Really miss having a friend network

LegacyUser · 08-06-2014 03:47PM #1

Hi,

I'm a girl in my 20's. Over the past couple of years, for various reasons - mostly people emigrating and drifting apart from some people - I've found that my friend network has pretty much dissipated. I really miss it. I miss the fun and planning and sense of belonging and security that comes with having a proper good group of friends.

I'm in a relationship but I've found that this doesn't make up for my situation at all. My boyfriend and I tend to mostly hang out on a one-on-one basis, and it just isn't enough.

I've tried a good few things - playing sports, volunteering, taking a class - but I'm finding that the people I meet there don't seem to get beyond the stage of friendly acquaintances. I was wondering if people had any advice on how to make things stick and how to rebuild a network of friends for myself.

clandestine72 · 09-06-2014 03:53PM

Hi Sephy,

It takes a good bit of time to develop really great friends so for now I think you just need to keep plugging away at doing activities which interest and enrich your life, and over time those friendly acquaintances might become friendly friends. The other thing which I have found great is Meetups, because there is such a variety of activities on there. Also, a lot of people join Meetups because they genuinely want to make new friends rather than just for the love of playing a sport, so you will find people with the same hopes as you. Hope things work out, good luck.

Rubberchikken · 09-06-2014 10:19PM

I agree with first poster.
It can take a long time to build up good friendships especially as people get older.
Keep being involved in activities.

Really miss having a friend network

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