problems in relationship

CaraMay wrote: »

Who initiated the chat?

posted earlier but not sure if my post came through I initiated the chat..we were talking about the weekend and he reminded me that he wouldn't be up for going out, since he's not well at the moment. I said that was ok and that we'd relax and chat, and told him I needed to talk to him about things. I didn't say exactly what it was about but he asked what was the subject and told him it was about us. He said that was ok and he agreed we needed to talk to see how the relationship was going. He wasn't himself all evening ( could be down to not being well) have a 'gut' feeling that's it's make or break for us as we haven't slept together for 6 months and haven't seen a lot of each other recently. Could be me over thinking though

We'll see what the weekend brings...

CaraMay wrote: »

I have to ask op. If he isn't sleeping with you could he be sleeping with someone else?

i really don't know..I guess it's possible since our relationship isn't exactly going the best and anything can happen/change, slightly less chance as he has asperger's ( we both do in fact). Haven't seen any female names pop up on his phone and isn't really protective of it ( the phone). It's anyone's guess really!

Typer Monkey wrote: »

Why haven't you slept together for 6 months OP? You're only young so it seems off that the intimacy is already gone. Relationships should enhance your life. It seems like this one isn't much fun anymore? Life is too short OP

mostly down to a situation that happened very close to when it was our 1st year together. I got sick with an STI very out of the blue. It was quite severe and I was hospitalised for 4 days. When I was sick there was questions about cheating, he told me he didn't and I didn't either so we put it down to a mouth ulcer that he had shortly before I got sick ( makes sense with my diagnosis). It took a while for me to heal physically and emotionally I was scared to sleep with him afterwards in case it happened again. We've got ourselves into this catch 22 situation where we tried to sleep together, we'd set the scene as relaxed as we could. Only when we got down to it, I seemed to tense up, and then I experienced pain, which led to me not being able to stand the pain, and not being able to continue. And then I don't want to sleep with him cos the pain puts me off it. Complicated situation much?!

Then he'd get frustrated and annoyed with me. Haven't tried lately as he's been unwell, I also got sick so we haven't seen each other since the middle of September, which is quite a while. No doesn't seem to be fun any more in all honestly.