Things that have been done to embarrassing death

Electric Sheep · 06-09-2014 11:43AM #1

Photo booths. Sweet carts. Pig on a spit.

Milly33 · 06-09-2014 12:17PM

Suppose it is just the new things to be done... I do think the sweet booths are over done but at the same time I always go looking for some surgery goodness

lubie76 · 06-09-2014 12:51PM

Church weddings by people who never attend mass and are non practising! i.e half the country.

eviltwin · 06-09-2014 01:04PM

white off the shoulder wedding dresses

Milly33 · 06-09-2014 01:08PM

Wishing you didn't say pig spit now we were kinda planning that..

krankykitty · 06-09-2014 02:06PM

Milly33 wrote: »

Wishing you didn't say pig spit now we were kinda planning that..

I've never actually been at a wedding with one. I would give my left arm for a pig roll instead of beef or salmon!

Pistachios & cream · 06-09-2014 02:08PM

I think the vast majority of weddings have things that are done to death! Beef or salmon anyone.
Don't worry milly as long as you and your guests are happy with a pig on spit then it will be perfect.

I am glad chocolate fountains seem to have waned in popularity. They always seemed like such a bad idea! Everyone all dressed up, alcohol flowing and flowing chocolate just looking to make a mess!

shruikan2553 · 06-09-2014 02:12PM

The typical Irish wedding of local church, local hotel, eat beef or salmon, maybe a choice of pig or bird if you are lucky, the band plays for awhile, some sandwiches and cocktail sausages, the DJ plays for a few hours and then we all go home.

stinkle · 06-09-2014 02:16PM

+1 on the chocolate fountain thing. Milly Ive not been to a wedding with pig on a spit either (though we could have arranged it at our own). I wouldn't worry too much about any food options coming under fire, a wedding is a mass catering event. For me it'd be additional non-essential stuff like the chocolate fountains, stuff you wouldn't actually miss if you were a guest and could do without feeling "obliged" to have/spend money on if you're planning a wedding.

unclebill98 · 06-09-2014 02:25PM

Its safe to say everythings been dont to death. Irish Dancers/Singing waiters have not been mentioned.... I did sound for a original band last month. Was the strangest thing I've seen at a wedding. They played for an hour before the meal. Full 6 piece band!

solerina · 06-09-2014 05:12PM

Electric Sheep wrote: »

Photo booths. Sweet carts. Pig on a spit.

I actually love a photo booth at a wedding and also love pig on a spit so I am quite happy if they keep boing 'done to death'

lazygal · 06-09-2014 06:47PM

Churches and hotels miles away from each other. Church weddings full stop. They're all the same no matter how "personal" the couple thinks it is. Arriving to a hotel with no food being served. Speeches, I wish we hadn't bothered with them. Irish dancing, candy carts and sundry craps instead of food and drinks flowing.

Toots · 06-09-2014 06:48PM

I don't think it's possible to do pig on a spit to death. They're the most incredibly awesome things ever! In fact if I was at a wedding and it was pig on a spit with floury baps instead of a main course I'd be as happy as, well, a pig in plop!

One thing I think has been done to death is 'surprise' first dances, however they're a particular pet peeve of mine, so for me they were over done as soon as people started copying the original one.

Faith · 06-09-2014 06:50PM

Threads like this that are just designed to embarrass and undermine people who've chosen something for their wedding that's listed on this thread :rolleyes:

Toots · 06-09-2014 07:01PM

Faith wrote: »

Threads like this that are just designed to embarrass and undermine people who've chosen something for their wedding that's listed on this thread :rolleyes:

I'm hoping that isn't the case with this thread, however I shall leave things open for the moment, providing that posters express their opinions in a constructive way, and don't use it as an excuse to bash other posters' choices for their wedding. Everyone has different tastes, so please be respectful of that.

.jacksparrow. · 06-09-2014 07:06PM

shruikan2553 wrote: »

The typical Irish wedding of local church, local hotel, eat beef or salmon, maybe a choice of pig or bird if you are lucky, the band plays for awhile, some sandwiches and cocktail sausages, the DJ plays for a few hours and then we all go home.

Must be a winning formula so if everyone keeps doing it.

Why change something that works...

eager tortoise · 06-09-2014 07:09PM

^^^ I agree with this.

There's a reason things like sweets etc are done over and over again. Generally speaking, people like them.

I don't understand this expectation for brides and grooms to have a wedding that is different/bigger/better/more original than the last one guests attended. A wedding is a wedding after all.

Birdie086 · 06-09-2014 08:56PM

We are actually having beef or salmon and probably adding a third very unadventerous option - chicken!! Also doing a candy cart, but doing it ourselves rather than forking out 350 -500 euro for one!! If it was a summer wedding we would have considered a bbq/pig in spit type event but feeding 170 people on NYE will be easier indoors!!

Also having church service, although neither of us would be mass go-ers, I am sure we will have all the cheesy wedding boxes ticked. We may just go mad and mix things up a bit by serving cocktail sausages/goujons/sandwiches on arrival at the hotel.

