Do you have a temper?

Penny Tration · 12-05-2015 10:20PM

No.

I don't really get angry.

I get sad, though. In situations where I should be angry, I just feel sad and become very quiet and withdrawn.

RayM · 12-05-2015 10:20PM

No, I'm extremely passive. I can't be arsed losing my temper. It's a waste of energy.

Wacker The Attacker · 12-05-2015 10:22PM

i prefer ****

santino · 12-05-2015 10:22PM

beks101 wrote: »

Absolutely. Feck all patience. Banks and taxi companies are the main source of ire.

Agree.
What prompted this was: I was in the bank last week and got bounced around 3 different people/queues for 45 mins for what I thought was a simple query. Still didn't get sorted by the time I left. How I didn't f#ck someone out of it I'll never know.

Then today, got a quote for some repairs to the car. Thought I was being screwed and let the guy know it in the nicest possible way.

I often take the view that there's no point taking it out on people as it might ruin their days, but nowadays, I feel people don't care about the way they treat people (lack of standards/manners) so feeling it's more justified to let people know about it.

Aongus Von Bismarck · 12-05-2015 10:31PM

No, not really. I do have a tendency to be slightly short with people if I'm under pressure, but I wouldn't call it a temper, more a frustration at their stroppy and unhelpful nature.

I do have a finally tuned radar for being able to detect when people are about to lose their temper. This is almost overwhelmingly a valuable trait to possess. I'll admit to occasionally using it to my advantage.

One eyed Jack · 12-05-2015 10:35PM

I don't lose my temper, I get frustrated, I have an unusually high tolerance for other people, so I don't "do" passive aggressive.

In fact, I don't do passive at all, I'll be straight up with someone if they do or say something that pisses me off.

Once I've said my piece though, I don't hold a grudge, I clear the air with the person and we move on. Bitterness never did anyone any good.

RayM · 12-05-2015 10:37PM

Aongus Von Bismarck wrote: »

No, not really. I do have a tendency to be slightly short with people if I'm under pressure, but I wouldn't call it a temper, more a frustration at their stroppy and unhelpful nature.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6NUoiW-0wBc

whupdedo · 12-05-2015 10:38PM

Miall108 wrote: »

Yeh I do a bit. Broke a brush handle off the wifes back yesterday when she burnt the dinner. It ok though, I bought her a new one today as a surprise

Lol domestic violence is fun

eternal · 12-05-2015 10:39PM

I'm pretty quiet and internalise things. I seem to attract a lot of angry people though.

catallus · 12-05-2015 10:41PM

Maybe you just make people angry?

eternal · 12-05-2015 10:42PM

catallus wrote: »

Maybe you just make people angry?

I don't want to make people angry. I hope I don't make people angry.

catallus · 12-05-2015 10:42PM

eternal wrote: »

I don't want to make people angry. I hope I don't make people angry.

The how do you explain all the angry people, Eternal? Answer me that!

anncoates · 12-05-2015 10:42PM

Sometimes. Never losing the plot level obviously but more being a bit irritable with people that get on my nerves. Usually relatively harmless and blows over pretty quickly though.

People that get sanctimonious about other people occasionally losing their temper are a bit insufferable to be honest

12-05-2015 10:43PM

Nim wrote: »

I'm generally calm enough but I still lose it sometimes. Even when I do, I just kick something or raise my voice a little bit, harmless really

Sames, nobody even seems to notice when I'm p!ssed off because all I'll ever do is raise my voice a little. If I've really lost self control, I'll probably throw in an eye roll for good measure.

I'm conscious of a passive-aggressive streak, I try keep it in check as it's not a nice part of my character in any way.

I've only lost it a few times in my whole life though, generally I'm very easygoing.

KatW4 · 12-05-2015 10:48PM

I have a terrible temper. I can be happy one minute and the female Hulk the next minute. I hate it.

Crumpets · 12-05-2015 10:55PM

Nah I'm fairly chilled. Probably a bit too chilled though. Nothing seems to set me off these days. Anger requires energy and all that so y'know...meh

Aongus Von Bismarck · 12-05-2015 10:57PM

Irrational anger isn't something I experience, but I've successful used deep breathing and mindfulness techniques to step back from other difficult emotions. You can then choose to ignore the emotion or to study it with loving kindness.

I'd recommend these mindfulness techniques to those prone to taking things too seriously; or those folk who 'fly off the handle'.

