How often do you go home?

20-04-2014 08:39PM

myshirt wrote: »

We are the only species that allows our young back into the abode after raising them and them flying the coop.

I'll tell you, you wouldn't get away with this out on the Serengeti.

The average "western" house is a palace relative to what you'd find in the Serengeti, if they had similar houses the kids would also stay.

But this thread is about going back to visit, isn't it!

myshirt · 20-04-2014 08:45PM

[Deleted User] wrote: »

The average "western" house is a palace relative to what you'd find in the Serengeti, if they had similar houses the kids would also stay.

But this thread is about going back to visit, isn't it!

I meant if you were a lion.... i.e another species, as we seem to be the only species that allow our young back into the nest.

My name is URL · 20-04-2014 08:48PM

Not that I mind but I live about 2 miles from my mam so can't really get away with not calling in at least a few times a week!

I'd take that ahead of only seeing her once or twice a year anyway.

Legs.Eleven · 20-04-2014 08:49PM

Ah the guilt! Last year a fair bit but this year, I'm working on a stricter contract and can only take holidays when the academy closes. Last week I was off work and was planning to go home but I've been going home (yes HOME!) for most of my holidays since moving here and wanted to go away and do something different, so took a road trip with friends.

I'll go home in July then I'll be home again at Christmas. I feel really guilty about it as I know my dad wants to see me more and misses me (and he's two more children in the States) but there's not much I can do, unfortunately. Hopefully they'll come visit me sometime this year as well. I love going home.

Linka · 20-04-2014 08:50PM

Milky Moo wrote: »

Now I am looking for a readjustment back to how it was, but am getting the patented Irish Mammy guilt trip (trademark pending)

Firstly, I'm sorry for your loss. Irish Mammies guilt trip you because they can't express their emotions properly, they're too bad ass for that. She's missing her husband and is lonely. If your Father passed in the last year, it's still very soon after losing him. Have a word with your siblings. I'm sure your Mother is glad of any company she gets, but you seem to be carrying a lot on your shoulders at the moment.

orangesoda · 20-04-2014 08:51PM

oldyouth wrote: »

I never understand grown adults with their own house, partner & children saying they are going home for the weekend etc.

It's lovely to visit your parents, but once you move out, that house reverts back to being their home

my mother still calls her village home and she left in the 70s

WoollyRedHat · 20-04-2014 08:54PM

oldyouth wrote: »

I never understand grown adults with their own house, partner & children saying they are going home for the weekend etc.

It's lovely to visit your parents, but once you move out, that house reverts back to being their home

It has its connotations from childhood and the yearning of nostalgia and the one true home and within a freudian context could be associated with a returning to one's true home, the womb.

This is a song which is titled "Home",I hope everyone here enjoys it

Henlars67 · 20-04-2014 08:55PM

Live about 20 k from my parent's house.

Haven't been home since xmas.

Never liked living out in the country, and I don't like going back there unless it's absolutely necessary.

My parent's call to see me fairly regularly though.

Micky Dolenz · 20-04-2014 08:55PM

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=btqSxlUJyxo

calanus · 20-04-2014 09:00PM

Once a year or once every two years. I've not lived in Ireland for a while and when I do have a holiday I rarely think about wasting that time to go home. I lived there 17-18 years already. Seen it!

20-04-2014 09:58PM

My family moved to Kerry when I was 11. I'd usually go back there on long weekends but wouldn't want to live there again.

Fox_In_Socks · 20-04-2014 10:09PM

Every 2-3 weeks. I live about 2 hours drive away. My father is long dead and I pretty much have to be back there to keep an eye on things.

I kind of envy other people who are able to travel extensively or live/work for long periods in other countries.

NinjaMasterPro · 20-04-2014 10:10PM

Every 3 months ish. Parents live about two hours away, not too far but it's in a tiny village with nothing going on. Drives me batty. Going on the lash involves getting "a lift off mammy" to the nearest town, which is nightmare for taxis after the pubs close. Can take over an hour to find a taxi to take me back to the village for a daycent price.

