Wedding Gift ideas

DulchieLaois · 16-04-2015 01:03PM

cash is king, saves on useless gifts, however, if your keen on a gift, a voucher for a nice weekend break inc dinner is ideal as it will be one gift that ur friend will remember when they are away on the actual break.

If your spending high, try Rathsallagh/Castle Durrow, there are nice breaks to be had there

Tarzana2 · 16-04-2015 01:29PM

5starpool wrote: »

but the givers will be thanked regardless.

That's good of you. :pac:

rainbow kirby · 16-04-2015 01:50PM

Seriously, just give cash.

16-04-2015 02:09PM

Cash, don't even consider anything else. if they just bought a house money towards paying for the wedding or towards costs associated with the house will be far more useful that some gift.

Birneybau wrote: »

I'm gonna be brutally honest and say I'd be fairly disappointed if somebody donated money in my name as a wedding gift.

+1 on that, why someone would give a "present" to someone which was donating money to charity is beyond me.

rainbow kirby · 17-04-2015 10:51AM

Joanna Substantial Tollbooth wrote: »

+1 on that, why someone would give a "present" to someone which was donating money to charity is beyond me.

Friends of mine requested that donations be made in their name to two charities of their choice rather than people giving them cash gifts for their wedding a few years back. This would be awkward if it wasn't specifically requested like that though!

bb1234567 · 17-04-2015 10:55AM

Nice cutlery. Its a new house, they need it, how wrong could you go with that.

libelula · 17-04-2015 10:57AM

bb1234567 wrote: »

Nice cutlery. Its a new house, they need it, how wrong could you go with that.

If someone bought me cutlery as a present, I just know right now that it'd be getting returned unless it was a specific set that I'd asked for.
Buying cutlery for me is a military operation, I've done less thinking about cars I've bought :pac:

5starpool · 17-04-2015 10:58AM

Tarzana2 wrote: »

That's good of you. :pac:

We're just that kind of couple

Seriously though, some of the things I've read of people doing for weddings such as asking for set amounts, or telling people what to give, and I even heard once of a couple giving back gifts they didn't like and asking for cash from the givers instead, nothing would surprise me, so just thought I'd make it clear.

PhoenixParker · 17-04-2015 11:22AM

bb1234567 wrote: »

Nice cutlery. Its a new house, they need it, how wrong could you go with that.

From my point of view, and we're getting married in six weeks, we bought ourselves a very nice cutlery set back in October/November. Another set of the same cutlery would be great, but a different set would be really annoying because it wouldn't match and it's not like cutlery breaks or needs to be replaced within 20 years.

Unless you know what cutlery they already have and that they like it enough to want more in the same style, then cutlery is a risk option. Cash.

jimgoose · 17-04-2015 11:23AM

Money. Loads and loads of money. Failing that, a set of really good knives, Japanese ideally.

Summer wind · 17-04-2015 11:40AM

Waterford crystal clock or photo frame.

Tarzana2 · 17-04-2015 03:51PM

Birneybau wrote: »

I'm gonna be brutally honest and say I'd be fairly disappointed if somebody donated money in my name as a wedding gift.

Even though I hate grasping brides and grooms, I'd be inclined to agree. If you are going to give someone a gift, it should be something they'll like not something you think they should like.

fussyonion · 17-04-2015 03:53PM

A Fray Bentos Steak and Kidney Pie.

DulchieLaois · 17-04-2015 04:03PM

a kick up d backside

Irishcrx · 17-04-2015 05:24PM

Divorce Lawyer...very romantic...

homerjay2005 · 17-04-2015 06:42PM

Luc01 wrote: »

Hi, does anyone know of anywhere I can get a nice wedding present for a friend? As its a good friend I don't want to give cash. They've just bought a house. Any ideas welcome!

As they are a good friend, you SHOULD be giving them cash...

Birneybau · 17-04-2015 06:45PM

Irishcrx wrote: »

Divorce Lawyer...very romantic...

Well, a voucher for one maybe.

homerjay2005 · 17-04-2015 06:52PM

Luc01 wrote: »

hilarious biko...! Good idea on the honeymoon gift. Was thinking of a dinner set from Meadows and Byrne but not sure as would like to get something more meaningful since its a good friend. Thanks for all the suggestions , lots of ideas to go on!

If a good friend of mine gave me a dinner set for a wedding, I'd find it tacky, disrespectful and cheap. Just give them the cash and job done.you can be pretty sure that if you give your friends that present, they will be insulted.

Cash is the best (and only) wedding gift you should give anybody, can't believe there's people out there who are so out of touch to think otherwise.

Dinner sets as wedding gifts went out of fashion 20 years ago

SparkySpitfire · 17-04-2015 07:01PM

Seeing as the idea of giving people wedding presents was to help them build a home together when they moved out of their parents house - shouldn't this nonsense be done away with all together?

