How many people here know somebody who is gay?

12gauge dave · 31-08-2013 05:07PM

AtomicHorror wrote: »

I think so. It's hard for straight women to talk about their sexuality without being labelled as sluts or feminazis. Gay women get a worse deal again and are generally stereotyped as hot bisexuals or man-hating dykes, so it's easy to see why they'd want to keep a lower profile.

Ya the more i think of it you always hear of a large gay community for men but gay women dont seem to have as much of a scene or community in ireland anyway, i really cant say i know or can think of one lesbian in my area compared to at least 7+gay men.

PhlegmyMoses · 31-08-2013 05:07PM

My sister. Everyone was grand with it in my immediate family. One of those, sure we all knew already, you should have said it sooner kind of things.

tallus · 13-01-2014 08:44PM

Loads including at least one close family member.
Kind of a non issue these days thankfully.

liliq · 13-01-2014 08:49PM

Couple of family members and friends, plenty of acquaintances.

Links234 · 13-01-2014 08:51PM

I think my girlfriend might be gay :pac:

Reiketsu · 13-01-2014 08:55PM

My brother, my cousin and three close friends are gay.

Witchie · 13-01-2014 08:56PM

2 of my best male friends and one girl friend are gay. Actually I snogged both the gay guys before they came out........Is it my fault?

The_Pretender · 13-01-2014 08:57PM

Recently found out one of my friends from school has come out. And here was me thinking he was just hipster :pac:

dgt · 13-01-2014 08:57PM

Know plenty of gay and lesbian people. What's the big deal....

MadYaker · 13-01-2014 08:57PM

I actually can't think of of family members who are gay, even distant family. I have a few gay friends though. Id imagine everyone does.

Knasher · 13-01-2014 08:59PM

Witchie wrote: »

2 of my best male friends and one girl friend are gay. Actually I snogged both the gay guys before they came out........Is it my fault?

Possibly, give me a shout if you need a control group to continue the experiment.

In the name of science of course.

Daqster · 13-01-2014 09:00PM

Ah sure we all at least know Uncle Gaybo anyway.

Ihatecuddles · 13-01-2014 09:07PM

I had friends over one night, out of 7 of us, 5 were gay

We thought it was funny....guess you had to be there.

renraw · 13-01-2014 09:07PM

No, I'm sorry but neither I nor my friends know anyone that is happy or whatever!

JupiterKid · 13-01-2014 09:12PM

Yep - myself!

roadrunner16 · 13-01-2014 09:14PM

The Backwards Man wrote: »

Who gives a fcuk?

Gay, straight, white, black, orange, rich, poor, male, female.

We're all the one sow's pigs at the end of the day.

The Backwards man has some pretty forward thinking.

renraw · 13-01-2014 09:14PM

JupiterKid wrote: »

Yep - myself!

And me, btw...but, because this is boards...we can't ask to see further? but to wonder wtf! but we go on!

Butterface · 13-01-2014 09:35PM

I'd say I have more gay friends than straight.

Over the Christmas I went to my parent's local, bumped into the same group of lads I would have known for about 15 years, maybe longer. One of the guys in the group is still not out to the other lads, despite many of the girls knowing and there have being whisperings of it for years. But I understand why now.
The use of the word "f****t" and "queer" that night directed at anyone and everyone. "Look at this f****t coming in with his pink shirt" "are those queers out in the smoking area riding each other?"..

I don't understand how their girlfriends could put up with such uneducated, uncultured cretins. But sure two pints was all I could stomach to stick around for, so I never got to ask them.

renraw · 13-01-2014 09:36PM

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hlVBg7_08n0

13-01-2014 09:59PM

Going by social networks or other websites you'd think Ireland is a pretty liberal country but in reality I don't think this is true. Especially in rural areas. Maybe in a generation or two it will change to not to be as a conservative country, but at the moment (in general) I think Irish people struggle to accept things that aren't normal. I think most people will say yeah it's cool or they don't mind if you're gay but they I think overall, especially with over 30s most still feel uncomfortable about the issue.

