Are beautiful people less lucky in love?

Ghost Buster · 17-08-2014 12:40PM #1

A slow realisation I have had over the years is that the majority of friends and acquaintances with failed marriages, a string of heart breaking relationships, bringing up kids alone, this sorta thing are all good looking, the type who wouldnt have to work at getting a partner. Conversely most of the happy relationships, my own included, that I know of are amongst ordinary people, the type who, whilst not quite scaring children in public certainly arent gonna grace the covers of VIP or Hello any time soon.
Why might this be.
Do The Plain Folk value what they have?
Do The Beautiful people get it too easy?
Does a Beautiful Persons success rate simply raise the odds of then having more failures.
What?

And yes this is a bit of a generalisation with exceptions either way.

Talib Fiasco · 17-08-2014 12:46PM

Quality over quantity everyday but when you can have both why settle down and "be happy"?

Dayum · 17-08-2014 12:48PM

I'm gorgeous and I've been with my gorgeous partner for nearly 10 years.

Couldn't be happier.

PizzamanIRL · 17-08-2014 12:49PM

Yes because they more than likely go through a lot more relationships for the wrong reason.

If you're ugly, your partner is with you for a reason and must love you.

NewYork1979 · 17-08-2014 12:52PM

I think so.

I think good looking people have a habit of the Grass is Greener syndrome because they are used to a lot of attention and so they can mess up good relationships. They can develop a habit of liking having their ego stroked.

The increased attention also leads to more flings/partners and thus more failures I guess.

Awkward Badger · 17-08-2014 12:52PM

Might have something to do with getting into the habit of going through a lot of different partners when younger. So when they settle down and a relationship gets into a bit of difficulty, jumping ship and finding something better is an actual option and possibly easier decision to make.

Whereas those who don't have as many partners are not in the habit of having options and changing relationships so they may be more inclined to work on relationships.

Ghost Buster · 17-08-2014 01:07PM

Awkward Badger wrote: »

Might have something to do with getting into the habit of going through a lot of different partners when younger. So when they settle down and a relationship gets into a bit of difficulty, jumping ship and finding something better is an actual option and possibly easier decision to make.

Whereas those who don't have as many partners are not in the habit of having options and changing relationships so they may be more inclined to work on relationships.

I agree. But with this comes misery. My mother in law who modelled in her day and her partner (Step father in law i suppose) who was an utter ladies man in his day both have estranged children, estranged partners/former spouses, and this is forever throwing up dramas and discord. Thank got Im not a babe!!!

fleet_admiral · 17-08-2014 01:09PM

My last girlfriend........she died from exhaustion

NewYork1979 · 17-08-2014 01:10PM

I agree too that there is more heartbreak in the end..

yizorselves · 17-08-2014 01:11PM

I think we are. We are constantly attracting other beautiful people and our beautiful partners the same.

Its hard when there's a constant flow of beauty coming at both of you. Ugly people are so lucky

shrewd · 17-08-2014 01:11PM

I think personality speaks louder in relationship.

i've seen some extremely beautiful women that love their average looking partner to death.

I've also seen some extremely handsome men as well, that are very faithful to their partner. some, which are my firends, believe they've seen it all, some believe no one else can surpass their partner.

i think it depends on the character of the person

whirlpool · 17-08-2014 01:14PM

Ugly people are afraid to leave each other, in case nobody else will have them.

Sure aren't they lucky ANYONE wanted them?!

toastedpickles · 17-08-2014 01:15PM

There has to be more to life than just being really really good looking :P

Birneybau · 17-08-2014 01:17PM

Yes, we are.

Weep for us.

Karl Stein · 17-08-2014 01:18PM

Jennifer* and Jonathan Hart would say you're wrong.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AbZaiQWe03U

*She's goygeous

IamtheWalrus · 17-08-2014 01:18PM

toastedpickles wrote: »

There has to be more to life than just being really really good looking :P

Are you a 2?

yizorselves · 17-08-2014 01:21PM

Its probably not love we're unlucky in. More like like or lust...

Love is wanting to be with someone and you cant properly put it into words why. They have an effect on you and its just the way life is.

Its all chemicals innit

anncoates · 17-08-2014 01:22PM

Karl Stein wrote: »

Jennifer* and Jonathan Hart would say you're wrong.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AbZaiQWe03U

*She's goygeous

Now there was a ugly fcuker (Max).

Karl Stein · 17-08-2014 01:30PM

anncoates wrote: »

Now there was a ugly fcuker (Max).

And a commie sympathiser too..

A good sod he was imho.

Macavity. · 17-08-2014 01:32PM

All the studies suggest the opposite. Better looking people are happier in general.

Wibbs · 17-08-2014 01:36PM

Good looking people simply have more options in the dating pool, a "higher market value" as it were, so having more options usually means more likelihood of straying and as Awkward Badger notes this usually means more partners when young, so they get more used to novelty. Plainer people have fewer options and are also more likely IME to value personality. Personality has also got "market value" but obvious good looks can overpower it.

