How much have you changed in the last 5 years?

maguic24 · 08-06-2014 05:54PM

Follaton_Wood wrote: »

More than I'd have ever imagined. Looking back, I took far too much for granted, but looking forward - those rose tinted glasses don't help anyone.

I also thought my granaunt (raised me) would live forever when I was 17. She passed away the January before I did my leaving cert. I was absolutely devastated.

If someone told me 5 years what I would be doing now.....my response would be 'Eh....no!'

beano345 · 08-06-2014 06:00PM

Quit drinking and the smokes,back into training,got rid of the last emotional vampire in my life and planning a year or two of travelling,have no time for users or bs anymore though sometimes the clearer your vision gets,the more you wish you were blind.

maguic24 · 08-06-2014 06:03PM

beano345 wrote: »

planning a year or two of travelling

Take me with you? Please, I'll be quiet.

I am so jelly! I am definitely going to go travelling if I manage to save up enough money after I have this b*starding masters done.

Ugh.

beano345 · 08-06-2014 06:05PM

maguic24 wrote: »

Take me with you? Please, I'll be quiet.

I am so jelly! I am definitely going to go travelling if I manage to save up enough money after I have this b*starding masters done. Ugh.

Sorry I'm going lone wolf on this one :pac:

Maphisto · 08-06-2014 06:06PM

maguic24 wrote: »

I also lost a load of weight, sadly my boobs shrank too. I prefer my figure now and the fact that I can actually run!!

I realised that I am not going to move to Manchester and marry the guy I was madly in love with in secondary school. Oh to be young and naive.

I also discovered you don't get pregnant just by looking at a penis. I was terrified of them, no joke!

That last one isn't true

maguic24 · 08-06-2014 06:07PM

Maphisto wrote: »

That last one isn't true

That last one was VERY VERY true. I remember being absolutely horrified when we got condoms in our welcome pack in college. Horrified! I was very innocent.

Edit: It was a joke, looking at the penis thing, but I was trying to explain how bad I was. I swear to god I thought I was pregnant after the first time I did it, as we were told in school how 'unreliable' condoms were.

anncoates · 08-06-2014 06:57PM

The Backwards Man wrote: »

Five years ago I was a knowitall, cantankerous, bitter old bastard.

Let's start a club.

Maphisto · 08-06-2014 07:06PM

maguic24 wrote: »

When I'm sleepy, I talk utter shiite. Or I don't pick up on things and end up embarrassing myself.......

We t-shirts for that

maguic24 · 08-06-2014 07:20PM

Maphisto wrote: »

We t-shirts for that

Are you trying to say I'm not smrt, I mean smart? Cos I am, I gots all the smarts. I just suffer from short fleeting periods of dopiness from time to time. :P :pac:

shalalala · 08-06-2014 07:33PM

5 years ago I was newly single. Now I am newly single. I think I should just disappear in May.

I think I have become a little less willing to take on board other people's opinions of me. Other than that, Nadda. I wish things had changed more!

ivytwine · 08-06-2014 08:19PM

Five years ago next month, funnily enough, was when things began to change for me.

I was 20, in college, and unhappily single. Had spent all of the previous semester being an absolute misery and making everyone around me feel bad

Was pining over my ex, was crippled by anxiety, had an unhealthy friendship with someone who loved putting me down and making me feel bad.

Five years ago next month I went on my study abroad semester- and it's there I began to heal myself, become truly independent. I would always run down home if there was a problem before as my college was only a hop away. It took a while for the changes to kick in; it took counselling for anxiety, it took a massive falling out with that bad friend and a few more, it took nights of crying with loneliness but I barely recognise myself from 2009.

I'm up in the big smoke now, working in a job that is ok for the time being, going to head back to college again part time in September. Still single, but ok with that and open to a relationship if one were to turn up!

I'm at peace now too- I don't get up in the morning shaking with my stomach in knots. I can stand up for myself too. Thankfully, things have changed.

maguic24 · 08-06-2014 08:26PM

ivytwine wrote: »

Five years ago next month, funnily enough, was when things began to change for me.

I was 20, in college, and unhappily single. Had spent all of the previous semester being an absolute misery and making everyone around me feel bad Was pining over my ex, was crippled by anxiety, had an unhealthy friendship with someone who loved putting me down and making me feel bad.

