If someone makes a pass at you, should you tell your boyfriend / girlfriend?

whirlpool · 19-07-2014 03:15PM #1

If you're in a relationship and someone else makes a pass at you / comes on to you / tries to kiss you etc etc, would you tell your partner?

Dr Turk Turkelton · 19-07-2014 03:16PM

Straight away just so she knows I'm still in the game!

DEFTLEFTHAND · 19-07-2014 03:17PM

No, not worth the hassle.

yeahimhere · 19-07-2014 03:19PM

Nope, it would just seem like you're boasting / trying to get a rise.

_Redzer_ · 19-07-2014 03:21PM

Not necessarily. I suppose it would depend on the relationship. If it wasn't of any interest to you and you stopped it all, then I don't see what the fuss is.

If your partner is someone who might think more of what it is when it genuinely wasn't, then no I don't think it's worth the hassle.

Then again, if you've a very secure and open relationship where this would be a "oh, ok" situation then I don't see the harm in telling them.

UCDVet · 19-07-2014 03:21PM

Depends on the context.

If your at the gym and someone chats you up a bit, probably not worth mentioning. If it's a mutual friend or a co-worker you've close to, probably should.

Sparks43 · 19-07-2014 03:23PM

Bang her then keep stum :-P

tonyka · 19-07-2014 03:23PM

Never tell...

LizzieJones · 19-07-2014 03:23PM

I would tell him (if I was in a relationship).

Mickey H · 19-07-2014 03:24PM

Don't ask don't tell. Ask no questions, hear no lies.

Awkward Badger · 19-07-2014 03:26PM

Non issue. You don't have to inform your OH of every single little thing that happens during your day.

Tasden · 19-07-2014 03:26PM

Depends on the person trying it on I guess.

If its your partners best friend then yeah I'd tell them because they deserve to know. If its some randomer in a club when you're out with friends then probably not cause there's no point.

It wouldn't be something I'd actively keep from someone though, if it came up in conversation or they asked about a night out or whatever then I wouldn't lie about it.

Fr_Dougal · 19-07-2014 03:32PM

If someone made a pass at me I probably wouldn't even realise it myself, let alone tell a partner about it!

Luke92 · 19-07-2014 03:35PM

LizzieJones wrote: »

I would tell him (if I was in a relationship).

Just putting it out there that you're single?

I would say something. It always boosts the confidence a little when someone hits on you! Even better if there a 7 or above! I do be delighted with life

Snake · 19-07-2014 03:35PM

Yes, if they happened to find out then you not telling them could look bad for you, like you're trying to hide it imo

Miss.Mayhem · 19-07-2014 03:41PM

I wouldn't tell him. I'm not a cheater so if someone else made a pass at me I'd just reject them and tell them that's not on. I wouldn't tell my fella about it because a). it would be a non-issue because I rejected it, and b). I think that would just upset him and make him paranoid (he was cheated on a lot by his last girlfriend).

A Greedy Algorithm · 19-07-2014 03:41PM

Generally no, depends on who it is.

whirlpool · 19-07-2014 03:48PM

GrayFox208 wrote: »

Yes, if they happened to find out then you not telling them could look bad for you, like you're trying to hide it imo

It's such a grey area. For example, if you tell them, there's always the risk that they might get paranoid that you're just trying to show them that other people want you, to make them feel bad, that you're insensitive to their feelings, etc etc. But if you don't tell them, then that brings up a whole other kind of paranoia.

I think that just telling them would maybe be the best thing to do and if they have a problem with it then obviously that just shows that there are insecurities there that they need to deal with anyway.

WilyCoyote · 19-07-2014 04:55PM

Mums the word here on this occasion. Unless it's your girlfriend's mum ........ then bang away.
Oops, can't believe I just wrote that.:o

Wishiwasa Littlebitaller · 19-07-2014 04:57PM

TheZohan wrote: »

If someone made a pass at me I probably wouldn't even realise it myself, let alone tell a partner about it!

PM me.

Paco Rodriguez · 19-07-2014 05:01PM

I would bring it up but i wouldnt be worried about psychology of it. Its not really a dark secret.

Czarcasm · 19-07-2014 05:10PM

It'd be a non-issue, what would anyone expect their partner should do about it?

My wife would be only too delighted if she could find someone to take me off her hands :pac:

Holsten · 19-07-2014 05:12PM

No I wouldn't say anything unless it was a mutual friend or something.

Why cause jealousy?

Chattastrophe! · 19-07-2014 05:15PM

Hell yeah!

"See! See! Somebody fancies me! I'm a catch! You should totally be nicer to me, and buy me flowers, and say nice things, and do nice things, and stuff like that!"

No one ever chats me up, so sadly it's not an issue for me.

If someone makes a pass at you, should you tell your boyfriend / girlfriend?

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