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Is being late for dinner rude?

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  • #32
    Frosty McSnowballs
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    dmc17 wrote: »
    Then you'd be just on time for the cinnamon rolls and miss the first 2 courses :pac:

    Damn it!


  • #33
    Frosty McSnowballs
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    Witchie wrote: »
    Should I say anything to them? Dont want to ruin the night but am really pissed off. 35 minutes late now.

    Starter is getting cold.

    Chicken is done.

    Have you considered killing them all?


  • #34
    Marley Salmon Rodeo
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    Witchie wrote: »
    Should I say anything to them? Dont want to ruin the night but am really pissed off. 35 minutes late now.

    Starter is getting cold.

    Chicken is done.

    Eat your own starter put the others in the fridge and tell them to f off if they come looking for food when they arrive


  • #35
    MilanPan!c
    Site Banned Posts: 4,415 ✭✭✭MilanPan!c


    Senor Fancy Pants wrote: »
    Have you considered killing them all?

    If you killed every late Irish person the island would be pretty empty...


  • #36
    dmc17
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    Witchie wrote: »
    Should I say anything to them? Dont want to ruin the night but am really pissed off. 35 minutes late now.

    Starter is getting cold.

    Chicken is done.

    Just say "might be a little cold................ IT'S READY SINCE 6!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!"


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  • #37
    Aidric
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    anncoates wrote: »
    I know people that waffle on about their serial lack of punctuality like it's indicative of a daring riposte to conventionality but let's be honest, it just means they're being ignorant cunts

    This. It's an attitudinal thing, as if showing up late is the accepted norm in Ireland. When did this begin to be acceptable?


  • #38
    cletus van damme
    Closed Accounts Posts: 960 ✭✭✭cletus van damme


    bluewolf wrote: »
    Eat your own starter put the others in the fridge and tell them to f off if they come looking for food when they arrive

    yeah, might as well get stuck in yourself and if it's really nice eat theirs too.


  • #39
    clairefontaine
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,390 ✭✭✭clairefontaine


    Witchie wrote: »
    I did consider telling them earlier but thought that just this once, since I was making such an effort for them, that they might arrive on time.

    Menu is:

    Starter:
    Roasted Mediterranean Vegetables and Feta tartlets on a bed of salad

    Main:
    Vegetable and Cheese Pasta Bake
    Chicken fillets stuffed with Pesto, Mozzerella & herbs (bread crumbed coating)
    Herby Home Fries

    Dessert:

    Cinnamon Roll Bread Pudding with Tia Maria Custard
    & A Cheese board.


    Made everything from scratch bar the cinnamon rolls.

    That menu looks terrific. Jesus Christ what assholes. I can see the effort you made.


  • #40
    Donkey Oaty
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    Witchie wrote: »
    Should I say anything to them? Dont want to ruin the night but am really pissed off.

    1) Big glass of wine to welcome friends

    2) Enjoy meal

    3) Enjoy pub

    4) Report back.


  • #41
    CarrickMcJoe
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,379 ✭✭✭CarrickMcJoe


    Got a brother who is always late. Family christening he arrived as the cermony was finishing, family photo arrived 35 mins late, photographer had to send the next group away to suit him. Other members of the clan had young kids that were getting restless.
    Rude is not the word, more like Ignorant.

    Did they arrive yet?


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  • #42
    Frosty McSnowballs
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    MilanPan!c wrote: »
    If you killed every late Irish person the island would be pretty empty...

    Not true, plenty of fordiners around!

    Plenty of people I know are punctual.


  • #43
    Aidric
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 13,598 ✭✭✭✭Aidric


    Hang on, what are herby home fries?


  • #44
    dmc17
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2, Paid Member Posts: 3,887 ✭✭✭dmc17


    You could also just eat your own dinner now and when they arrive just give them drinks and they'll be upside down after a few drinks without any soakage. If they mention dinner tell them you had dinner at 6 and it was delightful.


  • #45
    clairefontaine
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    anncoates wrote: »
    Had a similar friend and I just stood him up a few times until he got the message.

    I give them a 15 minutes grace period and then I consider the agreement null and void, auto cancelled.

    Mobile phones has made the compulsively late even worse.

    THey look at you in shock ..."Didn't you get my text?"

    Eh no I didn't... It must have flown up your ass.


  • #46
    [Deleted User]
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    Reekwind wrote: »
    Which is exactly why no one arrives exactly on time. Factor it into your own calculations
    Not true, some people do arrive on time. I'm not calculating a list of time constants for everyone else who is too disorganized or disingenuous to meet me at the agreed time.

