Biggest regrets in life?

dd972 · 20-11-2013 03:03AM

Being born :pac:

20-11-2013 05:19AM

Debt to play poker before I even graduated.. No long lasting effects but a big waste. Actually, it taught me just how hard loans can be to pay back so it could be a good thing.

lufties · 20-11-2013 06:12AM

I regret not sorting out my self loathing earlier in life as i'm too hard on myself most of the time. otherwise i wish i didn't say certain things to my parents, they are both alive and we have a good relationship now, but even still.

Drinking a lot of alcohol is another regret.

At the end of the day we must remember though that we're human and not perfect.

suicide_circus · 20-11-2013 07:10AM

I regret that I didn't invent the piano key necktie

BlackEdelweiss · 20-11-2013 07:29AM

Not joining the foreign legion and becoming a sniper!

Sunglasses Ron · 20-11-2013 08:59AM

Not a whole lot, really! I tend to view my past mistakes as a learning curve that you endure between teenage and adulthood. Certainly a few "**** me I won't make that mistake again" but more putting it down to experience and carrying on. I look at some friends and people I went to school with and think "**** thank god I did not end up doing what you have done/ did" whether it be them stuck in a ****e job (irregardless of their pay being great or awful,), many years on an irrelevant college course, years in an argumentative under the thumb relationship, a cocaine habit, and numerous other things I either completely avoided or got right out of before there was too many wasted years. There are things and nights I wish I had not experienced but on a whole I have done it my way as Frank would say

In 20 years I will be able to look back on my twenties and think that, for the vast majority, I didn't waste it doing ****e I didn't want to do.

ruthloss · 20-11-2013 09:02AM

and though it all, when there was doubt, I did it sideways.;)

Sunglasses Ron · 20-11-2013 09:03AM

ruthloss wrote: »

and though it all, when there was doubt, I did it sideways.;)

You ate it up and spit it out first Ruth.

ruthloss · 20-11-2013 09:06AM

Sunglasses Ron wrote: »

You ate it up and spit it out first Ruth.

:P

mattjack · 20-11-2013 09:10AM

Holsten Pils or Niamh all them years ago.
I choose Holsten Pils .

Dave! · 20-11-2013 09:18AM

I wish I had dealt better with acne-induced self-esteem and confidence issues when I was in secondary school. It pretty much crippled me socially for my school years, and much of college.

Related to that: I wish I enjoyed the college experience a lot more than I did.

I don't think about these things much though. I'm more or less happy with my current lot, and still relatively young, so onwards and/or upwards

Carpet diem · 20-11-2013 09:45AM

Spent too many years getting thrashed and as a result neglecting work, relationships, friendships and much more.

Lesson learned and plenty time yet to get back on track.

sbsquarepants · 20-11-2013 09:49AM

Nothing too major.

I regret not travelling more when it was an option is probably the biggest one.

I spent a lot of money on cocaine, which although very enjoyable at the time, I now kinda wish I had paid off my mortgage, or invested wisely or something more sensible like that. I must be getting old.

I once turned an 8 grand lump sum into a small fortune by "investing" aka gambling, in shares when the stock market was going mad a few years back. I thought to myself, "you know what's better than a small fortune? A large fortune" and then proceeded to turn it back into roughly a grand!:mad:

Ridiculously hot chick I know wanted to hook up for a dirty weekend, I politely declined on the grounds that I had a girlfriend - turns out the girlfriend had no such qualms and was in fact banging half of Dublin at the time. That weekend would have kicked ass!

Those are the main ones I can think of right now.

For Forks Sake · 20-11-2013 09:52AM

theblaqueguy wrote: »

My biggest regret is

Picking up the crack pipe and taking a hit from it
I've been chasing the dragon ever since

Ah it's not too bad, you're still Mayor of Toronto.

McTigs · 20-11-2013 10:05AM

I 'm happy to say i don't really have any regrets.

Sure i've done stupid things and many things i'd do different if i had the chance again but i just look at them as learning experiences and move on.

The way I look at it is everything i've done, both stupid and smart has brought me to where i am now.... which is happily married with two great kids.

Since having kids I feel massively energised about things i neglected in the past like my health, education and career.

Don't wallow in regret, life is to short... learn from your mistakes and move on.

Leogirl · 20-11-2013 10:13AM

McIrish_ wrote: »

One of my biggest regrets is not keeping in touch with my best friend from school. Really just drifted apart after we finished up with school.

