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Any polyamorists among us?

  • 18-11-2014 12:56AM
    #1
    MagicMarker
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 32,865 ✭✭✭✭MagicMarker


    I'm onto you.

    Oh yeah sure you want an 'ethical', 'responsible', 'non-monogamous' relationship.

    Puh-lease.

    So what are our thoughts on this? A legitimate alternative lifestyle or a bunch a of randy hipsters who dress up their fear of commitment in fancy words?


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  • #2
    DeadHand
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,833 ✭✭✭DeadHand


    Hang on while I consult my girlfriends and boyfriend.


  • #3
    Annasopra
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 41,236 ✭✭✭✭Annasopra


    There is one isnt there?

    It was so much easier to blame it on Them. It was bleakly depressing to think that They were Us. If it was Them, then nothing was anyone's fault. If it was us, what did that make Me? After all, I'm one of Us. I must be. I've certainly never thought of myself as one of Them. No one ever thinks of themselves as one of Them. We're always one of Us. It's Them that do the bad things.

    Terry Pratchet



  • #4
    5uspect
    Moderators, Arts Moderators Posts: 10,606 Mod ✭✭✭✭5uspect


    Do Pam and her five sisters count?


  • #5
    Kevin McCloud
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 1,797 ✭✭✭Kevin McCloud


    If i knew what a polyamorist was.

    My spell check does not even recognise it.


  • #6
    AnonoBoy
    Closed Accounts Posts: 22,559 ✭✭✭✭AnonoBoy


    Ah Polly mon amour.

    I was in love with a Polly once.

    Quite the plumage.

    She always talked back though.

    Turned out she was only with me for my crackers.

    I know now why the caged bird sings.

    For crackers.


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  • #7
    Annasopra
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 41,236 ✭✭✭✭Annasopra


    Whats the name of that poster in a relationship with 2 women and they have children?

    It was so much easier to blame it on Them. It was bleakly depressing to think that They were Us. If it was Them, then nothing was anyone's fault. If it was us, what did that make Me? After all, I'm one of Us. I must be. I've certainly never thought of myself as one of Them. No one ever thinks of themselves as one of Them. We're always one of Us. It's Them that do the bad things.

    Terry Pratchet



  • #8
    Sauve
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 22,646 ✭✭✭✭Sauve


    MagicMarker wrote: »
    I'm onto you.

    Oh yeah sure you want an 'ethical', 'responsible', 'non-monogamous' relationship.

    Puh-lease.

    So what are our thoughts on this? A legitimate alternative lifestyle or a bunch a of randy hipsters who dress up their fear of commitment in fancy words?

    Live and let live is what I reckon. It wouldn't be for me, but that's irrelevant :)


  • #9
    Sauve
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 22,646 ✭✭✭✭Sauve


    Joeytheparrot wrote: »
    Whats the name of that poster in a relationship with 2 women and they have children?

    Alan


  • #10
    The_Valeyard
    Closed Accounts Posts: 12,452 ✭✭✭✭The_Valeyard


    5uspect wrote: »
    Do Pam and her five sisters count?

    Ah sure she is with half the country.


  • #11
    DazMarz
    Closed Accounts Posts: 8,493 ✭✭✭DazMarz


    There is one here somewhere. He'll be along soon to tell us all about it. Have no fear.


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  • #12
    shruikan2553
    Closed Accounts Posts: 6,113 ✭✭✭shruikan2553


    Lucky bastards.


  • #13
    Pissy Missy
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,860 ✭✭✭Pissy Missy


    I appreciate it because at least the party is being honest rather than cheating on you behind your back, though i don't like sharing personally but each to their own


  • #14
    Lau2976
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,030 ✭✭✭Lau2976


    I think it's quite interesting. I'd try it TBH but I'm a selfish git so I can't see it going well for anybody involved but me


  • #15
    dr WEST mr STAR
    Site Banned Posts: 1 ✭dr WEST mr STAR


    Joeytheparrot wrote: »
    Whats the name of that poster in a relationship with 2 women and they have children?
    Charlie sheen ?


  • #16
    Laura Palmer
    Closed Accounts Posts: 249 ✭✭Laura Palmer


    AnonoBoy wrote: »
    Ah Polly mon amour.

    I was in love with a Polly once.

    Quite the plumage.

    She always talked back though.

    Turned out she was only with me for my crackers.

    I know now why the caged bird sings.