LynnGrace · 06-09-2014 10:11PM

eager tortoise wrote: »

^^^ I agree with this.

There's a reason things like sweets etc are done over and over again. Generally speaking, people like them.

I don't understand this expectation for brides and grooms to have a wedding that is different/bigger/better/more original than the last one guests attended. A wedding is a wedding after all.

Agreed.

And nobody should forget what the day is really about, and that, in my opinion, is, celebrating the start of a long and happy marriage, surrounded by your nearest and dearest.

xzanti · 06-09-2014 10:44PM

I think it's so unfair to say that things are 'done to death'... couples stress and plan and agonise so much over the little details of their big day (well a lot do anyway)..

I'd hate to think of people sitting there thinking "God this is all done to death".. Yes there are common factors in a lot of weddings but they are generally done to the couples own specific taste on the day.. which will set it apart from the last wedding.

rainbowtrout · 06-09-2014 10:50PM

xzanti wrote: »

I think it's so unfair to say that things are 'done to death'... couples stress and plan and agonise so much over the little details of their big day (well a lot do anyway)..

I'd hate to think of people sitting there thinking "God this is all done to death".. Yes there are common factors in a lot of weddings but they are generally done to the couples own specific taste on the day.. which will set it apart from the last wedding.

To the couple it might be different, to the guests it is just more of the same. All wedding menus are broadly similar. The vast majority of Irish weddings follow the same formula : church - reception - band - DJ, with speeches, first dance and cake cutting thrown in.

worded · 06-09-2014 11:41PM

Things that have been done to death?
Weddings themselves.

Is it one 1 in 3 survive that special day?

worded · 06-09-2014 11:59PM

In all seriousness - see point 8

A premarital course is essential

http://www.theawl.com/2011/07/the-eight-truths-about-weddings-that-no-one-ever-tells-you

lazygal · 07-09-2014 07:46AM

xzanti wrote: »

I think it's so unfair to say that things are 'done to death'... couples stress and plan and agonise so much over the little details of their big day (well a lot do anyway)..

I'd hate to think of people sitting there thinking "God this is all done to death".. Yes there are common factors in a lot of weddings but they are generally done to the couples own specific taste on the day.. which will set it apart from the last wedding.

I'm 99% sure most of our guests had been to weddings like ours many times. I've been to many myself and it's a formula that works. But we weren't under any illusions that ours was different or quirky. Most weddings aren't, so couples should relax and stop stressing about getting jars wrapped in burlap and making "rustic" signs. Pinterest has a LOT to answer for with all the "rustic country feel" weddings doing the rounds.

Cienciano · 07-09-2014 08:14AM

Do what you like, who cares if it was done to death?

pwurple · 07-09-2014 08:15AM

Don't like to say things have been done to death for weddings either. There's only so much originality you can bring to any party. We've all been to loads of children's birthday parties, we've all been to loads of weddings. I've yet to see people say... Gosh, that happy birthday cake thing with the candles has been DONE to DEATH, because we all enjoy the happiness it brings. Same thing over and over again is perfectly fine by me when it is a happy occasion.

Typer Monkey · 07-09-2014 08:24AM

lazygal wrote: »

I'm 99% sure most of our guests had been to weddings like ours many times. I've been to many myself and it's a formula that works. But we weren't under any illusions that ours was different or quirky. Most weddings aren't, so couples should relax and stop stressing about getting jars wrapped in burlap and making "rustic" signs. Pinterest has a LOT to answer for with all the "rustic country feel" weddings doing the rounds.

I was just going to say the 'rustic' thing is really having a moment eh? I don't know if it's actually happening in real life or just on wedding blogs but it seems burlap, jam jars, bunting and wild flowers are where it's at at the moment! (Followed by vintage birdcages and twee teacups)

:D

07-09-2014 08:34AM

I don't really get the point....by saying something has been done to death it's suggesting that you want something different. Yet doing something different is also sneered at as "trying too hard."
It's a party FFS.
I've noticed the sneery heads on guests at recent weddings I've attended. Sad really, that the cynicism kicked in so soon after their own big day.

Tarzana · 07-09-2014 09:12AM

Toots wrote: »

One thing I think has been done to death is 'surprise' first dances, however they're a particular pet peeve of mine, so for me they were over done as soon as people started copying the original one.

Imagine how much stress and weeping and gnashing of teeth goes with organising those surprise dances?

Tarzana · 07-09-2014 09:15AM

.jacksparrow. wrote: »

Must be a winning formula so if everyone keeps doing it.

It's not really though, people just it this way because it's the convention in this country and it can be difficult and expensive to do things differently, probably due to economies of scale. I think it's fair to say that many people are thoroughly fed up of this format.

.jacksparrow. · 07-09-2014 09:17AM

Tarzana wrote: »

It's not really though, people just it this way because it's the convention in this country and it can be difficult to do it differently. I think it's fair to say that many people are thoroughly fed up of this format.

Well then these people shouldn't go if their so selfish that all they can think about is themselves on one of a couples biggest day of their lives.

Spoilt brats comes to mind.

Things that have been done to embarrassing death

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