    With regards to parties (with no food), if the host tells me it will start at 8 I tell him I will be there at 9 to account for it and then show up at 9, not tell him 8 and show up at 9.


  • #47
    poundapunnet
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    ahnowbrowncow wrote: »
    Who thinks this???

    Idiots, that's who.

    I think an awful lot of Irish people do. If I'm having people over I'd tend to go with "Sure any time from 6 on", if I'm cooking for people I'd factor in time for people to arrive, get landed, have a drink before dinner is on the table and I usually wouldn't show up at someone's house less than ten minutes after the agreed time. I know it doesn't make an awful lot of sense but in my experience my entire social circle is all operating on the same assumption.

    That said, some people just take the absolute piss with it, and if someone very clearly said please be here at this time, I mean really this time and not roughly this time, I'd be sure to be punctual.


  • #48
    Skid X
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    After going to that much trouble to cook them a lovely meal, you have every right to be pissed off with them.

    You deserve to have better friends.


  • #49
    Shenshen
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    I have a few friends who would always show up late when invited round for dinner.

    After the second time serving them over-done food, I've decided that nothing goes into the oven until they actually show up, they will then just have to wait so much longer for their food.

    The funny thing is, two of those friends invited us round for dinner not too long ago, and got really upset when some other friends showed up late, as the risotto had gone really gloopy by then. I was chuckling and telling them this was why I only started actually cooking things once they were at my door. They had the good grace to be embarrassed and promised improvement. Let's wait and see ;)


  • #50
    muletide
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    Aidric wrote: »
    Punctuality doesn't suit the Irish.

    Bullsh1t

    Punctuality doesn't suit lazy, self absorbed people of any nationality


  • #51
    padd b1975
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    Aidric wrote: »
    Hang on, what are herby home fries?

    Chips with that yellow all purpose seasoning sprinkled on top.


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  • #52
    MilanPan!c
    Site Banned Posts: 4,415 ✭✭✭MilanPan!c


    I show up 10-15 early for almost everything. If I think it'll be rude to actually present myself early I wait in my car, etc., until the time I'm meant to be there.

    This rude behaviour exists because people allow it to exist.


  • #53
    MilanPan!c
    Site Banned Posts: 4,415 ✭✭✭MilanPan!c


    muletide wrote: »
    Bullsh1t

    Punctuality doesn't suit lazy, self absorbed people of any nationality

    Bullsh1t.

    I've lived in multiple countries and never had so many issues with punctuality...

    ...and I've had so many Irish people tell me, when I used to complain about this, that the only option was to just adapt and be late myself.


  • #54
    abff
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    I hope they've arrived by now and that you enjoy the evening despite their tardiness.


  • #55
    Electric Sheep
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    Aidric wrote: »
    This. It's an attitudinal thing, as if showing up late is the accepted norm in Ireland. When did this begin to be acceptable?

    As far as I can remember it's always been like that in Ireland. They tend to take the appointed time as a suggestion.


  • #56
    anncoates
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    Aidric wrote: »
    This. It's an attitudinal thing, as if showing up late is the accepted norm in Ireland. When did this begin to be acceptable?

    Totally.

    People talk about it regretfully as it's a malady over which they have no agency, like a genetic condition. :)


  • #57
    MilanPan!c
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    Electric Sheep wrote: »
    As far as I can remember it's always been like that in Ireland. They tend to take the appointed time as a suggestion.

    The same way many Irish treat red lights... as a suggestion...


  • #58
    Witchie
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,597 ✭✭✭Witchie


    Ok friend who is carer to her sick mum and elderly dad is here but other is 50 minutes late. Am really pissed off with her at this stage.


  • #59
    Frosty McSnowballs
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    MilanPan!c wrote: »
    The same way many Irish treat red lights... as a suggestion...

    Oh here we go........


  • #60
    dmc17
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    Have they arrived yet?

    Tell them we were asking for them anyway. No point in us all falling out with them just because they were late


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  • #61
    Strumms
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    anncoates wrote: »
    Had a similar friend and I just stood him up a few times until he got the message.


    Precisely what I did to a mate who was constantly late. His excuse was that he always missed the bus he intended on getting. Yes, he missed it because he was LATE for it. So instead of me playing snooker in the snooker hall for an hour on my lonesome or downing a couple of pints on my own waiting for him at the boozer I reversed rolls and it used to piss him off.... To the point that he is always on time now :p


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