I would say if I was to be very reductive that people have a reproductive market value, but it can vary through life and can go up or down depending on different factors. EG the studious man in school who gets good results, a great degree and starts earning money, power and social respect gains value. In school he's not one of the "cool kids", but as an adult he's more attractive. It can go down to, so the "hot babe" at 18 loses market value as she ages and by the time she's 40 that value is significantly less. If she's not hitched at 35 she might drop her "standards" and go for a plainer man. He's a safer bet. If a hot guy and a hot woman get hitched at 25, by the time they're both 45, his value is going to be higher than hers(so long as he doesn't bloat up) and then you can have the midlife crisis where he leaves her for a younger model.

This market value also comes in with couples where one is notably better looking than the other. They're actually quite uncommon and various research has shown this. People overwhelmingly hook up with partners of similar background, education, intelligence and looks. The less good looking one has some non looks based extra market value that makes up the difference. The obvious cliche is the billionaire old guy with the young swimwear model.

anncoates · 17-08-2014 01:38PM

Karl Stein wrote: »

And a commie sympathiser too..

A good sod he was imho.

"He got called a "Red son of a bitch" by the head of Colombia pictures

Faux Socialist · 17-08-2014 01:39PM

Some of my best shags have been with ugly women and bbws. A lot of the time, good looking women can be shallow and lacking in emotions which aren't great attributes for the bedroom.

Geomy · 17-08-2014 01:47PM

I've seen this a lot year's ago.
A guy who wasn't the brightest spark or blessed with good looks get off with the best looking woman in the Club, because all the other guys thought they weren't good enough.

folamh · 17-08-2014 02:16PM

Geomy wrote: »

A guy who wasn't the brightest spark or blessed with good looks get off with the best looking woman in the Club, because all the other guys thought they weren't good enough.

Neil from the Inbetweeners.

Reindeer · 17-08-2014 03:02PM

Wibbs wrote: »

Good looking people simply have more options in the dating pool, a "higher market value" as it were, so having more options usually means more likelihood of straying and as Awkward Badger notes this usually means more partners when young, so they get more used to novelty. Plainer people have fewer options and are also more likely IME to value personality. Personality has also got "market value" but obvious good looks can overpower it.

I would say if I was to be very reductive that people have a reproductive market value, but it can vary through life and can go up or down depending on different factors. EG the studious man in school who gets good results, a great degree and starts earning money, power and social respect gains value. In school he's not one of the "cool kids", but as an adult he's more attractive. It can go down to, so the "hot babe" at 18 loses market value as she ages and by the time she's 40 that value is significantly less. If she's not hitched at 35 she might drop her "standards" and go for a plainer man. He's a safer bet. If a hot guy and a hot woman get hitched at 25, by the time they're both 45, his value is going to be higher than hers(so long as he doesn't bloat up) and then you can have the midlife crisis where he leaves her for a younger model.

This market value also comes in with couples where one is notably better looking than the other. They're actually quite uncommon and various research has shown this. People overwhelmingly hook up with partners of similar background, education, intelligence and looks. The less good looking one has some non looks based extra market value that makes up the difference. The obvious cliche is the billionaire old guy with the young swimwear model.

Isn't this you here?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_detailpage&v=hKWmFWRVLlU#t=25

Shakespeare's Sister · 17-08-2014 03:08PM

Karl Stein wrote: »

Jennifer* and Jonathan Hart would say you're wrong.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AbZaiQWe03U

*She's goygeous

The actor who played Jonathan Hart was in a relationship with the late Natalie Wood. Now SHE... was goygeous.

As Joan Collins said: Being born beautiful is like being born rich and getting poorer as life goes on.

ancapailldorcha · 17-08-2014 03:12PM

Reindeer wrote: »

Isn't this you here?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_detailpage&v=hKWmFWRVLlU#t=25

A 7 minute version of a Barney Stinson joke? Ok then.

folamh · 17-08-2014 03:13PM

Reindeer wrote: »

Isn't this you here?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_detailpage&v=hKWmFWRVLlU#t=25

I was thinking more: http://theantifeminist.com/age-peak-female-sexual-attractiveness/

Reindeer · 17-08-2014 03:15PM

ancapailldorcha wrote: »

A 7 minute version of a Barney Stinson "joke"? Ok then.

Wibbs can likely argue there's merit to the "joke"...

Wibbs · 17-08-2014 03:23PM

Reindeer wrote: »

Isn't this you here?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_detailpage&v=hKWmFWRVLlU#t=25

That's pretty funny IMH.

I love some of the comments of the outraged. There's a good rebuttal to it too where a woman does the Pig/Money graph of men(also a left handed type. Coincidence, I think not...).

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