RobertKK · 20-04-2014 10:20PM

I never left home but then my parents gave me legal ownership of the house when I was 20 years of age.

sea_monkey · 20-04-2014 10:22PM

maybe once or twice a year. Have been at college mon-fri then working sat and sun for the past two years and full time at the summers. Hoping to go home more often next year.

Teyla Emmagan · 20-04-2014 10:37PM

Just back! Easter Sunday dinner and all that.

See 'em every week, nearly.

Stained Class · 20-04-2014 10:51PM

The auld lad has a nice shed with lots of tools & he lives 5min away.

Handy for me to fix stuff, so I there fairly regular.:D

FurQyou · 20-04-2014 11:15PM

My parents both ****ed off out of the country when the recession hit so they can sing for it if they want me back out to visit them.

On the other hand im super close with my brothers. Live with one and see the others at least once a week.

Linka · 21-04-2014 12:09AM

FurQyou wrote: »

My parents both ****ed off out of the country when the recession hit so they can sing for it if they want me back out to visit them.

Did they turf you out before the age of 18 ?

FurQyou · 21-04-2014 12:20AM

Naw I left aged 19 since my aul wan was a raging alcoholic. They had already split up at that point.

czechlin · 21-04-2014 12:41AM

Twice sometimes three times a year. It's hard to keep up though because I love traveling and like going elsewhere as well. They're very understanding but never let me leave without guilt

Wish someone just sorted the teleportation out already, it'll be so handy :mad:

Stained Class · 21-04-2014 01:15AM

oldyouth wrote: »

I never understand grown adults with their own house, partner & children saying they are going home for the weekend etc.

It's lovely to visit your parents, but once you move out, that house reverts back to being their home

Micky Dolenz wrote: »

It's a figure of speech , keep your hair on.

#

It depends on where you're coming from.

If your'e single & living away, I think it's grand to call your parents house 'home', even years after you've left it.

My ol lad insisted on calling his place of birth 'home', long after his parents died.

His brother had the place. Twas about 5 miles away from us.

When he went up there to see his brother, he used to say,'Im going home'.

I hated that.:mad:

I viewed it as a slap to the face to my Mother, me & my siblings.

I pointed this out to him as a teenager, but he ignored it....

WilyCoyote · 21-04-2014 01:19AM

Every 2 years or so

Wickers26 · 21-04-2014 01:32AM

4 or 5 times a year. I'd go down more often only for I work approx 60 hrs a week and never get a weekend off so it's kind of impossible. My mother is actually going to be staying up with me all this week because she has to work in dublin, it's going to be weird/nice. Hopefully won't end in tears ha

imitation · 21-04-2014 01:38AM

Listen lads, you only get one set of parents, so try and keep in contact, when there gone that's it. There only going to get older and more cantankerous with age, so make the effort now. When there gone what are you going to regret more, that you didn't get to go to bangkok for the 5th time or that you only saw them a handful of times over the last few years. Don't forget you'll be an old codger one day yourself and that you'd like at least for somebody to visit you every so often.

Unless there textbook nasty-ass parents, in that case do what ye want !

GalwayKiefer · 21-04-2014 01:57AM

For the last few years I get home once a year if I can. Looking to relocate next year so hopefully a lot more often then.

The Cool · 21-04-2014 03:14PM

I live in Kildare and the family is in Donegal, it's a 4 hour drive so I don't bother going up that often - home now for Easter, before that it was Christmas, before that Halloween. It's as much to see my friends as my family to be honest; I'm the eldest by a lot and very independent and not extremely close with my family. That said, I'd like to move a bit closer to them when starting my own family as I would like them to be involved with my children.

osarusan · 21-04-2014 03:27PM

Was home for 2 and a half weeks last month, for the first time in two years. Maybe two more years before we get home again.

The worst thing about living so far away from home, without question, is my parents and my kids not spending more time with each other.

it was heartbreaking for everybody when it was time to leave Ireland last month, and I feel guilty about it every single day.

rmchmufc · 21-04-2014 03:30PM

3/4 times a year. Home is Donegal but I live in Cork

bnt · 21-04-2014 03:44PM

Wherever I lay my hat, that's my home.

How often do you go home?

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