Are some people just born middle-aged?

beks101 · 28-12-2013 01:59AM #1

There's this girl I went to college with, she's about two years younger than me but for as long as I've known her she's acted about forty-five.

She's always had a complete disregard for things that occupy most teenagers'/young peoples' minds - music, nights out, popular TV shows, fashion, getting the ride (not a bad thing I guess). And her wardrobe and hair style is distinctly tweed, dated, "teacher / mammy"ish. The glasses alone add about a decade.

Her style of conversation is like that which I'd overhear if I sat in on a lunch with my mother and her old school pals - with all the 'old-fogey' phrases and nuances to go with it. Did you hear such-and-such bought a new house fair play to her, himself did well in the exams thank God, tis shocking what you'd see of a Saturday night down in those parts, twas a great mass on Sunday, great to see the local choir back in action.

FB posts tend to be equally banal:

"Had the pleasure of visiting (random town) today, tis a fab spot altogether, the flowers are only gorgeous"

"Absolutely thrilled to be shortlisted for (random gardening competition), tis fierce windy out there but our green fingers shall persist!"

I've always found myself censoring the swear words and adapting a more innocent, slightly more 'country' tone while engaging in conversation with her, as if I was talking to an old-fashioned aunt or grandparents of a friend or something. Even though I'd be talking to a nineteen year old, several years younger than me.

It's hard to imagine someone like this getting bollixed drunk and crying because "everyone hates me" or something, or having wild animal sex, or having a fag and some skittles for breakfast just for the hell of it...as is a rite of passage for most young people. They just seem so innocent and yet, paradoxically, completely middle-aged. Like they skipped the silly adolescent / 20s phase.

Anyone else know people like this?

Are some people just born middle-aged?

Cee-Jay-Cee · 28-12-2013 02:00AM

Yeah.

Galway K9 · 28-12-2013 02:01AM

Are you middle aged?

beks101 · 28-12-2013 02:02AM

Nope

cantdecide · 28-12-2013 02:03AM

She sounds hot.

J_E · 28-12-2013 02:04AM

Not all of us 20 somethings want to act like morons all the time (skittles and fags for breakfast...lol)! You shouldn't be at her for being herself, and you never know what goes on behind closed curtains...the calmest ones are always the most volatile underneath it all

Anyway, isn't it a 'middle aged' thing to natter on about other people behind their back? :pac:

spiralism · 28-12-2013 02:05AM

I think so, some people are just very innocent and sheltered, can think of a couple off the top of my head, one in particular is my age going on 40 in mindset imo. It's fine though as long as they're happy, they're entitled to it after all but they just wouldnt be the type i'd keep company with as i'd just get bored. Live and let live after all.

LikeClockwork · 28-12-2013 02:07AM

So because she is a caring individual with hobbies that are different to your standard moron, she is middle aged? She sounds like a nice woman in fairness.

Links234 · 28-12-2013 02:07AM

beks101 wrote: »

Are some people just born middle-aged?

No, she's from the future you see, and downloaded her consciousness from 40 years later into her younger self. It's all very complicated

5uspect · 28-12-2013 02:07AM

Some people have different personalities. Get over it.

beks101 · 28-12-2013 02:07AM

Cydoniac wrote: »

Not all of us 20 somethings want to act like morons all the time (skittles and fags for breakfast...lol)! You shouldn't be at her for being herself, and you never know what goes on behind closed curtains...the calmest ones are always the most volatile underneath it all

Anyway, isn't it a 'middle aged' thing to natter on about other people behind their back? :pac:

She's a dote, a really truly lovely girl. Just on a different wave length to most of her peers, seemingly of a wavelength a generation or two above her actual age.

Just fascinating is all.

SV · 28-12-2013 02:08AM

Lady in the street but a freak in the bed, guaranteed.

Links234 · 28-12-2013 02:08AM

beks101 wrote: »

hair style is distinctly tweed

Also, how does someone have a tweed hairstyle?! I MUST KNOW THIS!

beks101 · 28-12-2013 02:08AM

5uspect wrote: »

Some people have different personalities. Get over it.

Aren't you a treat

Mint Aero · 28-12-2013 02:09AM

I know what ya mean. I've always wanted to shag one of those but I haven't developed the social maturity to bed them yet. Dunno if I want to either to be honest, can't imagine the sex being good with a stuffy mare like that.

J_E · 28-12-2013 02:09AM

beks101 wrote: »

She's a dote, a really truly lovely girl. Just on a different wave length to most of her peers, seemingly of a wavelength a generation or two above her actual age.

Just fascinating is all.

I salute her for doing something different, too many young people are afraid to show individuality lest they be seen as a bit odd.
If I had to choose between getting 'bollixed drunk, eating skittles with fags, swearing and shagging, bitching about mates on Boards', and actually doing something I enjoy and pursue passions, well...

Mint Aero wrote: »

I know what ya mean. I've always wanted to shag one of those but I haven't developed the social maturity to bed them yet. Dunno if I want to either to be honest, can't imagine the sex being good with a stuffy mare like that.

You don't exactly sound like Mr. Sex God yourself from the tone of that post :pac:

Fentdog84 · 28-12-2013 02:09AM

When she'll be 40 she'll probably be making up for lost time going around acting like a twenty year old riding young fellas.

