Things I don't get about Irish weddings MOD WARNING POST #322

amdublin wrote: »

I don't think so. A few pages back people had latched on to my comments that no one likes to be hungry between the church and the dinner.

It is the same posters as far as I can see from the very start so no "atheists" latching on The thread is just ebbing and flowing the way threads do.

No just the last few pages, maybe not atheists, atheist sentiment anyway.

Whole other forum for that.

Thumby wrote: »

Small dainty ones can be nice if they actually accentuate what the woman is wearing but oh my jebus some of those yokes are bigger than me :pac: not to mention look like something that crawled out of sigorney weavers stomach in alien.:D

I have one of the small dainty ones, it gets brought out for fancy race days over the summer where I'm really going for it dress-wise. The bigger ones look a bit nuts!

PCros wrote: »

No just the last few pages, maybe not atheists, atheist sentiment anyway.

Whole other forum for that.

I don't think anyone is trying to turn this thread into a religious debate, I know i'm certainly not, but in fairness it's a thread about what people don't get about Irish Weddings, getting married in church when one is not a devout Catholic (or any degree of Catholic) is bound to come into it, but like other topics in the thread, the starving guests etc it will be changed in a page or two to something else. There's no atheist brigade hijacking the thread or turning this into something its not. Church wedding and reasons for or against them were bound to come in this thread. It's not a big deal. It's just one point among many.

username123 wrote: »

I always find flats are great for summer weddings, nice fancy sandals - but winter weddings are not easy for my feet!! I usually go with a LOW heel court shoe thats not really that nice at all....

Last winter wedding I went to i was able to get a lovely pair of boots that had a really low heel and they went well with what I was wearing too. Which did actually happen to be a dress. They were a pair of ankle(ish) boots which i had bought in Pennys.

rainbow kirby wrote: »

I have one of the small dainty ones, it gets brought out for fancy race days over the summer where I'm really going for it dress-wise. The bigger ones look a bit nuts!

That's true enough, and the amount of money people spend on them is pure madness, when all it takes is about a score's worth of material and an hour of time to knock up one yourself. Which won't be osentatious or overbearing and will probably look a lot nicer.

Hmmm beginning to think I may put a "no fascinatiors" rule on the wedding invites

amdublin wrote: »

Anyhoo just to confirm me personally, I'm not an atheist but I'm also not a hypocrite and (yes this is strong) I think it is hypocritical of b&g's having church weddings when it is god knows when since they saw the inside of a church.
I think it's a big load of mockery/fakeness and I really do not know why anyone bothers with it when it is not one bit important to them the rest of their lives (let's call a spade a spade).

However for those people who are genuinely into their faith a church wedding is beautiful.

Exactly, if it's not something you're ever going to be bothered about as a couple again it's just hypocritical and silly. However if it's important to one of ye at least then it should be a negotiable to some extent. I really do think it depends on the people and their circumstances.
As hoodwinked said it's all about context.

PCros wrote: »

No if you read my last comment you will understand, basically what you said about the context from hoodwinked is what I meant.

I hadn't seen your last comment when i was posting. Sorry, I get where you are coming from now though.

chuky_r_law wrote: »

i dont understand at all why people always go on about your wedding being the most amazing day of your life. you have too much to do on the day for it to be the day of your dreams! most weddings are way to formal, with nothing that makes them in any way unique or special. if it really is the day of 'dreams' how come everyone seems to plan the same feckin thing??

They have there own unique twist that is personal to the bride and groom.

chuky_r_law wrote: »

i dont understand at all why people always go on about your wedding being the most amazing day of your life. you have too much to do on the day for it to be the day of your dreams! most weddings are way to formal, with nothing that makes them in any way unique or special. if it really is the day of 'dreams' how come everyone seems to plan the same feckin thing??

Well for me it's the fact that my oh and I will finally be married, that's the dream bit. The rest is just bows and frills to celebrate it. We want our families and friends to celebrate it with us which is why we are having the hoopla part after the ceremony. If we didn't we'd just go get married and have two witnesses and let that be that. (Well if we could find a compromise on the registry office that would suit that type of arrangement) lol.

