Communion season in full flow...parents question

buck65 · 11-05-2015 04:34PM #1

I was talking to someone today whose daughter is having her 1st Holy Communion on Saturday, all set - dress bought, restaurant booked, party afterwards etc. etc. but her parents don't go to mass or seem to be too bothered about religion.

Do parents get back into Church ways following the communion whilst the child is growing up or does it all go out the window again after a week or 2 (or when the money's spent)

This isn't meant to be a religious discussion just interested in the aftermath of Communions.

Lollipops23 · 11-05-2015 04:37PM

buck65 wrote: »

Do parents get back into Church ways following the communion whilst the child is growing up or does it all go out the window again after a week or 2 (or when the money's spent)

It's been that way for donkeys.

My aul pair aren't religious but still made me do the whole communion/confo thing.

anncoates · 11-05-2015 04:38PM

buck65 wrote: »

This isn't meant to be a religious discussion.

Good luck with that.

MagicIRL · 11-05-2015 04:38PM

Child makes a bucket load of cash, guests think you're the bees knees at hosting parties, what's not to like?

dreamers75 · 11-05-2015 04:40PM

Kids aware of more than 1 religion and that god doesnt exist in any form, they knew this before communion so then we asked if they wanted to make theirs.

None have said no yet .....wonder why :pac:

zeffabelli · 11-05-2015 04:41PM

buck65 wrote: »

I was talking to someone today whose daughter is having her 1st Holy Communion on Saturday, all set - dress bought, restaurant booked, party afterwards etc. etc. but her parents don't go to mass or seem to be too bothered about religion.

Do parents get back into Church ways following the communion whilst the child is growing up or does it all go out the window again after a week or 2 (or when the money's spent)

This isn't meant to be a religious discussion just interested in the aftermath of Communions.

No.

It's peer pressure so your child is not excluded, you know because Catholic schools are so inclusive and compassionate......they just make the non believers sit out on a chair somewhere.

SO much kindness displayed by 1st Holy Communion.

wendell borton · 11-05-2015 04:42PM

Stalin would approve, maybe we should have some show trials....oh wait communion you say.

buck65 · 11-05-2015 04:44PM

zeffabelli wrote: »

No.

It's peer pressure so your child is not excluded, you know because Catholic schools are so inclusive and compassionate......they just make the non believers sit out on a chair somewhere.

SO much kindness displayed by 1st Holy Communion.

My son goes to a non denominational school so if he wants to make his Communion he has to go to another school/church for the day.

keano_afc · 11-05-2015 04:45PM

Kids get to dress up, make a few quid, folks get sloshed. Ask 99% of parents what it symbolizes and you'd probably get a reply of "do you want another can?"

redbel05 · 11-05-2015 04:46PM

Depends on the parents. I have known one or two families who did make an effort to get back into religious ways after their child made their communion, but many more who didn't. One of the local priests does a thing where both the children and the parents do a kind of religious preparation on the run up to the day and think it helps for some...

homewardbound11 · 11-05-2015 04:47PM

buck65 wrote: »

I was talking to someone today whose daughter is having her 1st Holy Communion on Saturday, all set - dress bought, restaurant booked, party afterwards etc. etc. but her parents don't go to mass or seem to be too bothered about religion.

Do parents get back into Church ways following the communion whilst the child is growing up or does it all go out the window again after a week or 2 (or when the money's spent)

This isn't meant to be a religious discussion just interested in the aftermath of Communions.

As an exhausted parent after a communion yesterday. It is very hard not to answer your question without bringing into it religious belief and Catholicism.

Personally like all things these days we as parents overdo the whole thing and the idea/ indoctrination process of the religion is lost .
Having said that I thoroughly enjoyed the local priests ceremony yesterday.

-) first wholly communion will not change the parent into a mass goer.

-) I would like to know is there other religions with a similar process for young children .
-) isn't it more important to be a good person in both the community and family life. To word it a "good Christian .".and to ensure your children do the same.

eviltwin · 11-05-2015 04:55PM

My daughter made hers in 2003, it was a day out. We'd never been to church and never went back. I wouldn't do it now and wish we hadn't done it at all but at the time it was the done thing.

Flood · 11-05-2015 04:56PM

homewardbound11 wrote: »

As an exhausted parent after a communion yesterday.

Drank too much vino?

Nodin · 11-05-2015 05:05PM

buck65 wrote: »

I was talking to someone today whose daughter is having her 1st Holy Communion on Saturday, all set - dress bought, restaurant booked, party afterwards etc. etc. but her parents don't go to mass or seem to be too bothered about religion.

Do parents get back into Church ways following the communion whilst the child is growing up or does it all go out the window again after a week or 2 (or when the money's spent)

This isn't meant to be a religious discussion just interested in the aftermath of Communions.

The majority would be the bolded section, in my experience.

Gatling · 11-05-2015 05:09PM

The following sentence will say it all.

"it's all about the Money "

Nothing more and nothing less

Fudge You · 11-05-2015 05:18PM

homewardbound11 wrote: »

Personally like all things these days we as parents overdo the whole thing and the idea/ indoctrination process of the religion is lost .

You are a parent, an adult. You make the choices.
And by the sounds of it, you made some kinda silly ones, in regards to the communion.

Sunny Dayz · 11-05-2015 05:22PM

In the year my son was making his First Communion we definitely went to mass more often. There were special masses arranged for the communion children. But we would have gone to mass before this anyway, just not every Sunday, but at least once a month and also for special occasions and anniversaries.