13-01-2014 10:01PM

Butterface wrote: »

I'd say I have more gay friends than straight.

Over the Christmas I went to my parent's local, bumped into the same group of lads I would have known for about 15 years, maybe longer. One of the guys in the group is still not out to the other lads, despite many of the girls knowing and there have being whisperings of it for years. But I understand why now.
The use of the word "f****t" and "queer" that night directed at anyone and everyone. "Look at this f****t coming in with his pink shirt" "are those queers out in the smoking area riding each other?"..

I don't understand how their girlfriends could put up with such uneducated, uncultured cretins. But sure two pints was all I could stomach to stick around for, so I never got to ask them.

A lad I know came out as gay and had a night of AIDS and Hepatitis jokes. He still hangs out with us because he's got a sense of humour.

Sunnyisland · 13-01-2014 10:03PM

Two nephews and friends. No big deal for me.

aujopimur · 13-01-2014 10:07PM

Does gay for pay count?.

Miss Lockhart · 13-01-2014 10:10PM

Nobody I went to school or college with was gay or have come out afaik. In fact one guy in college who many presumed was gay has a long term girlfriend now. Nobody in my family or neighbourhood is gay. Nobody I work with is gay that I know of. I have always thought it strange I don't know any gay people. Not sure if that's just the way if is or if there are people who just aren't out or what.

Several students in the school in which I teach are gay though.

stop animal cruelty · 13-01-2014 10:16PM

DEFTLEFTHAND wrote: »

From the pub talk tonight I don't think you'd want to be gay where I come from. I've learned that many people will pretend to be all happy and forward thinking but when behind closed doors they'll speak free thoughts. There's a certain type of male who'll never accept other males of that sexual preference.

the kind who stare and judge, but would never say anything to your face

keeponhurling · 13-01-2014 10:18PM

i don't think even gay people believe that stuff about 10%+ of the population bring gay.

It's just a way to reassure those who might have fears about coming out that its not unusual, and not such a big deal

FizzleSticks · 13-01-2014 10:25PM

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Lyaiera · 13-01-2014 10:28PM

The_Pretender wrote: »

Recently found out one of my friends from school has come out. And here was me thinking he was just hipster :pac:

It's disgusting that you'd think an ordinary, decent man a hipster. Shame on you!

I've known plenty of gay people throughout my life, none are close friends though.

Butterface · 13-01-2014 11:58PM

Deleted User wrote: »

A lad I know came out as gay and had a night of AIDS and Hepatitis jokes. He still hangs out with us because he's got a sense of humour.

Well I'm sure the use of such terms by close male friends wouldn't be an encouraging atmosphere for the chap I mentioned to come out to.

Some gay people may laugh off jokes like the ones you mentioned, in fact many I know would make such jokes themselves. Some I know would bristle at the mention of derogatory terms for gay people, mainly because it harks back to the same schoolyard bullying they experienced. And no, I'm not saying we should all be PC all of the time.

However, I want to make it clear that in the situation I mentioned, the terms were used in a negative manner about straight guys as an insult. It can't be easy as a gay guy in the closet worried about coming out, to hear his friends talking like that every single weekend. He's pushing 30 now, and I'd say he'll never come out unless he moves to a bigger town/city! Pretty sad.

The_Pretender · 14-01-2014 12:12AM

Lyaiera wrote: »

It's disgusting that you'd think an ordinary, decent man a hipster. Shame on you!

I've known plenty of gay people throughout my life, none are close friends though.

I didn't mean that I think gay people are hipsters. It's just that I didn't think that this one friend of mine who, since starting college has come out, was gay. He had more girlfriends than me in secondary school, but towards the last few years of school he became really 'hipster'. Since he has come out however, he has become the most flamboyant person out there. It's like he took his hipster-ness and multiplied it by a thousand.

How many people here know somebody who is gay?

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