to spot a check shirt and short haircut?

MagicMarker · 15-05-2015 11:19AM

I used to think like you OP, then I went to a gay bar and saw a crap load of men I never would have guessed were gay had I seen them elsewhere.

Yes, a very camp guy is more than likely gay, but there's plenty of gay men who don't have any of those characteristics you'd expect.

Turtyturd · 15-05-2015 11:33AM

You have campdar OP...more commonly known as the abilty to see.

Yamanoto · 15-05-2015 11:36AM

Egginacup wrote: »

I was surprised that the news presenter Anderson Cooper was gay and that aussie celebrity chef Bill Granger was straight, haha.

I was surprised when Donal Skehan came out as straight!

gravehold · 15-05-2015 11:38AM

Turtyturd wrote: »

You have campdar OP...more commonly known as the abilty to see.

Everyone has campdar, camp people are so of the most obnoxious people to be around so much so you want to get away from them.

Grayson · 15-05-2015 11:39AM

gravehold wrote: »

Gaydar is done by how camp a guy is, it can have lots of false postivies.

I know plenty of straight camp guys, they are annoying as **** but straight.

I am not sure you can tell if someone is definitely from looking at them

One of my best friends camped it up when he came out. He used to always complain about people being too campy and found it annoying. He said that he was kinda picking it up like people pick up a cork accent if they spend too long in Cork.

Then he took it back because being gay in Ireland is far more acceptable than being from cork.

Micky Dolenz · 15-05-2015 11:40AM

When I was younger I could tell. Not so much anymore cos I gave up giving a shyte who likes to sleep with who.

15-05-2015 11:41AM

Where does your 90% come from?

Do you ask every person you meet what their sexuality is? because that's what would be needed for you to come to an accurate conclusion of 90%.

Cheese Wagstaff · 15-05-2015 11:44AM

My own father will call someone either "gay" or "man-gay". "Man-gay" refers to somebody who is gay, but doesn't exhibit the flamboyance of what he would class as a regular all-singing, all-dancing homosexual. For instance, Donal Og Cusack is his prime example of who would be in this category.

God bless him...

kylith · 15-05-2015 11:49AM

I wonder sometimes if gay people get put out by being 'outed' by gaydar. Like a bloke I knew in school; spent years hiding it, wasn't 'Alan Carr Gay', came out to his friends and got told "Yeah, we know". It must be annoying to work up the nerve to tell your nearest and dearest that you're gay and have them just say 'did you only figure that out now? I've known for ages'.

gravehold · 15-05-2015 11:52AM

kylith wrote: »

I wonder sometimes if gay people get put out by being 'outed' by gaydar. Like a bloke I knew in school; spent years hiding it, wasn't 'Alan Carr Gay', came out to his friends and got told "Yeah, we know". It must be annoying to work up the nerve to tell your nearest and dearest that you're gay and have them just say 'did you only figure that out now? I've known for ages'.

In our scholl of you tripped peoples gaydar they told you, so the gay person would know his friends already knew.

kylith · 15-05-2015 11:56AM

gravehold wrote: »

In our scholl of you tripped peoples gaydar they told you, so the gay person would know his friends already knew.

We figured that he'd tell us when he was ready to.

frozenfrozen · 15-05-2015 11:56AM

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Mr_Muffin · 15-05-2015 11:58AM

Obviously not all but i do notice some gay men sometimes have a high pitched/feminine voice. Does anyone know why this is? I always thought it is part of the gay scene/culture kinda thing is this that it?

The Backwards Man · 15-05-2015 12:00PM

I've got a cool statistic.

100% of the time I don't give a monkeys what way your orientated, as long as it's towards paying your bill and keeping your trap shut.

Saipanne · 15-05-2015 12:01PM

I think the "flaming bitchy queen" type of gay man don't do gay men many favours as they're like the negative stereotype associated with gay men and they are clearly more visible than regular gay blokes.

InitiumNovum · 15-05-2015 12:02PM

This thread is very triggering.

keeponhurling · 15-05-2015 12:03PM

Yamanoto wrote: »

I was surprised when Donal Skehan came out as straight!

Has he actually come out yet as straight ?

My straight-dar must be way off

BoJack Horseman · 15-05-2015 12:05PM

Friends are always impressed with my "Blackdar" .

9 times out of 10 I can tell if a guy is black, just by looking at him.

gravehold · 15-05-2015 12:08PM

BoJack Horseman wrote: »

Friends are always impressed with my "Blackdar" .

9 times out of 10 I can tell if a guy is black, just by looking at him.

Those pesky mix race types and albinos throwing you off?

DareGod · 15-05-2015 12:12PM

I've met lots of camp guys who turned out to be straight.
And obviously there are plenty of non-camp guys who are gay.

Other than campness, I have no gaydar.

Gaydar

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