I have found that since my son made his communion he is less interested in going to mass, especially in the last few months. I think the communion preparation masses were good, certainly more engaging for the congregation. Regular Sunday mass has no interest for most children or even adults. It also tends to be left up to me to say right we'll go to mass this Sunday, or so-and-so's anniversary mass is on, we should go to it. My husband never suggests going to mass so the religious responsibility is left up to me.

Sunny Dayz · 11-05-2015 05:25PM

My son was at a birthday party at the weekend at a leisure centre (bowling, play areas, laser quest, etc) . When I went to collect him, there were a few parents who had their kids dumped in the play area while they sat in the bar drinking.

readyletsgo · 11-05-2015 05:35PM

If you christen your child, they are added to the live register of Christians. Not going to church then until your kid has 1st holy communion, which, if you have a daughter, you are presenting your small child as a bride of God, which is weird in my eyes, not sure about boys, prob just involved. But that keeps the numbers up for the church for a day. And all the kids think of is the money and a part. Which in fairness, they make a ton on the day.

So in my eyes, if you are not practising Christians or full church goers you should not Christian you child to add to the dead numbers of christans in the world and let your child decide what religion they want to be part of, if any or none.

I know a couple parents that had 1st holy communion over the years, not Christian so decided to get there kid some nice clothes for the day and bring them out for a meal or somethin.

At the end of the day, it's just a 'keep the numbers up' without parents even realizing it.

Fudge You · 11-05-2015 06:11PM

readyletsgo wrote: »

if you have a daughter, you are presenting your small child as a bride of God, which is weird in my eyes,

Ahhh JJJJaysus Chhhhrist*

*In Des Curly's voice from the Snapper.

Santa Cruz · 11-05-2015 06:15PM

eviltwin wrote: »

My daughter made hers in 2003, it was a day out. We'd never been to church and never went back. I wouldn't do it now and wish we hadn't done it at all but at the time it was the done thing.

In other words you were incapable of making up your own mind and acted like sheep.

suicide_circus · 11-05-2015 06:22PM

Parents getting shiite faced in the company of their kids, just like in biblical times.

eviltwin · 11-05-2015 06:23PM

Santa Cruz wrote: »

In other words you were incapable of making up your own mind and acted like sheep.

Yes

No_Comply · 11-05-2015 06:26PM

eviltwin wrote: »

My daughter made hers in 2003, it was a day out. We'd never been to church and never went back. I wouldn't do it now and wish we hadn't done it at all but at the time it was the done thing.

Santa Cruz wrote: »

In other words you were incapable of making up your own mind and acted like sheep.

It's still the done thing.

Too easy to sit there after the fact and say that. I don't believe for a second you wouldn't do again.

eviltwin · 11-05-2015 06:27PM

No_Comply wrote: »

It's still the done thing.

Too easy to sit there after the fact and say that. I don't believe for a second you wouldn't do again.

I didn't do it again. Child number 2 wasn't baptised and won't be making his communion.

Pumpkinseeds · 11-05-2015 07:19PM

I think it's just a default thing for most parents. They have the child baptised because 'it's what you do' and there's also the party that every single person they know is invited to and expected to bring a gift. It's the same with Communion. We had an invitation from my husband's niece to attend her daughters christening in the UK last year. She hasn't been in a church since her first kid was christened and the time before that was when she was christened herself 20 odd years before that. We didn't go.

branie2 · 11-05-2015 07:30PM

When I made my communion, I had just had a meal out and visited relatives

LordSutch · 11-05-2015 07:40PM

Gatling wrote: »

The following sentence will say it all.

"it's all about the Money "

Nothing more and nothing less

That is a disgrace, a total disgrace, and just what are the parents thinking of

Many children will get confirmed in the C of I when they're fourteen/fifteen years old (no money involved), no stretch limos, no mini wedding dresses/suits, or fake tan either, just a religious ceremony which they should have a greater understanding of at that age. Surely at seven years of age the kids have little or no understanding of the religious significance of the ceremony?

zeffabelli · 11-05-2015 07:40PM

LordSutch wrote: »

That is a disgrace, a total disgrace, and just what are the parents thinking of

Many children will get confirmed in the C of I when they're fourteen/fifteen years old (no money involved), no stretch limos, no mini wedding dresses/suits, or fake tan either, just a religious ceremony which they should have a greater understanding of at that age. Surely at seven years of age the kids have little or no understanding of the religious significance of the ceremony?

It's because Catholics like pageantry. Look at JFK...only Catholic president and they nicknamed it Camelot.

Look at all the display teh Spanish do.

Protestants aren't like that.

Lollipops23 · 11-05-2015 07:50PM

I was only chatting to my best mate earlier about how she's not planning on christening her kid-she's pregnant on her first now. She knows it's gonna provide all sorts of hurdles down the line for enrolling in schools etc but reckons if they cave over it, they'll be becoming part of the problem.

DareGod · 11-05-2015 07:51PM

buck65 wrote: »

I was talking to someone today whose daughter is having her 1st Holy Communion on Saturday, all set - dress bought, restaurant booked, party afterwards etc. etc. but her parents don't go to mass or seem to be too bothered about religion.

Do parents get back into Church ways following the communion whilst the child is growing up or does it all go out the window again after a week or 2 (or when the money's spent)

This isn't meant to be a religious discussion just interested in the aftermath of Communions.

What a topic to be interested in.

Communion season in full flow...parents question

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