Things I don't get about Irish weddings MOD WARNING POST #322

Gatica · 14-03-2014 01:32PM

Don't think anyone forces them. Our dads wanted to say a few words, we had to tell them to keep it short and sweet as they were happy to ramble on about how great we are for ages LOL

lazygal · 14-03-2014 01:32PM

grace80 wrote: »

Would be interested to know how many of the people who are in here moaning about various wedding details are actually married themselves. I would guess that none are.

The only reason I say this is because having been to 20+ weddings before getting engaged, it's was only when I started planning my own wedding that I saw how it is and will be, impossible to please everyone.

You guessed wrong. I'm married. Twice.

ronjo · 14-03-2014 01:35PM

lazygal wrote: »

You guessed wrong. I'm married. Twice.

So when you occasionally mention how great your wedding was, is it your first or your second you are talking about? Or a bit of mix n match

lazygal · 14-03-2014 01:39PM

ronjo wrote: »

So when you occasionally mention how great your wedding was, is it your first or your second you are talking about? Or a bit of mix n match

A little from column a, a little from column b!! Only married the one guy though!

ronjo · 14-03-2014 01:43PM

lazygal wrote: »

A little from column a, a little from column b!! Only married the one guy though!

Two open bars??

We had an open bar too at ours but were lucky the hotel allowed us to bring in the wine with no corkage and the spirits.
So just paid for beers and soft drinks.

lazygal · 14-03-2014 01:45PM

ronjo wrote: »

Two open bars??

We had an open bar too at ours but were lucky the hotel allowed us to bring in the wine with no corkage and the spirits.
So just paid for beers and soft drinks.

First was just us and the parents, so easy enough to have the bar on us!

Sligo1 · 14-03-2014 01:45PM

Bah Humbug..... Sooo many wedding Grinches here.....

username123 · 14-03-2014 01:47PM

D3PO wrote: »

6) You are really coming across as a big ignorant tbh. Nothings stopping you going and getting something to eat prior to the meal on your way to the reception.

What nonsense! Its far more ignorant to let your invited guests go hungry!

And you seem to have missed the point - a lot of these situations happen when you have been specificially requested to be at the venue immediately after the church so the group photo can be done.

Thumby · 14-03-2014 01:55PM

ronjo wrote: »

What other things if you dont mind me asking?

I am married 6 years now but I dont remember the need for compromise on anything to be honest. Or maybe I just did what I was told

Ya lucky thing you

I just hope ours will be as easy to sort out.

As I said i'll have to compromise as well on some things.

I mentioned earlier he's been banging on about having a Liverpool themed wedding (i'm praying to any "god" that will listen that he's only winding me up) but if he's not i'll have red and gold as the colour scheme as opposed to having an all out football team themed wedding. (I really do hope he's winding me up). I don't want red and gold as the colour scheme but if it makes him happy then that's alright by me.

I know we'll both have to compromise on certain people being guests at the wedding as well.

He's leaving all of the actual planning up to me so that "i can have my dream day" his words not mine, but I would much prefer if he gets involved in it as it's his day too. If not then i'm sure there will more than two things where compromise will be involved. No idea what they may be yet though.

ronjo · 14-03-2014 02:01PM

Thumby wrote: »

Ya lucky thing you I just hope ours will be as easy to sort out.

As I said i'll have to compromise as well on some things.

I mentioned earlier he's been banging on about having a Liverpool themed wedding (i'm praying to any "god" that will listen that he's only winding me up) but if he's not i'll have red and gold as the colour scheme as opposed to having an all out football team themed wedding. (I really do hope he's winding me up). I don't want red and gold as the colour scheme but if it makes him happy then that's alright by me.

I know we'll both have to compromise on certain people being guests at the wedding as well.

He's leaving all of the actual planning up to me so that "i can have my dream day" his words not mine, but I would much prefer if he gets involved in it as it's his day too. If not then i'm sure there will more than two things where compromise will be involved. No idea what they may be yet though.