Artful_Badger · 28-12-2013 02:10AM

Knew a chap from Dalkey who was born fully grown, with memories but no experience to account for them and teeth already tobacco-stained.

beks101 · 28-12-2013 02:12AM

LikeClockwork wrote: »

So because she is a caring individual with hobbies that are different to your standard moron, she is middle aged?

Yes, this is precisely what I said.
Thank you for clarifying for me.

5uspect · 28-12-2013 02:14AM

beks101 wrote: »

Aren't you a treat

Oh noes, someone in the internet disagrees.

This girl isn't born middle aged. She's just got her own personality. I wish most people did this rather than follow the piss head herd.

qo2cj1dsne8y4k · 28-12-2013 02:14AM

Hahaha are we friends with the same person?! She sounds like a girl I used to be friends with. We were like chalk and cheese and I think the only reason we became friends was cause I was the new girl and she had no friends so we bonded on my first day!

She's hilarious though, when she came out for a drink the first night with us, she had one and "knew her limits" after that. Me abc my friends wouldn't be a crowd that would recognise limits so I'd imagine she was disgusted.

She travels a lot and has all these pics up on Facebook and I do have to laugh at her in her 3/4 length shorts and her Ecco sandals haha.

She was home a few years ago (she's nursing in England) for Xmas and we all went out, **** ur Honda civic was BIG at the time and me and my best friend were drunkenly singing it to each other and she's all like what is this nonsense.

Knock some Craic out of her all the same though - although it'd be unintentional

Mint Aero · 28-12-2013 02:15AM

Cydoniac wrote: »

You don't exactly sound like Mr. Sex God yourself from the tone of that post :pac:

Nope I'm frigid but I know the type the OP is on about and I just can't imagine the sex at all.

beks101 · 28-12-2013 02:17AM

5uspect wrote: »

Oh noes, someone in the internet disagrees.

This girl isn't born middle aged. She's just got her own personality. I wish most people did this rather than follow the piss head herd.

So you never find a common level of experience or maturity or developmental growth among a group of peers?

It's a passing observation btw, not a criticism.

You sound like someone who hates people generally.

Links234 · 28-12-2013 02:19AM

I think I'm at odds with everyone. you're all feckin' weirdos, you hear?

Daqster · 28-12-2013 02:20AM

Ryna Tubridy was 67 when he was 14.

5uspect · 28-12-2013 02:20AM

beks101 wrote: »

So you never find a common level of experience or maturity or developmental growth among a group of peers?

It's a passing observation btw, not a criticism.

You sound like someone who hates people generally.

Eh okay. You you accuse others of putting words in your mouth...

Yes, this is precisely what I said.
Thank you for clarifying for me.

looking_around · 28-12-2013 02:21AM

life experience.

I was always more "mature" than my peers in alot of ways.
And this was due to a great number of unfortunate events.

It's rare someone is just "older".

She may have spent much of her time with her grandparents/raised by them, which would also lead to an "older" likes/dislikes.

Call Me Jimmy · 28-12-2013 02:21AM

*COLD WATER* SPLASH

LikeClockwork · 28-12-2013 02:22AM

LexieOnRale wrote: »

Hahaha are we friends with the same person?! She sounds like a girl I used to be friends with. We were like chalk and cheese and I think the only reason we became friends was cause I was the new girl and she had no friends so we bonded on my first day! She's hilarious though, when she came out for a drink the first night with us, she had one and knew her limits after that. Me abc my friends wouldn't be a crowd that would recognise limits so I'd imagine she was disgusted. She travels a lot and has all these pics up on Facebook and I do have to laugh at her in her 3/4 length shorts and her Ecco sandals haha. She was home a few years ago (she's nursing in England) for Xmas and we all went out, **** ur Honda civic was BIG at the time and me and my best friend were drunkenly singing it to each other and she's all like what is this nonsense. Knock some Craic out of her all the same though - although it'd be unintentional

So, because she dresses differently, doesn't listen to the same music as you and doesn't get pissed every weekend you take the piss out of her and laugh at her facebook pictures? Christ I weep for humanity sometimes.

qo2cj1dsne8y4k · 28-12-2013 02:25AM

LikeClockwork wrote: »

So, because she dresses differently, doesn't listen to the same music as you and doesn't get pissed every weekend you take the piss out of her and laugh at her facebook pictures? Christ I weep for humanity sometimes.

I laugh at her Facebook pictures because they're hilarious

28-12-2013 02:26AM

LexieOnRale wrote: »

Hahaha are we friends with the same person?! She sounds like a girl I used to be friends with. We were like chalk and cheese and I think the only reason we became friends was cause I was the new girl and she had no friends so we bonded on my first day!

She's hilarious though, when she came out for a drink the first night with us, she had one and "knew her limits" after that. Me abc my friends wouldn't be a crowd that would recognise limits so I'd imagine she was disgusted.

She travels a lot and has all these pics up on Facebook and I do have to laugh at her in her 3/4 length shorts and her Ecco sandals haha.

She was home a few years ago (she's nursing in England) for Xmas and we all went out, **** ur Honda civic was BIG at the time and me and my best friend were drunkenly singing it to each other and she's all like what is this nonsense.

Knock some Craic out of her all the same though - although it'd be unintentional

You were 'friends' with a girl you took the piss out of because of how she dressed and actually laughed *at* her for entertainment?

Nice.

Are some people just born middle-aged?

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