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Inviting friend to a wedding

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  • #32
    TheDriver
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 13,220 ✭✭✭✭TheDriver


    am I the only one who assumed that the OP was also female and wondered what the fuss was about except the BF concerned his girl was bi all of a sudden????


  • #33
    FollatonWood
    Closed Accounts Posts: 227 ✭✭FollatonWood


    HappyBalance wrote: »
    That is my point exactly. If she didn't want to go I would have said fair enough, it can be an awkward situation. I got annoyed with her because she is only 24 and she shouldn't be told what to do. What kind of future is that?

    Whoa hold up, I also do see the BFs point - just that she shouldn't have used it as an excuse, she should have told you directly she didn't want to go.


  • #34
    Tilly
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,987 ✭✭✭Tilly


    There's not one person in here who thinks you're right and yet you cant see the BF's point? That's just weird, Dude!


  • #35
    super_furry
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 27,387 ✭✭✭✭super_furry


    Don't you have other friends you can invite? If there's nothing romantic involved then surely there's a male friend you could bring?


  • #36
    La Haine
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 244 ✭✭La Haine


    Actually OP, are you male or female?


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  • #37
    Larbre34
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 28,107 ✭✭✭✭Larbre34


    OP are you?

    1-Male and straight
    2-Male and gay
    3-Female and straight
    4 Female and gay

    In the case of 1 and 4 I would have exactly the same attitude as the boyfriend, its plain odd to attend a formal or long social event with a person who isnt your partner or family member and who is an infidelity risk, no matter how remote or unlikely.


  • #38
    Heroditas
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    TheDriver wrote: »
    am I the only one who assumed that the OP was also female and wondered what the fuss was about except the BF concerned his girl was bi all of a sudden????


    Nope I assumed the same too.


  • #39
    super_furry
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 27,387 ✭✭✭✭super_furry


    Meanwhile, I'll just leave this here then..... http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?p=86363670


  • #40
    Mince Pie
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    So is the OP male or female?


  • #41
    Feisar
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    TheDriver wrote: »
    am I the only one who assumed that the OP was also female and wondered what the fuss was about except the BF concerned his girl was bi all of a sudden????

    I thought the exact same thing. Mainly because who asks another lads GF to a wedding?

    If I was the BF I'd tell her to do what she liked but I was really unhappy about it.

    First they came for the socialists...



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  • #42
    HappyBalance
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 144 ✭✭HappyBalance


    Mince Pie wrote: »
    So is the OP male or female?

    male and straight


  • #43
    perfectblue
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 52 ✭✭perfectblue


    It's entirely possible that she was excited to go, but her boyfriend expressed his discomfort about it, and she, like any good person in a relationship would, took into account his feelings.
    Sorry, OP, but he gets precedence in her life, not you. There's nothing that says he forced her to do anything, but that they have good enough communication skills that he was being honest, and she values her relationship enough to pick her battles.

    In other words, it has nothing to do with you.


  • #44
    La Haine
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 244 ✭✭La Haine


    Male and straight so.

    Here, as you're fairly good pals - in work and out of work - have you actually been around this girl when the boyfriend was around? Do you get on with him like?


  • #45
    EyeSight
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,180 ✭✭✭EyeSight


    If it was me(as the BF) i would wonder why out of all your friends you wanted to take my girlfriend?
    Just on this alone you can't accuse him of being controlling. I'm sure most girls wouldn't like it either if the roles were reversed.

    My ex used to have a guy who was always up to this crap. Inviting her to balls and weddings, making her scrap books of the 2 of them. He was never a threat and it was embarrassing for him but it was extremely annoying


  • #46
    FTA69
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 9,252 ✭✭✭FTA69


    male and straight

    And you're trying to take another fella's girlfriend to a wedding of all places? You're bang out of order and you're lucky your man isn't seeking to give you a bloody slap.


  • #47
    Mince Pie
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    HappyBalance wrote: »
    male and straight

    Ah get away with ye, its a bit creepy actually. Too right the boyfriend said no. I'd watch out for a punch in the nose as well.


  • #48
    TheDriver
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    HappyBalance wrote: »
    male and straight

    Then that's fairly bogus lad. If she was your lifelong friend dawsons creek style then maybe, but I wouldn't be too hectic about it either if I was the girls fella.

    Bit sad too, asking someone elses GF out.........You do realise she will probably spend the day texting her guy??


  • #49
    Loughc
    Moderators, Business & Finance Moderators, Recreation & Hobbies Moderators, Paid Member Posts: 27,449 Mod ✭✭✭✭Loughc


    HappyBalance wrote: »
    Hi,

    I'm good friends with this girl from work. I've asked her to go to my sisters wedding with me. She said she would love to but her boyfriend now won't allow her to go.

    We have fallen out over this because I think it's wrong that her bf should stop her doing things that she wants to do.

    What do you think? Am I being unreasonable?