    For crackers.
    I bet you were always on at her to put the kettle on though.


  • #17
    Doc
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,670 ✭✭✭Doc


    I know a few. Nice people (the ones I know) but I wouldn't be comfortable in a relationship with them as I value monogamy in my relationships.


  • #18
    Smidge
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,541 ✭✭✭Smidge


    Joeytheparrot wrote: »
    Whats the name of that poster in a relationship with 2 women and they have children?

    I miss the fella that was mad for the grannies :D


  • #19
    AnonoBoy
    Closed Accounts Posts: 22,559 ✭✭✭✭AnonoBoy


    Laura Palmer wrote: »
    I bet you were always on at her to put the kettle on though.

    She left me for some long-haired American lad who wrote a song about her and then blew his head off.

    Some birds eh?


  • #20
    Calibos
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2, Paid Member Posts: 7,933 ✭✭✭Calibos


    Joeytheparrot wrote: »
    Whats the name of that poster in a relationship with 2 women and they have children?

    Paging taxAHcruel...Paging taxAHcruel....


  • #21
    Tokyo
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 22,655 ✭✭✭✭Tokyo


    I am, but they keep finding out about each other... :/ *





    * may or may not be true


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  • #22
    TiMe2PaRtYYYYY
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 101 ✭✭TiMe2PaRtYYYYY


    "my girlfriend said no" doesn't sound polyethical to me.....zzzzzzzzzzzz


  • #23
    Doc
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,670 ✭✭✭Doc


    In all seriousness my old flatmate was in a relationship with a girl who wanted a polyamorist relationship with him. He talked about it to me a lot because he had never been in that kind of relationship before and wasn’t sure about it.
    The way he described it she wanted them to be in a committed relationship with each other but that they were free to experience sex with other people if they wanted to without that being seen as cheating. There were conditions which they had with each other that are different for each polyamorist couple but they had to be honest with each other and with the people they are with not keep the experiences outside the relationship secret. She even gave him some literature on it to read. The idea from what I gathered was that basically their relationship should be based on a connection that was much more then sex and that their love was not restrictive and didn’t prevent them from loving others in the same way.

    Their relationship had problems outside of the polyamorist issues which added in didn’t help so they broke up.
    After that relationship he continued to learn about the lifestyle and wanted to try another relationship that was polyamorist.
    He dated a couple of girls and was open with them about each other.

    I moved out and he moved away so I’m not sure if he still believes in it or not as I don’t speak to him often and haven’t asked


  • #24
    Gongoozler
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,263 ✭✭✭Gongoozler


    I wonder, if you're not comfortable with being in an open relationship, does it really just come down to insecurity?


  • #25
    smash
    Closed Accounts Posts: 34,808 ✭✭✭✭smash


    Just buy your girlfriend a load of wigs and only shag her doggy style...


  • #26
    RDM_83 again
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,116 ✭✭✭RDM_83 again


    Gongoozler wrote: »
    I wonder, if you're not comfortable with being in an open relationship, does it really just come down to insecurity?

    Maybe it is all insecurity but there is a big difference between the insecurity of say being jealous of X's or trying to control what clothes some-one wears for fear of the opposite sex, compared to not wanting them to have sex with other people.


  • #27
    Buona Fortuna
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,507 ✭✭✭Buona Fortuna


    I don't even share my pizza :o


  • #28
    Gongoozler
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,263 ✭✭✭Gongoozler


    RDM_83 again wrote: »
    Maybe it is all insecurity but there is a big difference between the insecurity of say being jealous of X's or trying to control what clothes some-one wears for fear of the opposite sex, compared to not wanting them to have sex with other people.

    Not that I disagree, but why do you think they're different?


  • #29
    Corkgirl210
    Closed Accounts Posts: 329 ✭✭Corkgirl210


    Each to their own & it it works congrats.. but imho... it's a cover up for love/sex addiction and lack of intimacy/commitment... dilutes the love in all dat! ;o)


  • #30
    whiskeyman
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 12,564 ✭✭✭✭whiskeyman


    Is that someone who eats Flora?


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  • #31
    ChippingSodbury
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,396 ✭✭✭ChippingSodbury


    I knew a guy who was in his fifties and had kids with his wife and also had a girlfriend in the same small town. He spend Fri, Sat, Sun with the wife and the rest of the week with the girlfriend. There never seemed to be any issue...


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