NotYourYear20 · 12-05-2015 10:58PM

santino wrote: »

Do you have a short fuse or can you keep calm?

I have a pretty long fuse so I have no problem in keeping calm.

SparkySpitfire · 12-05-2015 11:10PM

I actually cry when I get really angry with someone, it's really an unfortunate response when I'm trying to get them to take me seriously. Thankfully it doesn't happen very often.

scrimshanker · 12-05-2015 11:13PM

No, not at all when it comes to other people.

I've only ever lost my temper twice. The first time I'd lost a uniform tie (teenager) and I went into a massive rage over it. The second time I don't remember.

If people annoy me I either walk away thinking "prick" or blame myself, then beat myself up about it. All very healthy :rolleyes:

Thespoofer · 12-05-2015 11:14PM

Sometimes have no fuse, I all the time have to think before I go off on one and make myself calm before my emotions come to surface and get the better of me.

I wish I was a little more Vlad and not mad.

retro:electro · 12-05-2015 11:14PM

I'm pretty impatient and that leads to me being irritable. I wish I could be a more patient person. I find I lose my temper most when I'm driving because a lot of stupid idiots have no clue how to drive

12-05-2015 11:16PM

SparkySpitfire wrote: »

I actually cry when I get really angry with someone, it's really an unfortunate response when I'm trying to get them to take me seriously. Thankfully it doesn't happen very often.

Would it be tears of frustration or tears of rage Sparky? If that's not too nosy!

One eyed Jack · 12-05-2015 11:17PM

Aongus Von Bismarck wrote: »

Irrational anger isn't something I experience, but I've successful used deep breathing and mindfulness techniques to step back from other difficult emotions. You can then choose to ignore the emotion or to study it with loving kindness.

I'd recommend these mindfulness techniques to those prone to taking things too seriously; or those folk who 'fly off the handle'.

That's pretty much what I do tbh - bury it down, because sometimes it's not worth it if I express any anger, I only ever tend to feel worse, often times because I either don't want the other person to feel bad, or I know they just won't care.

I tried that whole mindfulness craic actually (my wife swears by it, really helps her the last two years or so), but it honestly didn't do anything for me, I couldn't get into it at all. Works for some people definitely, but not for everyone. Wouldn't be my thing personally.

Satori Rae · 12-05-2015 11:19PM

I am a very angry person >.< only when provoked though o.0

KatW4 · 12-05-2015 11:27PM

SparkySpitfire wrote:

I actually cry when I get really angry with someone, it's really an unfortunate response when I'm trying to get them to take me seriously. Thankfully it doesn't happen very often.

This happens to me too. It makes me look like a baby who can't handle confrontation.

RonanP77 · 12-05-2015 11:30PM

I'm not as bad as I used to be, I've been on medication for three years now and that seems to have helped. Nothing physical has happened in a long time. I still get furious every day of the week but if I sing a little song in my head it passes. It's not my fault though, it's my crazy damaged brain.

lulu1 · 12-05-2015 11:33PM

Very seldom lose my temper but have a friend who actually cries when she loses her temper

jimmytwotimes 2013 · 12-05-2015 11:33PM

RonanP77 wrote: »

I'm not as bad as I used to be, I've been on medication for three years now and that seems to have helped. Nothing physical has happened in a long time. I still get furious every day of the week but if I sing a little song in my head it passes. It's not my fault though, it's my crazy damaged brain.

I feel pretty,
Oh, so pretty,
I feel pretty and witty and bright!
And I pity
Any girl who isn't me tonight.

I feel charming,
Oh, so charming
It's alarming how charming I feel!
And so pretty
That I hardly can believe I'm real.

See the pretty girl in that mirror there:
Who can that attractive girl be?
Such a pretty face,
Such a pretty dress,
Such a pretty smile,
Such a pretty me

For Forks Sake · 12-05-2015 11:35PM

jimmytwotimes 2013 wrote: »

I feel pretty,
Oh, so pretty,
I feel pretty and witty and bright!
And I pity
Any girl who isn't me tonight.

I feel charming,
Oh, so charming
It's alarming how charming I feel!
And so pretty
That I hardly can believe I'm real.

See the pretty girl in that mirror there:
Who can that attractive girl be?
Such a pretty face,
Such a pretty dress,
Such a pretty smile,
Such a pretty me

And now to counteract that hippy crap....

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tVL1u1eLX3I

Do you have a temper?

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