The exaggerated fantasy of college of constant parties and promiscuity

TheBeardedLady · 11-05-2015 10:01AM

jonnypacket wrote: »

Why is Hollywood pushing this fantasy so hard? You've seen the same scenario in countless movies from American Pie to Van Wilder: your college years will be one big blur of drinking, parties, hook-ups with easy girls and experimenting with drugs. The reality is quite different in my experience. More like counting your pennies at the end of the month to pay the rent for your mold-infested shoebox apartment that you share with an illegal Chinese immigrant. And getting up super early to check if your grant came in before anyone you know sees you. Thoughts?

Not to rub it in, but this was pretty much my experience of college.

The Corinthian · 11-05-2015 10:07AM

Saipanne wrote: »

It helped that I started aged 24. Much more confident than my younger peers and the young ladies preferred the more mature man.

More likely you owe thanks to many emotionally distant fathers out there.

God bless the Electra complex.

beks101 · 11-05-2015 10:08AM

I'd say I had more fun, more parties and far more sex in those few years after college when I had a bit of mullah in the back pocket and the means to have more of a social life, travel and date a bit more. The 22 - 27 era for me wouldve been the craic like.

College for me was more about making new mates and getting to know myself a bit better through those new people, the new college course and living away from home for the first time. And being pretty broke.

Egginacup · 11-05-2015 10:10AM

Phil Mitchell wrote: »

3 years in college and not one party. Didnt even get the shift

Where'd you go, Maynooth? All Hallows?

TheBeardedLady · 11-05-2015 10:11AM

The Corinthian wrote: »

More likely you owe thanks to many emotionally distant fathers out there.

God bless the Electra complex.

Not backed up by any legitimate, peer reviewed research.

sbsquarepants · 11-05-2015 10:17AM

Adamantium wrote: »

Exactly, you'd have to be blind and dumb to think this.

Not really - you'd just have to be ugly:D

CruelCoin · 11-05-2015 10:27AM

I can't remember my entire first two months of college.....Party every night, all night.

I went from boarding school stricture to complete freedom overnight. Didn't know what to do with myself and completely lost my head.

After that, the rest of the three years was pretty much daily driinking in the student bar and two parties per week.

Word from the wise: Always, always rent student accomodation on-campus. Makes all the difference.

The Corinthian · 11-05-2015 10:32AM

TheBeardedLady wrote: »

Not backed up by any legitimate, peer reviewed research.

I'd show my peers the photos and videos for review, but I think that would be a breach of trust.

fizzypish · 11-05-2015 10:34AM

CruelCoin wrote: »

I can't remember my entire first two months of college.....Party every night, all night.

I went from boarding school stricture to complete freedom overnight. Didn't know what to do with myself and completely lost my head.

After that, the rest of the three years was pretty much daily driinking in the student bar and two parties per week.

Word from the wise: Always, always rent student accomodation on-campus. Makes all the difference.

How did you afford this life style and how did you manage to graduate?

whatdoicare · 11-05-2015 10:44AM

My first year in college was relaxed and I enjoyed myself, had the few nights out and parties nothing like the movies though but by year three there was so much stress and pressure the party days were well and truly over.

harry Bailey esq · 11-05-2015 10:55AM

Cold War Kid wrote: »

I don't believe for one second that "all" the girls are "frigid".

Correct you are squire,the others were clearly lesbians....

Mister Vain · 11-05-2015 12:06PM

blindside88 wrote: »

Id say we were at a party 3 nights per week and drinking in the college bar during the day most days

Hmm... I reckon if students did less of that they wouldn't have to endure this -

jonnypacket wrote: »

More like counting your pennies at the end of the month to pay the rent for your mold-infested shoebox apartment that you share with an illegal Chinese immigrant.

:pac:

hatrickpatrick · 11-05-2015 01:13PM

thelad95 wrote: »

I'd agree with this. During Freshers week this year, the last night of the week was pretty dead. I just don't think people had any energy by that stage. A lot of people decided three nights was enough while those who were out were pretty wrecked anyway.

Hehe I've definitely been part of the latter group, where you're hungover, developing a cold, have this strange bitter taste in your mouth, are vaguely wondering how two seemingly wild llamas ended up in your kitchen, and you're sort of crawling out the door to a nightclub thinking "What the actual f*ck am I doing here, this is a baaaaaad idea"

deviladvocate · 11-05-2015 01:21PM

OP is right... there's a simple solution though, give the students more free money to go out and party!!!

walkingshadow · 11-05-2015 04:49PM

I didn't socialise when at college. I worked hard, got my degree and have ended up in a profession I despise. I worked hard, at it was all ultimately for nothing.

Maximus Alexander · 11-05-2015 04:53PM

College was a lot of fun.

Saipanne · 11-05-2015 05:32PM

walkingshadow wrote: »

I didn't socialise when at college. I worked hard, got my degree and have ended up in a profession I despise. I worked hard, at it was all ultimately for nothing.

CruelCoin · 12-05-2015 09:02AM

fizzypish wrote: »

How did you afford this life style and how did you manage to graduate?

