Have you ever been cheated on?

Miss Lizzie Jones · 06-10-2014 04:02PM

Cormac... wrote: »

<snip> not worth it

I already seen it.

Generic Dreadhead · 06-10-2014 04:08PM

Miss Lizzie Jones wrote: »

I already seen it.

Well in that case, sorry, it came across more A grade a$$hole than tongue in cheek which i intended, it's just been one of those days

Ken Shamrock · 06-10-2014 04:21PM

Jaysus lads, I'm all for expressing the emotions and chatting about important sh1t but this is too depressing for AH!

Miss Lizzie Jones · 06-10-2014 04:24PM

Cormac... wrote: »

Well in that case, sorry, it came across more A grade a$$hole than tongue in cheek which i intended, it's just been one of those days

Which is why I never posted a response when I had first seen it. Apology accepted but you were correct about one thing. I did sound like I was bragging which wasn't my intention. I was simply being honest.

guest2014 · 06-10-2014 04:31PM

bear1 wrote: »

I was reading the best friend thread and I thought of another similar type of thread.
Before I met my now wife I was in a relationship that lasted about 4 months give or take.
I was a right mug but I learnt my lesson after that.
I knew the girl for a bit before we started seeing each other but she had a boyfriend so nothing ever happened.
Then I found out they broke up so I thought I'd take my chance.
Met up on Paddys night and went back to her place for a bit of err playtime.
Really started to like her and we ended up going on dates, cinema etc. Relationship stuff.
Her birthday was coming up and she was having a party at her place but said that no guys were allowed as she wanted a girly night.
Had no problem with it and so stayed at home and invited some of the lads over for cans.
Around midnight I get a text from her telling me she was sorry but was just after sleeping with her ex. Cow didn't even have the courage to meet me in person.
She told me she'd understand if I never wanted to see her again but I liked her a lot and thought I'll try and forgive it.
Slowly things were getting better until it was now my birthday and we were all going to have a night on the town. The ex said she'd be a bit late as she needs time to get ready etc and then meet my friends girlfriend for drinks. Thought no more of it until who walks through the door of the pub? Said friends girlfriend.
Turned out that my ex was meeting up with her ex every week for their own playtime and was with the guy the same day as my birthday.
Dumped her the next day... in person.
So AH, what are your stories?

I would never go out with a girl who puts on on the 1st night. big potential to be a cheat.

Jaxxy · 06-10-2014 04:33PM

guest2014 wrote: »

I would never go out with a girl who puts on on the 1st night. big potential to be a cheat.

What rubbish.

castletownman · 06-10-2014 04:39PM

Wasn't cheated on per se but was recently used as a pawn in a cheating relationship.

Met a girl, went on a couple of dates. Got on swimmingly. Noticed after a week or two she was becoming more and more distant and barely responded to any texts. Turns out her boyfriend was out of the country for the two weeks we were "having fun" and had just returned. She neglected to tell me that fairly salient point!

One of the pitfalls of Tinder.

Sometimes I curse the sexual energy I give off

indigo twist · 06-10-2014 04:47PM

guest2014 wrote: »

I would never go out with a girl who puts on on the 1st night. big potential to be a cheat.

I would never go out with a guy who would believe in the existence of your suggested correlation between mutual consensual sex between two single people, and infidelity while in a relationship.

By the way, your post suggests that you'd judge this hypothetical girl for doing so, yet you'd do the same yourself (or else how would you know that she was willing to do so?) Tad hypocritical, no?

Lalealynn · 06-10-2014 05:37PM

razorblunt wrote: »

My 5 Kings got beaten by 6 Aces in Texas Hold Em one night.
Still getting over it. Leonard Cohen eases the pain.

Kudos for working Leonard Cohen into a bad beat story.

Gongoozler · 06-10-2014 06:17PM

I'm pretty sure that my first boyfriend did. I only realised after we'd broken up. He broke up with me, for the last few weeks / months her name seemed to be coming up a lot (as mentioned) and oh then there was him telling me that she kissed him. This was actually the third girl that kissed him in the time we were together. Not his fault of course.

But yeah, then he was with her two weeks after we broke up, so I'm guessing that after 2.5 years, you don't go straight to someone else unless you were long out of the relationship yourself.

For a while I internet stalked her, it helped in a way that she was bi polar, and bordering on an alcoholic, made me feel not so bad. Then he told me a year later that she'd broken up with him for someone else. So, haha.

ibarelycare · 07-10-2014 10:44AM

I've been cheated on twice...by the same person! More fool me

First time was when we were together about 6 or 7 months. He kissed someone else, didn't tell me, broke up with me saying he didn't love me any more and then a few weeks later told me he made a mistake and he DID still love me. He reeled me in with that, then broke it to me that he'd actually cheated on me. Silly old me was blinded by love and forgave him!

Fast forward 2 years later and he cheated on me again. With one of my best friends. Who was also his best friend's WIFE. In my apartment. While I was in bed. My housemate walked in on them. He came into bed with me, said nothing, put his arms around me (after touching her, gross!) and went to sleep and told me the following evening.

It's a really horrible thing to go through, and I really feel for anyone who's been in the same position. It took me a long time to stop blaming myself. We had talked about it previously and said it was unrealistic for anyone to say "I'll never cheat on you" because no one can say that for certain, but we both said if we got unhappy enough that it would come to that, that we'd talk to the other person. Unfortunately he was too cowardly to deal with whatever issues he had, and did the worst thing he could. Not only that, but they'd been having an emotional affair for the previous 6 months.

I think someone who has done that to someone is FAR more likely to cheat in the future. He had cheated on a previous girlfriend and told me that he'd done it because he was so unhappy and in a messed up place, and he couldn't see that happening with us cos we had such a great relationship...no doubt those lines will be rinsed and repeated with every future girlfriend

TL;DR - don't cheat. It's a fucking scummy thing to do.

Going Strong · 07-10-2014 03:56PM

redfacedbear wrote: »

First proper grown up relationship finished with her lining up my replacement before giving me the heave-ho. I believe she ended up marrying him and it's only in retrospect that I can see how profoundly incompatible we were. No hard feelings now (but at the time... jaysus I was furious.)

Same happened to me with my first steady girlfriend. She was cheating on me with a guy she worked with for a couple of months of our relationship. I wasn't angry though, more bemused as to why she didn't just end the relationship and told her as much. She was always one for big drama mind you so that probably explained the whole 'double life' thing. I considered myself better off out of it really as I found her to be a lot of hard work. Also, her mother hated my guts and made no secret about it.

C.K Dexter Haven · 07-10-2014 09:28PM

Cormac... wrote: »

Well in that case, sorry, it came across more A grade a$$hole than tongue in cheek which i intended, it's just been one of those days

Miss Lizzie Jones wrote: »

Which is why I never posted a response when I had first seen it. Apology accepted but you were correct about one thing. I did sound like I was bragging which wasn't my intention. I was simply being honest.

Awe, dats loverly:cool:

Have you ever been cheated on?

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