who do you talk to?

lufties · 26-12-2014 04:46PM #1

About real stuff, emotions etc, how your feeling..Over the last while I've started opening up with people and its liberating. In Ireland, we tend to bottle things up and talk about surface stuff like the weather and factual things.

Out of 3 siblings, I have one brother I really confide in..Otherwise its friends, I always used to think that sharing your core stuff with people was only be a burden on them.

Shenshen · 26-12-2014 04:47PM

Friends, and my husband.

I would feel weird talking to my family about feelings, to be honest.

26-12-2014 04:47PM

I talk to Joe. Good afternoon t youuuuuuuuu.

karmazyn · 26-12-2014 04:48PM

Strangers in a pub I don't usually go to work well

The Backwards Man · 26-12-2014 04:49PM

The dog.

HamsterFace · 26-12-2014 04:49PM

I talk to my girlfriend. I love her with all my heart and miss her desperately now that we are separate over the Christmas.

PizzamanIRL · 26-12-2014 04:50PM

Nobody. I'm very good at keeping my thoughts and feelings hidden.

lufties · 26-12-2014 04:50PM

Omackeral wrote: »

I talk to Joe. Good afternoon t youuuuuuuuu.

1850....the lavline is open :pac:

The Moldy Gowl · 26-12-2014 04:50PM

Boards. Ask posters in a forum for advice, then do the opposite.

PizzamanIRL · 26-12-2014 04:53PM

Gowlasauras Rex wrote: »

Boards. Ask posters in a forum for advice, then do the opposite.

Or argue why you think their advice is wrong, followed by 20 posters giving out to you for asking for advice and then ignoring every bit of advice given.

lufties · 26-12-2014 04:53PM

HamsterFace wrote: »

I talk to my girlfriend. I love her with all my heart and miss her desperately now that we are separate over the Christmas.

Yeah, I miss my gf too, haven't been in touch with her in over 3 months...hold on, wait a minute

:P

lufties · 26-12-2014 04:55PM

Gowlasauras Rex wrote: »

Boards. Ask posters in a forum for advice, then do the opposite.

I tend to do that too, thought I was the only one :cool:

Ihatecuddles · 26-12-2014 04:57PM

My husband, he's great at pretending to listen

chrysagon · 26-12-2014 04:59PM

The more i know bout people, the more i love my DOG !

kowloon · 26-12-2014 05:01PM

Gowlasauras Rex wrote: »

Boards. Ask posters in a forum for advice, then do the opposite.

Does this count as advice? If it does we might have a problem.

NotCominBack · 26-12-2014 05:02PM

Therapist @90 pops per hour - Tony Soprano like...

Littlekittylou · 26-12-2014 05:11PM

lufties wrote: »

About real stuff, emotions etc, how your feeling..Over the last while I've started opening up with people and its liberating. In Ireland, we tend to bottle things up and talk about surface stuff like the weather and factual things.

Out of 3 siblings, I have one brother I really confide in..Otherwise its friends, I always used to think that sharing your core stuff with people was only be a burden on them.

My brother and my mother. It works both ways. I would say they share a lot with me.

A few friends too in a small way. But it sort of changes up. I think the way you make it not a burden is make sure you don't overload one person and that you give back.

It's good too learn to keep your own counsel too.

I probably share a lot less than most people.

Whether or not I share with guys I am with depends on the relationship and the level of trust that they will keep it private. I have seen people blast **** all over the internet on friends etc. I think that is so horrible to do. If you know private stuff keep it private.

Trust is the deciding factor on who you share what with and compassion.

The Moldy Gowl · 26-12-2014 05:14PM

lufties wrote: »

I tend to do that too, thought I was the only one :cool:

I'm in a private forum as well so I tell them all my gowl problems. I think they just love the gossip

One eyed Jack · 26-12-2014 05:15PM

GP for the physical stuff
Priest for the spiritual stuff

A little bit from column A, a little bit from column B, for the mental stuff.

Littlekittylou · 26-12-2014 05:16PM

lufties wrote: »

I tend to do that too, thought I was the only one :cool:

Not on boards.ie but on a diff forum ( he was on boards at the time) i did ask about relationship situation and was given advice.........i did do it.........but like three months laters!

Ah well better late than never!

Jawgap · 26-12-2014 05:20PM

Since when did bottling things up become so unfashionable??

This trend for sharing feelings is very American - I'm not sure I want to become American!!

Mister Vain · 26-12-2014 05:29PM

Wibbs. He usually knows what to say.

paulosam · 26-12-2014 05:31PM

Talked to a psychologist at least once a week for 6 months earlier this year after a friend committed suicide. Was very, very sceptical initially, but it has improved my life massively since.

Was great talking to someone impartial, but was also really helpful learning coping skills for day to day life and anxieties and stuff.

TheBeardedLady · 26-12-2014 05:32PM

My fella mostly. I borrow his ear for a while now and then and he makes convincing sounds of attentiveness while I empty myself of my worries for a few minutes, otherwise I try and sort stuff out for myself. My sister and my stepmam and best friend are great listeners as well but I don't see any of them enough.

Links234 · 26-12-2014 05:33PM

Girlfriend, I've opened up to her about things that I've told nobody.

NotCominBack · 26-12-2014 05:36PM

Links234 wrote: »

Girlfriend, I've opened up to her about things that I've told nobody.

And she still with you?

SimonTemplar · 26-12-2014 05:38PM

The rubber duck. Great for debugging code!

Highflyer13 · 26-12-2014 05:39PM

My girlfriend. I tell her lots of stuff and she tells me her stuff. Going through a stressful period now with work and college and I'm feeling her absence as she is 1000s of miles away for the next month. Chatting on skype just isn't the same.

Links234 · 26-12-2014 05:45PM

NotCominBack wrote: »

And she still with you?

yeah, what's that supposed to mean?

HamsterFace · 26-12-2014 05:48PM

Links234 wrote: »

Girlfriend, I've opened up to her about things that I've told nobody.

Like what?

Yearning4Stormy · 26-12-2014 06:48PM

lufties wrote: »

...I always used to think that sharing your core stuff with people was only be a burden on them.

Oh, I am *so* trying to get past this feeling, lufties.

I've one pal I've known for thirty years and another for twenty - my closest pals - and they get the brunt of it... and it's rarely pleasant. It *does* feel good at the time to just get it off my chest, but ultimately, I'll be feeling like crap for unloading on them... *again*.

I've been hmming and hawing about utilising the EAP in work again to see a free-ish counselor since they're trained to be unloaded on and to actively help... but I had such an awful experience with the last person they recommended.

Rock and a hard place. Vicious circle. Pick your own simile.

Lufties, happy you're getting to communicate with *someone*. Y'all have a great New Year.

<Aw, crap, I've just spotted this is AH. Sigh.>

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