Parents paid for tuition (as all parents should, not this "you're 18 **** off" attitude in Ireland). I likewise will pay for my own children.

As for beer money / food / rent, i worked like a dog in the family business at the weekends and during holidays/summer/winter.

How did i graduate? By not being an imbecile i suppose? Full-time college (20hrs p/w) is not exactly strenuous.

fizzypish · 12-05-2015 09:41AM

CruelCoin wrote: »

Parents paid for tuition (as all parents should, not this "you're 18 **** off" attitude in Ireland). I likewise will pay for my own children.

As for beer money / food / rent, i worked like a dog in the family business at the weekends and during holidays/summer/winter.

How did i graduate? By not being an imbecile i suppose? Full-time college (20hrs p/w) is not exactly strenuous.

Fair play. I'm glad it worked out for you. I couldn't have passed my course with 20 hrs p/w. It was pretty much a full time job after 2nd year for me and had a job. God dammit, I'll be honest, I'm jealous of anybody that enjoyed college. I've hated all my education since secondary school.

smash · 12-05-2015 09:47AM

I think Hollywood portrays a vision of 24/7 parties and orgy's in American colleges in an attempt to get people into massive debt in return for a mediocre education.

CruelCoin · 12-05-2015 10:27AM

fizzypish wrote: »

God dammit, I'll be honest, I'm jealous of anybody that enjoyed college. I've hated all my education since secondary school.

I didn't enjoy all of it.

College (1st time) i loved. Wish i could go back and stay there in a time-loop.

2nd time, i went back as a mature student to get a h.dip in the evenings.
Full time work at 50hrs per week, moving into a new house and then this h.dip that was more strenuous than my degree ever was. That damned near killed me. Gibbering wreck towards the end.

Still got straight a's though. :cool:

steddyeddy · 12-05-2015 10:29AM

There is a party attitude in college but get rid of free fees and this should change.

steddyeddy · 12-05-2015 10:34AM

CruelCoin wrote: »

I can't remember my entire first two months of college.....Party every night, all night.

I went from boarding school stricture to complete freedom overnight. Didn't know what to do with myself and completely lost my head.

After that, the rest of the three years was pretty much daily driinking in the student bar and two parties per week.

Word from the wise: Always, always rent student accomodation on-campus. Makes all the difference.

Word to the lucky you mean. Not everyone has parents that can afford campus accommodation.

steddyeddy · 12-05-2015 10:37AM

CruelCoin wrote: »

Parents paid for tuition (as all parents should, not this "you're 18 **** off" attitude in Ireland). I likewise will pay for my own children.

As for beer money / food / rent, i worked like a dog in the family business at the weekends and during holidays/summer/winter.

How did i graduate? By not being an imbecile i suppose? Full-time college (20hrs p/w) is not exactly strenuous.

I'd be more right wing than this. I think the expect everyone to pay for me attitude lead to a sense of self entitlement in this country.

Duggy747 · 12-05-2015 10:38AM

Best years of my life were in college, I didn't particularly like what I was doing but I met some great people and had some of the funniest times. Still in good contact with my old college buddies.

TheBeardedLady · 12-05-2015 10:38AM

steddyeddy wrote: »

There is a party attitude in college but get rid of free fees and this should change.

The kind of partying I did in college didn't cost very much. They usually involved a bag of cans and music in a house/flat somewhere.

Micky Dolenz · 12-05-2015 10:39AM

While I was studying for my PhD, it was all work work work, yes sir.

CruelCoin · 12-05-2015 10:39AM

steddyeddy wrote: »

Word to the lucky you mean. Not everyone has parents that can afford campus accommodation.

Maybe.

If you have parents who smoke then you can count 3k a year, per parent. My accom was 90 p/w.

Why bring up the fags? When there's a will there's a way.

Most of the time when i hear of parents dicussing whether or not to send their kids to college, it's usually along the lines of "why should i? sure he's old enough to work".

My parents paid for me, and i will pay for my kids. The net figure (excluding inflation) is zero as i pay out equal to what i got.

CruelCoin · 12-05-2015 10:47AM

steddyeddy wrote: »

I'd be more right wing than this. I think the expect everyone to pay for me attitude lead to a sense of self entitlement in this country.

I see it as more of an investment.

I hate seeing kids defer college (and possibly never go at all) because they can't afford it, and their paretns wouldn't help.

This has a very significant impact on their earning power.

Can't get more right wing than that, make an investment to make a sound return.

fizzypish · 12-05-2015 10:50AM

CruelCoin wrote: »

I see it as more of an investment.

I hate seeing kids defer college (and possibly never go at all) because they can't afford it, and their paretns wouldn't help.

This has a very significant impact on their earning power.

Can't get more right wing than that, make an investment to make a sound return.

Agreed but look at all the people who we went to college with who were just there for the session and pissed the opportunity away. Personally, I would have done a trade and go down the college path when a bit more mature. Thats just me though.

The exaggerated fantasy of college of constant parties and promiscuity

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