Really can't even remember the last time we spoke

I was in the same boat a few years ago - had lost touch with my best friend & regretted it so much but was too nervous to get in touch. Eventually a friend convinced me & we are now best buds again & I was with her through cancer, a second cancer scare & now we're at the other side & I am so happy to be with her while she enjoys her life again. We have a truly wonderful & close friendship.

Do it - life is too short!!

jaffusmax · 20-11-2013 10:15AM

My biggest regret is wasting time regretting things that I had no reasons to regret!

peanutman · 20-11-2013 10:18AM

The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago. The second best time is right now. Life's to short for regrets, what's done is done.Make the rest of your life the best of your life. Peace

Penny Dreadful · 20-11-2013 10:20AM

I don't do regrets. I find they (much like worry) are unproductive and draining.
If I was to redo some parts of my life, I'd break up with my idiot ex boyfriend many years before I finally did it. He is such a waster, bottom feeder in society and I can't for the life of me see what I was ever doing with him.

Overall though I'm happy with my life and don't want to change anything in it.

simonsays1 · 20-11-2013 10:34AM

I regret not experiencing more sex in my 20's.

And also never having a meaningful loving relationship with the opposite sex EVER.

I'm learning to accept it though! F@@k it!

I'm pretty happy with everything else.

OldNotWIse · 20-11-2013 10:40AM

Not repeating my Leaving cert to get the points for what I wanted, and doing a chemistry degree instead because "science opens doors" - it does in it's hole.

Racking up a rake of debts and destroying my credit rating.

Staying with my controlling ex for 6 years of my life.

The day I was waiting for a phonecall from someone and my Mum called me and asked why I sounded disappointed and I said, (gulp) "I thought you were someone else" - she said, "someday you'd give anything to hear from me"

Taking the MAP - still feel guilty.

diomed · 20-11-2013 10:55AM

Not being born a billionaire. Life is so unfair.

Goodshape · 20-11-2013 10:57AM

sparrowcar wrote: »

In watched Billy Connelly's world tour of Australia when it came out in 1996, I was 18. I remember thinking when I finished college i'd head off a see all those places.

I'm 36 in March

Billy Connelly was in his mid 50s in 1996. You've time yet.

Stompbox · 20-11-2013 11:03AM

My only regret is that I have boneitis.

Sarah2014 · 20-11-2013 11:03AM

tattoos haha

80s Child · 20-11-2013 11:05AM

Not working harder in school.

Not carrying my now fiancee's father's coffin; although we had been going out for nearly 6 years, as were weren't married I was still viewed as 'outside the family'. I let it slide at the time, as you would, because I didn't want to cause any hassle at an already terrible time; if it was now though, I would definitely have my say. We got on really well together and I for some resaon this still really gets to me. I miss him.

Agricola · 20-11-2013 05:02PM

Goodshape wrote: »

Billy Connelly was in his mid 50s in 1996. You've time yet.

Yeah but he was also a multimillionaire with lots of time on his hands in his mid 50s as well!

I have plenty of regrets but not to depress myself Ill stick to a lighter one. The night I stayed with a friend of mine in his cousin's house in England. The cousin in question was an 18 yr old Id been messing around with on and off for years as kids, but on this occasion, I was told she wanted to take our friendship to the next level.......... by sleeping in her bedroom, which was 10 ft away from her parents room. I though to myself A) thats very disrespectful to her parents

and

her father is a semi lunatic at the best of times, what will happen to me when he finds out I shagged his daughter under his roof. So I declined. For various reasons, the opportunity never arose again. She was way out of my league too. Oh regrets!

Bog Standard User · 20-11-2013 05:06PM

McIrish_ wrote: »

One of my biggest regrets is not keeping in touch with my best friend from school. Really just drifted apart after we finished up with school.

Really can't even remember the last time we spoke

pick up the phone and call your friend

whiskeyman · 20-11-2013 05:10PM

What's the use in regrets, they're just things we haven't done yet...

wp_rathead · 20-11-2013 05:12PM

the usual cliches for me I'm afraid:

Not making a move on girl which i knew liked me - I don't buy into the whole "outa my league" craic, but she was "woah" - amazing - plus she was just as obessed with Jurrasic Park and Harry Potter as I was.. *sigh*
Not getting to know 2 of my cusins more who have died recently - would only meet them at family weddings and got on great with them
Not playing enough with our dog who died about 5 years ago - still miss her

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