    Thanks
    omega666 wrote: »
    Would this be the same friend you posted about a few months back?
    Ya chancer.

    http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?p=86363670


    "So I have pretty big crush on my friend. She knows about it, she takes it as a compliment but hasn't acted on it. Any advice on how to convince her I'm the right man for her - she actually has a bf at the moment too!"

    LOL, best laugh I had in a while, thanks OP.

    But seriously back off and leave her and her bf alone. She clearly doesn't like you like that, it's embarrassing!

    The lifeboat has set sail



  • #50
    Heroditas
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    HappyBalance wrote: »
    male and straight


    Why don't you ask a male friend to come with you and you'll have a wing-man?


  • #51
    Earthhorse
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    bogwalrus wrote: »
    Op I am really surprised that you think the BF would not have a problem with this. Most men would know never to ask another fellas GF out to some occasion, even if you were good friends.

    I think it's fine to ask a female friend whose attached out to an occasion but not a wedding where a +1 is basically for your romantic interest. You can go to a wedding without a +1.


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  • #52
    Its All Wright
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 379 ✭✭Its All Wright


    This how i met my current missus, she had a boyfriend but she worked with me and we went on a sales trip. It began with seperate rooms & she ended up in my bed.


  • #53
    awec
    Administrators Posts: 56,574 Admin ✭✭✭✭✭awec


    Sure you'd have to spend the entire night explaining to everyone who talks to you that she's not your girlfriend.


  • #54
    cruizer101
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    Maybe I'm mad but I don't really see the problem in bringing a friend to a wedding.

    Assuming it is a good friend and that there are no feelings between either party its ok. Now in this case it seems there may be feelings so I would say no.

    But really where is the trust in a relationship if one person can't go to an event without partner but with a friend.


  • #55
    awec
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    cruizer101 wrote: »
    Maybe I'm mad but I don't really see the problem in bringing a friend to a wedding.

    Assuming it is a good friend and that there are no feelings between either party its ok. Now in this case it seems there may be feelings so I would say no.

    But really where is the trust in a relationship if one person can't go to an event without partner but with a friend.

    To be fair, this hardly applies to a wedding. A wedding +1 invitation is not just "an event".


  • #56
    Mince Pie
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    cruizer101 wrote: »
    Maybe I'm mad but I don't really see the problem in bringing a friend to a wedding.

    Assuming it is a good friend and that there are no feelings between either party its ok. Now in this case it seems there may be feelings so I would say no.

    But really where is the trust in a relationship if one person can't go to an event without partner but with a friend.

    not usually that much of an issue except for the OP has been creeping after said lady since at least last June.
    Its bordering stalkersville.


  • #57
    geckovision
    Closed Accounts Posts: 131 ✭✭geckovision


    Firstly, it's obvious you're into her. What straight man would want to bring a friend to a wedding where she doesn't know anyway and you'll have to 'look after her' when you could be scoring someone else!? Pull the other one.

    It's also obvious from that other thread that was posted!! Care to responsed on that?

    It's just weird. She's not into you. Boyfriend is right to be miffed. Move on.


  • #58
    Larbre34
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 28,107 ✭✭✭✭Larbre34


    Just walk away man and have some self respect. Go on your own anyway and you might pick up some fun, as you clearly relate well to girls and they love all that communications bit.

    And your posts do read quite girly FYI.

    And I express this view as many years ago I was good friends with a girl in the after work crowd, it went on innocently for so long that even her boyfriend stopped being suspicious, but inevitably even though it wasnt intentional after a few jars one night, I smashed in her front door. Platonic relationships with a narrow age gap are an incident waiting to happen.........


  • #59
    Heroditas
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    awec wrote: »
    To be fair, this hardly applies to a wedding. A wedding +1 invitation is not just "an event".


    Exactly. Why doesn't the OP bring a male friend and they can go on the lash and try and chat up all the single women at the wedding, along with indulging in some crazy dancing with ties around their heads?

    He won 't be able to do that if he's constantly babysitting someone who will probably know absolutely nobody there.
    Christ, I hate even going to weddings with my wife if we barely know anyone there, let alone going to one with a work colleague.


  • #60
    geckovision
    Closed Accounts Posts: 131 ✭✭geckovision


    Larbre34 wrote: »
    Just walk away man and have some self respect. Go on your own anyway and you might pick up some fun, as you clearly relate well to girls and they love all that communications bit.

    And your posts do read quite girly FYI.

    As a friend.


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  • #61
    awec
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    Your ideal situation OP is to bring someone who you can leave on their own for times during the night, so someone who knows your sister or your family.

    Either that, or bring nobody.

    As I said you'd have to explain to everyone that she's not your girlfriend. Everyone who comes and talks will ask if she is, and then you'll feel like a right mug when you're saying "no, she has a boyfriend".

    And any potential future girlfriend of yours who is there will not go near you.


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