A Liverpool wedding theme! Like the football club??
Is he 14? :pac:

Thumby · 14-03-2014 02:09PM

ronjo wrote: »

A Liverpool wedding theme! Like the football club??
Is he 14? :pac:

Yup, that would be the one, no he's not 14 but he comes from a big football fanatic family, and i do mean fanatic. His only draw back really as i can't stand the thing. I'm 99% sure he's winding me up lol but still there's that 1% that worries me :pac:

You just never can tell with him. :eek:

Thumby · 14-03-2014 02:10PM

ooooppsss really didn't mean to make that so big lol

ronjo · 14-03-2014 02:14PM

Thumby wrote: »

ooooppsss really didn't mean to make that so big lol

HAHA.... I thought I had for a second

Thumby · 14-03-2014 02:17PM

ronjo wrote: »

HAHA.... I thought I had for a second

lmao tut tut tut shame on you ronjo

amdublin · 14-03-2014 02:29PM

D3PO wrote: »

4) You sound jealous or begruding. People can spend their money however they see fit. I dont get why people spend more than the cost of an expensive wedding dress each year to pollute their lungs and possibly give themselves lung cancer but if thats what they want to do with their money let them at it.

Oh bejaysis people can spend their money on anything they like! And i never said otherwise

But I just don't get it....for someone to spend so much money on their dream dress "omg I just tried it on and I just knew it was the one" and then to stuff it in the wardrobe and not get it cleaned for ages and ages. I just don't get that.

(ps. Some of your posts are very personal/of the name calling type. Have you ever heard the phrase attack the post not the poster. Plus also, I am not alone in some of the things I am saying judging by the thanks on the first page alone and comments from others throughout this thread)

Thumby · 14-03-2014 02:42PM

amdublin wrote: »

Oh bejaysis people can spend their money on anything they like! And i never said otherwise

But I just don't get it....for someone to spend so much money on their dream dress "omg I just tried it on and I just knew it was the one" and then to stuff it in the wardrobe and not get it cleaned for ages and ages. I just don't get that.

This exactly. Now in saying that i've a budget of about 800 for my dress, will not spend anymore than that on it, but i'll def make sure it's used again, even if it means having my daughters communion dress made out of it or something like that.

My dress will be one of the last big purchases to be made and if it's not feasible i'll spend less than that on it. I just get why thousands are spent on a dress when it could go on a honeymoon instead.

grace80 · 14-03-2014 02:43PM

amdublin wrote: »

Oh bejaysis people can spend their money on anything they like! And i never said otherwise

(ps. Some of your posts are very personal/of the name calling type. Have you ever heard the phrase attack the post not the poster. Plus also, I am not alone in some of the things I am saying judging by the thanks on the first page alone and comments from others throughout this thread)

To be fair, you must've expected some challenge or disagreement, when you went and started a thread on all the things you hate about weddings - in a forum mostly used by people who are planning their wedding!

mrsbyrne · 14-03-2014 02:43PM

amdublin wrote: »

Again coming back to my original post about 9/10 b&g not seeing the inside of a church since god knows when. They've probably not talked to the priest since god knows when and suddenly he's a guest of honour.

The whole obsession with a "church wedding" when you're not religious/practicing before or after the wedding smacks of hypocrisy to me.

I just don't get it. Why bother with a church wedding if you're not into the church/religion the rest of your life?

I would go further then that and say that the priest should decline your request to officiate at your wedding unless he know you and leave it at that.

Teyla Emmagan · 14-03-2014 02:45PM

amdublin wrote: »

(ps. Some of your posts are very personal/of the name calling type. Have you ever heard the phrase attack the post not the poster. Plus also, I am not alone in some of the things I am saying judging by the thanks on the first page alone and comments from others throughout this thread)

I second this. This thread is not about the opinions of just one person, it is a discussion, and may people agree with the OP on a number of points. So I don't think you should be singling her out in the way you have been. There is no reason for any of this to get personal or unpleasant.

username123 · 14-03-2014 02:45PM

grace80 wrote: »

To be fair, you must've expected some challenge or disagreement, when you went and started a thread on all the things you hate about weddings - in a forum mostly used by people who are planning their wedding!

Challenge and disagreement is good, getting personal and name calling is not (not you).

username123 · 14-03-2014 02:46PM

Teyla Emmagan wrote: »

I second this. This thread is not about the opinions of just one person, it is a discussion, and may people agree with the OP on a number of points. So I don't think you should be singling her out in the way you have been. There is no reason for any of this to get personal or unpleasant.

+1

Bad form.

grace80 · 14-03-2014 02:47PM

username123 wrote: »

Challenge and disagreement is good, getting personal and name calling is not (not you).

Agreed.

Gatica · 14-03-2014 02:47PM

Thumby wrote: »

My dress will be one of the last big purchases to be made and if it's not feasible i'll spend less than that on it. I just get why thousands are spent on a dress when it could go on a honeymoon instead.