If you ask me for money you're getting a toaster. If you want my present to cover the cost of my attendance then don't invite me. Weddings are expensive enough to attend as it is and no one asked you to have a huge scale wedding that you're relying on guest's gifts to repay. On the same note, if you can't afford a wedding don't go.

The above really hammers home the way some weddings are literally all about the money these days, how much is spent and how much they hope to recuperate. I would be mortified to take €100 off my friends tbh.

bee06 · 17-04-2015 07:32PM

When I got married we got a couple of lovely gifts one was a framed picture spelling out our name in pictures (hard to explain but they do them on etsy) and someone else got us a wedding cake tree which is now planted in our garden. We also got some great house stuff gifts but it was all very specific things that they knew we needed like a really good knife set. Unless there is something you know they specifically need I wouldn't be going with cutlery sets or dinner sets.

Cold War Kid · 17-04-2015 07:50PM

For close friends and family, I give money and a little gift, like a nice painted glass ornament or picture-frame etc.

A weekend away/a decent voucher - good alternatives to cash too IMO.

I don't think cash is tacky, but I know some people would prefer to give the couple a "thing". I like to combine both.

PARlance · 17-04-2015 07:54PM

rainbow kirby wrote: »

Friends of mine requested that donations be made in their name to two charities of their choice rather than people giving them cash gifts for their wedding a few years back. This would be awkward if it wasn't specifically requested like that though!

And despite their best efforts, savetheceltictiger.org failed to raise enough to save the poor animal from extinction.

Cold War Kid · 17-04-2015 07:59PM

homerjay2005 wrote: »

As they are a good friend, you SHOULD be giving them cash...

homerjay2005 wrote: »

If a good friend of mine gave me a dinner set for a wedding, I'd find it tacky, disrespectful and cheap. Just give them the cash and job done.you can be pretty sure that if you give your friends that present, they will be insulted.

Cash is the best (and only) wedding gift you should give anybody, can't believe there's people out there who are so out of touch to think otherwise.

Dinner sets as wedding gifts went out of fashion 20 years ago

Need to stop projecting there with the "shoulds". Your opinion is not everyone else's opinion, nor can you force it to be.
It's far more tacky, disrespectful and cheap to have the attitude your posts display (if you're being serious). A really nice dinner-set might be something a couple would love - again, you don't speak for everyone (thank feck).

Wtf does "fashion" matter too btw?

For close friends I'm more inclined to give a gift, because I know them well and know what they'd like. It's the people whom I'm not as close to that I give cash (not that there's anything wrong with giving cash to close friends/family - I've also done that).

One of the nicest ways it worked out was going shopping with my friend and her picking out her gift (a lamp) with me there. She was really keen on doing it that way; it was sweet.

Tarzana2 · 17-04-2015 08:11PM

homerjay2005 wrote: »

If a good friend of mine gave me a dinner set for a wedding, I'd find it tacky, disrespectful and cheap.

Cheap? You sound very grasping. I always give cash but really dislike attitudes like yours. Some people buy gifts instead of give cash because they are broke and feel self-conscious giving a small amount. With attitudes like yours, no wonder some people feel such pressure to stump up large gifts they might not be able afford. Attending weddings is expensive. They're your friends and guests, not cash cows.

PARlance · 17-04-2015 08:31PM

Cold War Kid wrote: »

Need to stop projecting there with the "shoulds". Your opinion is not everyone else's opinion, nor can you force it to be.
It's far more tacky, disrespectful and cheap to have the attitude your posts display (if you're being serious). A really nice dinner-set might be something a couple would love - again, you don't speak for everyone (thank feck)..

You "should" take each poster's post as their own opinion.

Cold War Kid · 17-04-2015 08:36PM

PARlance wrote: »

You "should" take each poster's post as their own opinion.

When they don't use phrases like "you can be pretty sure that if you give your friends that present, they will be insulted. Cash is the best (and only) wedding gift you should give anybody, can't believe there's people out there who are so out of touch to think otherwise"... I always do.

PARlance · 17-04-2015 08:42PM

Cold War Kid wrote: »

Need to stop projecting there with the "shoulds". Your opinion is not everyone else's opinion, nor can you force it to be..

Did you mean to say "in my opinion, you need to stop projection...."

I don't think he needs to stop

SparkySpitfire · 17-04-2015 09:07PM

PARlance wrote: »

Did you mean to say "in my opinion, you need to stop projection...."

I don't think he needs to stop

Nah it's pretty clear he's telling people that this is what society perceives as acceptable behaviour. If he meant it was his own personal opinion he would have said so, and if he didn't well then it's hardly the fault of the readers that he didn't express himself properly is it?

Pretzill · 17-04-2015 09:10PM

I don't like the idea of giving cash - I would feel uncomfortable accepting cash from anyone other than a very close relative.

Something bespoke that suits the couple if you know them really well -

Or something no other guest would think, that's practical like a wheelbarrow.

Or a special dinner dated for their first Anniversary.

osarusan · 17-04-2015 09:16PM

Voucher for a presumption-free paternity test.

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