Dads starting a row over a phone, what should I do?

comfortseeker · 08-02-2014 12:59PM #1

I recently got a new iphone and one morning I said I would sell my other one to my brother because he badly needs one and also because mam gave him a 50 euro one for all voucher for Xmas but has a habit of loosing these things so I said I would take it as payment and everyone's a winner.

Dad heard this conversation and said he would pay me double for the phone and how he wanted it but I explained my reason for giving it to the bro. I'm not being think but he has 2phones already and he's in his mid sixties and he can't even use it I think it's just the fact it's an iphone and he has a fondness of buying things second hand. Today he is staring a row saying I should have given him first preference and he's never doing anything for me again. I think it's a bit stupid but I don't know what to do because it's all kicking off here now. Any one have any advice ?

Aint Eazy Being Cheezy · 08-02-2014 01:02PM

He can't be serious!

Why does he think he should get first preference, did he gift it to you or give you anything towards it in the first place?

If not then tell him it's your property, and you'll do as you like with it.

Penny Tration · 08-02-2014 01:14PM

Honestly, just ignore him. He's being silly and childish. It's yours to do what you want with.

Stavro Mueller · 08-02-2014 01:16PM

Honestly, the less said the better. It's a silly reason to start a row and when your dad calms down he'll see that too.

Tokyo · 08-02-2014 01:17PM

I'm going on the assumption that this old iPhone wasn't gifted to you or contributed to by either of your parents in any way, yes??

If so, then be firm but polite - tell him that you are sorry he feels that way, but seeing as he already has two phones and your brother has none, you felt that it was only right to give it to him instead as he has more need for it. You can also tell him that if he still wants an iPhone, that you are happy to sit down on eBay with him and see if you can get a good secondhand one for him for the same money he would have paid you. Win, win....

comfortseeker · 08-02-2014 01:21PM

He had no contribution to the phone I bought it myself 3 years ago out of money I got for my 21st, I just felt that giving it to my brother I'd use the voucher more instead of letting it go to waste. I did say if the brother turned it down and wanted to buy a new one then I would give it to him then no probs but bro needs it more.

Just the sly stupid digs are driving me mad ! Sorry I said anything at all now

sadie06 · 08-02-2014 01:23PM

Ignore. Honestly, don't even reward this bizarre outburst with a conversation.

Stavro Mueller · 08-02-2014 01:24PM

I like mike_ie's suggestion as a way of diffusing the row. Your brother needs the phone so it's only fair that he got it first. Your dad has suddenly decided he wants one and is prepared to pay more for it. So why not offer to sit down with him on ebay/adverts.ie and see what's available. It's a silly tantrum - try not to get involved in a slanging match.

Flippyfloppy · 08-02-2014 01:25PM

comfortseeker wrote: »

He had no contribution to the phone I bought it myself 3 years ago out of money I got for my 21st, I just felt that giving it to my brother I'd use the voucher more instead of letting it go to waste. I did say if the brother turned it down and wanted to buy a new one then I would give it to him then no probs but bro needs it more.

Just the sly stupid digs are driving me mad ! Sorry I said anything at all now

Your dad's definetly being childish- his frustration is probably down to the fact he knows ur bro will likely lose the iPhone! If your dad is otherwise sane would it make sense for your dad to give your bro his old phone and for you to sell him the iPhone?

comfortseeker · 08-02-2014 01:34PM

Flippyfloppy wrote: »

Your dad's definetly being childish- his frustration is probably down to the fact he knows ur bro will likely lose the iPhone! If your dad is otherwise sane would it make sense for your dad to give your bro his old phone and for you to sell him the iPhone?

I never thought of that you may be on to something there god thinking! Cheers

Tokyo · 08-02-2014 01:36PM

iPhone 3gs is all over eBay for less than what he was willing to pay you. Point him in that direction... He'll be so busy going through the 56,822 results that popped up for me, he won't have time to argue with anyone....

Flippyfloppy · 08-02-2014 01:58PM

comfortseeker wrote: »

I never thought of that you may be on to something there god thinking! Cheers

No probs- all the other posters definetly have a point when they say ignore his behavior! My solution is probably the easy way out but possibly an option for you

Dads starting a row over a phone, what should I do?

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