What men never think of when asking a woman out.

pablo128 wrote: »

Women understand other women, and they fcuking hate each other!

Sooo, true, how did you know? It sucks being a mind reader for only one gender!

Yeah hate them all, if I see someone and they have bewbs, that's it, I hates them!!

:rolleyes:

Merkin wrote: »

I find the expression 'wimmins' extremely grating....

All wimmins say that.

Lou.m wrote: »

I think to be honest I am used to this attitude.

You tell people you were abused ...get over it...is the response

I am not going to take it personally.

I'm used to it. It's why I can be arsed telling people in real life. They don't get it.

I don't know what kind of people you've been talking to, but I have only once in my life been told to 'get over' being raped. Either online or in real life, bar that one person, I've received nothing but respect, encouragement and empathy if I tell someone.

im sorry, what is it that guys think of? that women see all men as danger?

Ye know what? This "you'll never figure us women out. We're so mysterious" bollocks doesn't wash with me. If a man comes and talks to me in a fairly normal fashion like most people do, I'll be polite. If I find the conversation worth continuing on with because I either fancy him or he made me laugh or said something that grabbed my interest, I will do so. If not, I don't but am always nice about it. I'm a normal woman who likes talking to nice people (believe it or not!) and I won't jump to conclusions about them or fear them because I've no reason to; my track record of this kind of thing has taught me that.

I'm 34 and have been around the block and travelled a good bit and lived in a few countries and I can honestly say 99.7% of my experiences talking to random fellas on nights out (or in cafes or other places sometimes) has been grand. My reaction to them talking to me has always been reasonable and polite...and sometimes more Most people I know can say the same thing.

I come onto Boards and read threads like this and it's like reading the accounts of people from another planet sometimes. Rude, mean women and sleazy, threatening arsehole men. If you never left your flat and only drew your conclusions of interactions between and women from what you read on Boards, you'd presume the sexes hate each other and everyone has screaming matches with every random person who tries to talk to them.

That's not how reality is for most of us. If it IS what happens to on a regular basis, you really have to question what YOU are doing wrong. I enjoy my nights out and when I was single, I liked talking to people, both men and women but it seems some people on here really suffer on a night out and seem to hate it more than they should or more than is good for them. Time to make changes then.


This post probably has no relevance to anything but I find AH so bizarre for this kind of stuff that I have to point out that most of us don't live that way.

hatrickpatrick wrote: »

This is a have cake and eat it problem, as with many of these issues.
Either women need to stop giving guys such a hard time for taking a chance when they're not interested, OR, they need to stop having this "women shouldn't make the first move" hangup. If guys became as reserved as some women seem to want us to be, while at the same time women didn't become more proactive about going after guys they want, the human race would become extinct within a couple of decades.

In other words, if women want guys to stop pursuing, then they need to stop playing the hard to get game in which many WANT guys to keep trying after an initial rejection. Personally I always back off if no interest is shown, to avoid being labelled a "creep" - but the number of times I've seen women I know act completely indifferent to a guy who likes them and then subsequently say "He was meant to chase me, why did he just stop being into me?" is mind numbingly frustrating. It has to be one or the other. Or else we simple never have relationships and the human race dies out.

Or people grow up and cop on. You must be quite young, I'm guessing.