Five years ago next month I went on my study abroad semester- and it's there I began to heal myself, become truly independent. I would always run down home if there was a problem before as my college was only a hop away. It took a while for the changes to kick in; it took counselling for anxiety, it took a massive falling out with that bad friend and a few more, it took nights of crying with loneliness but I barely recognise myself from 2009.

I'm up in the big smoke now, working in a job that is ok for the time being, going to head back to college again part time in September. Still single, but ok with that and open to a relationship if one were to turn up!

I'm at peace now too- I don't get up in the morning shaking with my stomach in knots. I can stand up for myself too. Thankfully, things have changed.

An anxiety disorder is a terrible thing!! I have one too, thankfully not as bad as it was and I deal with it a lot better now. It was really bad when I was in the final year of my undergrad. I also had a friend exactly like the one you described!! Total wagon so she was, we're not friends anymore.

You sound so similar to me, it's scary! It's like I wrote that post! Don't get too caught up on the single thing, it has its perks.

Pawn · 08-06-2014 08:35PM

maguic24 wrote: »

So, has your outlook and attitude changed drastically in the last 5 years?

I'm pretty much the same since I was 19...

ivytwine · 08-06-2014 09:29PM

maguic24 wrote: »

An anxiety disorder is a terrible thing!! I have one too, thankfully not as bad as it was and I deal with it a lot better now. It was really bad when I was in the final year of my undergrad. I also had a friend exactly like the one you described!! Total wagon so she was, we're not friends anymore.

You sound so similar to me, it's scary! It's like I wrote that post! Don't get too caught up on the single thing, it has its perks.

Aw thank you! Always nice to meet someone else who knows what it's like... As I'm sure you know when you're going through the worst of it, it really does feel like you are totally alone and there's something really wrong with you

Of course there are bad days as well still and I still overthink everything, but I can deal with it so much better now.

Ha on the friend thing. I saw my former friend walking around Temple Bar the other week and just walked by

08-06-2014 09:36PM

My life circumstances have changed I guess...but I'm still the same really! I have my ups and downs, but everyone does.

Was in 2nd year of college 5 years ago. Now I'm finished college and working. And living with my boyfriend who I met in college. Sometimes I feel like I am a lot older as most of my colleagues are in their thirties and talking about mortgages and babies all the time...big change from coming straight out of college!

maguic24 · 08-06-2014 09:37PM

ivytwine wrote: »

Aw thank you! Always nice to meet someone else who knows what it's like... As I'm sure you know when you're going through the worst of it, it really does feel like you are totally alone and there's something really wrong with you

Of course there are bad days as well still and I still overthink everything, but I can deal with it so much better now.

Ha on the friend thing. I saw my former friend walking around Temple Bar the other week and just walked by

I started to suffer from really bad insomnia when I was in college. I was just soo panicked and trying to go to sleep was a complete nightmare! Then I was wrecked the next day and couldn't concentrate which made me more panicked. My anxiety was so bad at that time, I used to get really stressed when my phone rang. I know it sounds so silly but it really was that bad. I think everything is a million times worse in your head. I still overthink things as well but you just have to remember it's your mind being a d*ck.

I also met my former friend on the bus out to a conference before Xmas. Neither of us spoke to each other, it was a real 'oh gawd, look away, look away, look away, moment'.

I'm not that like that as person, I would always try to have it out with people an get over things but I realised in the last few years some people are pure toxic and you don't need that negativity in your life! Thankfully those type of people are in the minority!!

chrissb8 · 08-06-2014 09:50PM

I don't try to get on with everyone like I used too. Doing this involved pretending I liked things I didn't and pretending I hated things I liked.

Physically I am much better off. Much more aware of my diet although I am prone to periods of eating badly! (who isn't). The difference is that I recognize it and have the control to pull back.

Was without a good leaving cert no ambition for college or for the future in general. Bucked up repeated my L.C two years after finishing school. In college now.

Got a job and am now looking forward to going interrailing and then off to Berlin for an erasmus.

Most of all I would say in doing these things it made me a lot happier and now I'm generally more motivated for life in general and lost a lot of my cynicism as a result. I was an angry young man and now I'm a happy one. That is the main difference and how thankful I am for that.

How much have you changed in the last 5 years?

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