In fairness to some even 800 will seem very extravagant. People have different ideas of what it means when we say "expensive".
Lots on boards say they don't get how anyone could spend anything over 10k on a wedding. However, it's very easy to add up "average" quotes for any fairly standard services and it will come to well above 10k.

but yes, I don't get how someone can say they love a dress and then leave it to fester from stains and sweat. I got mine dry cleaned soon as we got back from honeymoon, haven't decided what to do with it yet. Have a feeling for many it's to do with procrastination though and not with not loving the dress enough.

amdublin · 14-03-2014 02:49PM

grace80 wrote: »

To be fair, you must've expected some challenge or disagreement, when you went and started a thread on all the things you hate about weddings - in a forum mostly used by people who are planning their wedding!

I didn't start a thread about things I hate about weddings

Challenge and disagreement - of course, that is the nature of a discussion forum.
Namecalling and personal attacks, no.

Re the people planning their wedding: I would've thought this thread thread would be useful for what some people don't get about an Irish wedding. Could even save you some hassle in your planning/on the day, might even save you some money.

stinkle · 14-03-2014 02:55PM

amdublin wrote: »

Re the people planning their wedding: I would've thought this thread thread would be useful for what some people don't get about an Irish wedding. Could even save you some hassle in your planning/on the day, might even save you some money.

+1 to this, as it happens this weekend is v busy with wedding stuff and I thought up questions etc to raise with our venue. So the thread came at a great time!

Gatica · 14-03-2014 02:57PM

I'm ok with the OP, I don't get the impression amdublin hates weddings. I think the post was fairly self explanatory, "don't get" and a few things that are typical, such as church weddings for non-churchgoing couples, similarity between weddings when everyone seems to want something different, etc...

As someone who tried to have a wedding that was a little different, I think the overall feel for those attending was still probably the same. I'm not offended by that, it's just reality. We had a great time and I think so did most of our guests, that's all that matters now that we look back at it. Would I change a few things, sure, doesn't mean we didn't enjoy it though.

Thumby · 14-03-2014 02:59PM

amdublin wrote: »

I didn't start a thread about things I hate about weddings

Challenge and disagreement - of course, that is the nature of a discussion forum.
Namecalling and personal attacks, no.

Re the people planning their wedding: I would've thought this thread thread would be useful for what some people don't get about an Irish wedding. Could even save you some hassle in your planning/on the day, might even save you some money.

Most def, there is some pre-planning planning going on in my place tonight and it will def help avoid most pit falls that have been mentioned. As we're trying to save and not take out a loan we need to plan the budget and figure out what we can realistically save, so your thread has given me loads to think about when getting rough prices for what.

As for the name calling that is just bang out of order. Personally I think the thread was a great idea and some very valid points have been brought up, as well as some light hearted stuff that gave some of us a giggle. So thank you

Thumby · 14-03-2014 03:01PM

Gatica wrote: »

In fairness to some even 800 will seem very extravagant. People have different ideas of what it means when we say "expensive".

Oh I know,800 is extravagant to me as well. But I figure it's the one day we can allow ourselves a little extravagance.

NashD · 14-03-2014 03:03PM

Thumby wrote: »

I mentioned earlier he's been banging on about having a Liverpool themed wedding (i'm praying to any "god" that will listen that he's only winding me up) but if he's not i'll have red and gold as the colour scheme as opposed to having an all out football team themed wedding. (I really do hope he's winding me up). I don't want red and gold as the colour scheme but if it makes him happy then that's alright by me.

Off topic but - we had an Arsenal theme. And it wasn't all that bad. We went with navy bridesmaids (one of their away colours) but mostly it was the table plan. We named the tables after his favourite players. Pretty simple.
Everyone knows he is a huge fan and it had to feature.....
Most of the wedding was left to my decision so was happy to give him something

Gatica · 14-03-2014 03:07PM

NashD wrote: »

Off topic but - we had an Arsenal theme. And it wasn't all that bad. We went with navy bridesmaids (one of their away colours) but mostly it was the table plan. We named the tables after his favourite players. Pretty simple.
Everyone knows he is a huge fan and it had to feature.....
Most of the wedding was left to my decision so was happy to give him something

We had something similar. We didn't have the colours but we made the invites rugby themed and the tables were named after his fave players. I decided on almost everything else, so was ok for him to do this.

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