would you confront your child for watching porn??

Robsweezie · 29-01-2015 08:00PM #1

obviously if its an eight year old then words should be had, but what about a teenager? if you found it on their laptop or a porn mag would you carry on and pretend you didn't see or confront them directly? is that really a conversation you are prepared to have?

''johnny. don't be googling that thai lady boy filth, they're not real women you know!''

DamagedTrax · 29-01-2015 08:02PM

i did with my teen a few years back.

all i could do was have the chat and explain to him the differences between porn and sex.

and advise him to stay clear of skanky porn! (truth).

seventeen sheep · 29-01-2015 08:02PM

God no. I actually think it's probably a little unusual for a teenage boy to have no interest in porn.

Obviously I wouldn't want to know about it, and I certainly wouldn't go looking for evidence! But if I did "come across" something (heh) I'd turn a blind eye.

Menas · 29-01-2015 08:04PM

seventeen sheep wrote: »

God no. I actually think it's probably a little unusual for a teenage boy to have no interest in porn.

Obviously I wouldn't want to know about it, and I certainly wouldn't go looking for evidence! But if I did "come across" something (heh) I'd turn a blind eye.

But what if he was in to the real mad ****....you know...THAT stuff?

Jaxxy · 29-01-2015 08:04PM

No, why would I do that? Nothing wrong with watching porn, IMO. As long as they know the difference between fantasy and reality, then there's no problem.

DamagedTrax · 29-01-2015 08:05PM

Trigger Happy wrote: »

But what if he was in to the real mad ****....you know...THAT stuff?

thats exactly why i had the chat.

he was always gonna discover porn so i'd rather he at least look at stuff thats not overly aggressive towards the women.

there's no perfect outcome but as a parent we can limit the damage.

suicide_circus · 29-01-2015 08:07PM

"Right young man, I'm gonna sit here and watch you all the porn on the Internet!"

"Thats a little creepy dad"

NachoBusiness · 29-01-2015 08:07PM

Robsweezie wrote: »

..thai lady boy filth, they're not real women you know..

Oh oh, now you've gone and done it.

Woop woop, that's the sound of da PC police.

poisonated · 29-01-2015 08:10PM

No. I'd probably bring it up in conversation and just say something so the person would get the idea that not all women are into that kinky sorta stuff. But I would go about it with a certain amount of stealth.

emersyn · 29-01-2015 08:15PM

NachoBusiness wrote: »

Oh oh, now you've gone and done it.

Woop woop, that's the sound of da PC police.

We're calling people who understand that trans women are actually in fact real women the "PC police" now? Wow, edgy. Feck off & take your superiority complex with you

Oasis1974 · 29-01-2015 08:16PM

DamagedTrax wrote: »

i did with my teen a few years back.

all i could do was have the chat and explain to him the differences between porn and sex.

and advise him to stay clear of skanky porn! (truth).

When you say explain the difference you mean what? Porn and sex are pretty much the same.

Sheep Lover · 29-01-2015 08:16PM

emersyn wrote: »

We're calling people who understand that trans women are actually in fact real women the "PC police" now? Wow, edgy. Feck off & take your superiority complex with you

Are transgender people either gender?

I thought they were transgender?

emersyn · 29-01-2015 08:17PM

Sheep Lover wrote: »

Are transgender people either gender?

I thought they were transgender?

I don't understand what you're asking

caustic 1 · 29-01-2015 08:18PM

Trigger Happy wrote: »

But what if he was in to the real mad ****....you know...THAT stuff?

Just how did you find out about THAT stuff?
What is THAT stuff?

Personally I think it's a case of if you are told don't push the red button and all you want to do is push the red button.
Teenagers are going to be curious, but I think if they have had the right upbringing they will know where the boundaries are and what's acceptable or not. If you think that when they get a moment to themselves they are only going to look at nice stuff then I think you could be in for a shock.