It may not be unique or special to most of the attendees however it is very special and unique to the b&g, it's their wedding and they are marrying each other. They aren't going to go to joe and joans wedding to get married. Therefore even if they had the exact same set up as joe and joan it's still different to each individual b&g. The trappings of a wedding may be similar across the board but the individuals getting married aren't, when they are the bride and groom.

amdublin wrote: »

So small that it is unrecognisable in the midst of the exact same Irish wedding as everyone else :pac:

I remember at one of my mates weddings the bride really didnt look like she was enjoying it. She spent so much of the evening in conversation with the hotel staff trying to get small things changed.
It was nuts.

amdublin wrote: »

So small that it is unrecognisable in the midst of the exact same Irish wedding as everyone else :pac:

Unrecognisable to you but not to them. You don't really seem to like much about Irish weddings at all.

ronjo wrote: »

I remember at one of my mates weddings the bride really didnt look like she was enjoying it. She spent so much of the evening in conversation with the hotel staff trying to get small things changed.
It was nuts.

username123 wrote: »

Yeah I went to one where the bride was going around with a printed sheet of A4 checking on things as the day went on.

You are kidding me? That as far as i'm aware is the job of the wedding co-ordinator in the hotel and the maid of honor. At least that's what I done when my best mate got married a few years back. We all had the lists in our bags and the little bits and bobs and we (the bridesmaids) were the go between for the hotel and the bride. We weren't letting her stress out on the wedding day. (well anymore than a nervous bride will anyway)

Thumby wrote: »

You are kidding me? That as far as i'm aware is the job of the wedding co-ordinator in the hotel and the maid of honor. At least that's what I done when my best mate got married a few years back. We all had the lists in our bags and the little bits and bobs and we (the bridesmaids) were the go between for the hotel and the bride. We weren't letting her stress out on the wedding day. (well anymore than a nervous bride will anyway)

It was her choice though. She was a bit of a control freak about it and still talks about it as if it was the only event ever.
Last time I met her she was talking about a friend and she said you must know her, she was my maid of honour. It was about 7 years ago, of course I havent a freaking clue about this girl I saw once in my life.

freshpopcorn wrote: »

You've being to a wedding and you got no cake? I've never experienced this.

No I meant the way b&g "cut" a fancy cake but then the guest are served a different dessert. Not the wedding cake as it is. I think the b&g take it home afterwards or something like that.

I always got desserts in weddings, just find it funny to have a expensive "display" cake that then you don't serve to the guest and then serve them something different...

ronjo wrote: »

It was her choice though. She was a bit of a control freak about it and still talks about it as if it was the only event ever.
Last time I met her she was talking about a friend and she said you must know her, she was my maid of honour. It was about 7 years ago, of course I havent a freaking clue about this girl I saw once in my life.

Ahhh she was one of those brides lol. My mate tried that alright as well, but we wouldn't let her. She could stress herself out as much as she wanted to up and including the day before the wedding but once the day came around she had no choice but to let go of the bridezilla impulses and just get married. We told her as much and that if there was any problems we would deal with them for her. It was only fair as far as we were concerned, she worked so hard to get the day both her and her hubby wanted and to try and give everyone else what they wanted as well, that we thought she should just be able to relax and enjoy herself on the day. Any time she asked us were people enjoying the wedding and was everyone ok we just said yes, every thing is perfect now go grab your hubby and your drink and enjoy your (plural) day.

Kontrapasa wrote: »

No I meant the way b&g "cut" a fancy cake but then the guest are served a different dessert. Not the wedding cake as it is. I think the b&g take it home afterwards or something like that.

I always got desserts in weddings, just find it funny to have a expensive "display" cake that then you don't serve to the guest and then serve them something different...

Well the weddings I've being to, you got the normal dessert and then you get wedding cake at about 10 or 11 after its being cut. You've got to keep an eye out for it tough because it flies once it comes out.

ronjo wrote: »

That was good that she finally listened.

My poor mate had to get dancing lessons for months before hand. She actually got a little annoyed with him at another mates wedding a few weeks before because he was strutting his stuff a bit from the lessons and she had wanted it to be a big thing on the day :pac:

Oooohhh no. The poor girl, I don't blame her. I would have killed him!!!
Although i'm sure there was a bit of improvement before the two weddings. So He may not have looked like a turkey tryin to show off peacock feathers? (srry thinking of the oh dancing)

Thanks for the reminder, that's to go on the to do list and the price it list (we're on a budget lol and trying not to take out a loan).