Agricola · 29-01-2015 08:18PM

I'd sit him down and say "Son, you're now a man. Welcome to Porn Club. First rule of Porn Club is: You do not talk about Porn Club."

Benteke · 29-01-2015 08:19PM

Ir depends if it's good stuff i might take a look myself

duckman!! · 29-01-2015 08:20PM

Oyva bigwan wrote: »

If I caught my son watching porn I'd give him a high five

If it was gay porn I'd give him
A slap in the back of the head

...........gets popcorn!!

Raging_Ninja · 29-01-2015 08:21PM

My dad caught me with a playboy and roared laughing. Was so embarrassing i threw it out shortly after.

Custardpi · 29-01-2015 08:22PM

Oyva bigwan wrote: »

If I caught my son watching porn I'd give him a high five

You should maybe get him to wash his hands first!

bodice ripper · 29-01-2015 08:22PM

no one has daughters, no?

smash · 29-01-2015 08:22PM

Ask them for some good links...

Menas · 29-01-2015 08:22PM

Raging_Ninja wrote: »

My dad caught me with a playboy and roared laughing. Was so embarrassing i threw it out shortly after.

Lucky sod - having playboy. We had to make do with an underwear catalogue.

Raging_Ninja · 29-01-2015 08:23PM

Trigger Happy wrote: »

Lucky sod - having playboy. We had to make do with an underwear catalogue.

Those are the best.

Sheep Lover · 29-01-2015 08:24PM

Trigger Happy wrote: »

Lucky sod - having playboy. We had to make do with an underwear catalogue.

I had to make do with impure thoughts about my female relatives

legomaniac · 29-01-2015 08:24PM

I wonder how the same dad's would react if it was their teenage daughter watching a bit of porn?

Oyva bigwan · 29-01-2015 08:24PM

Custardpi wrote: »

You should maybe get him to wash his hands first!

Scratch that high five Pat on the back instead

DamagedTrax · 29-01-2015 08:25PM

Oasis1974 wrote: »

When you say explain the difference you mean what? Porn and sex are pretty much the same.

one is onscreen prostitution and the other isnt. how is that the same?

dont get me wrong, im a porn afficiado, i could recognise most female porn stars by face... i just know that sex and porn are two very different sides of the same coin.

AnonoBoy · 29-01-2015 08:25PM

Jaxxy wrote: »

No, why would I do that? Nothing wrong with watching porn, IMO. As long as they know the difference between fantasy and reality, then there's no problem.

As a parent isn't it your job to ensure that he/she does know the difference between fantasy and reality?

They mightn't be able to figure that out on their own with a parent who prefers to not bother talk about things.

Oasis1974 wrote: »

When you say explain the difference you mean what? Porn and sex are pretty much the same.

Spoken like someone who has very limited experience of one and far too much experience of the other.

Raging_Ninja · 29-01-2015 08:25PM

legomaniac wrote: »

I wonder how the same dad's would react if it was their teenage daughter watching a bit of porn?

Caught her watching a nude scene in some film, same thing happened. She was even more embarrassed than me.

gizmo555 · 29-01-2015 08:26PM

Didn't go well for this family - God help them . . .

A 12-year-old Russian girl has taken her own life after her parents discovered she had been watching pornography.

Named only as Dasha L by police, the girl reportedly leapt from the window of the 14th floor family flat in St Petersburg following an argument with her parents about what they had found on her personal computer.

Life News reported that the family had not been involved with the police before. A police official told the Russian news site: "This is a well-to-do family”

“There is an ongoing investigation. We aren't excluding the possibility of bringing up charges on inciting a suicide,” they added.

http://www.independent.co.uk/news/world/europe/russian-girl-takes-her-own-life-after-parents-find-pornography-on-her-computer-10010312.html

Custardpi · 29-01-2015 08:27PM

legomaniac wrote: »

I wonder how the same dad's would react if it was their teenage daughter watching a bit of porn?

Probably this reaction

would you confront your child for watching porn??

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