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Jealous Partners

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  • #32
    Tangatagamadda Chaddabinga Bonga Bungo
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,009 ✭✭✭Tangatagamadda Chaddabinga Bonga Bungo


    #Obligatory point out the obvious sexism post#

    If the genders were reversed in that article we'd have people calling for him to be jailed because he's an abuser and there'd be a few 'statements' made at the end of the story by a number of different 'organisations'.

    lolers!!!


  • #33
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 26,219 ✭✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    Deleted User wrote: »



    When I was much younger I was. And it helped ruin the relationship I was in. I grew out of it since then. Nowadays I am the complete opposite. I have complete faith in my current partnersto the point I even allow them in situations that many people would be paranoid about.

    I am entirely aware of the risks involved in putting my trust and faith in other people but I choose to do so now and have every reason to believe that that trust is not misplaced.


    You'll allow them.

    That's great.


  • #34
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 7,344 ✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    Candie wrote: »
    You'll allow them.

    That's great.

    Yup. It is. Though I feel you are possibly reading more into the word "allow" than was intended by it's use. I intend to say by it that I do not react as negatively to my girlfriends being in situations - or certain friendships - as many other people do in my experience. Nor they me.


  • #35
    I Heart Internet
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,678 ✭✭✭I Heart Internet


    Tasden wrote: »
    I dont understand why people who are that "insecure" bother being in a relationship. It only causes the jealous partner to be constantly on edge and miserable, and the partner to feel suffocated and unhappy. And I don't think its only insecurity tbh, its more than that. I'm insecure sometimes, I'll freely admit that, but I don't project it onto my partner and expect constant reassurance that he's not cheating. If I can't at least try to trust a partner then I shouldn't have one. If someone is gonna cheat then nagging them/checking up on them is not going to stop them.

    It's anxirty. The woman seems to be suffering from very severe anxity and it manifests in an almost OCD type of compulsion to prove to herself that her man isn't cheating.

    It's good that she's getting treatment. Regardless of whether her man wants to stick around for her or not.


  • #36
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 53,068 ✭✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    Tangatagamadda Chaddabinga Bonga Bungo wrote: »
    #Obligatory point out the obvious sexism post#

    If the genders were reversed in that article we'd have people calling for him to be jailed because he's an abuser and there'd be a few 'statements' made at the end of the story by a number of different 'organisations'.

    lolers!!!


    You're not wrong.


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  • #37
    qo2cj1dsne8y4k
    Closed Accounts Posts: 23,646 ✭✭✭✭qo2cj1dsne8y4k


    I've never ever been jealous in any actual relationships except for one in 6th year, when I was a young one (if you could even call it a relationship). I knew he was flat out texting two of my friends that he met through me and one of them had told him she liked him, and sent him naughty pictures. He told me cause he didn't like lying and I freaked out. We stayed together a few more months but I didn't trust him because of what had happened at the very start, so I wouldn't sleep with him. He was texting my other friend all of the time though and one day I got a text from him saying "Don't tell Lexie". Don't tell me what? I was super paranoid throughout that whole relationship, was glad I didn't sleep with him and was glad dumping him screwed him up relationship wise.

    Then, I was fine in my next proper relationship. The first boy I ever loved. He used to travel a lot, had lots of female friends, but I never minded because I knew he would never cheat. We ended up breaking up and had a 'casual' thing going when he moved to Toronto, and he was all about the strip clubs over there, and I still never cared, cause he always told me about those savage dancers and when I went to visit he took me to his favourite one, so I was fine with it.

    However, a friend I was never in a relationship with, but we had agreed just to meet each other and nobody else, did meet someone else, and I was completely devastated at the time as much of an over reaction that was, and even after that finished and while we were still meeting, I was always 50% on the fence that he was meeting others and just not telling me, I was completely paranoid and jealous and distrusting and it caused lots of fights between us at one stage.

    So, i guess if I trust someone I'm not a physco but if the trust is ever broken, I am.


  • #38
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 26,219 ✭✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    I Heart Internet wrote: »
    It's anxirty. The woman seems to be suffering from very severe anxity and it manifests in an almost OCD type of compulsion to prove to herself that her man isn't cheating.

    It's good that she's getting treatment. Regardless of whether her man wants to stick around for her or not.

    Precisely. She's not just doing this to make his life miserable either - she's been diagnosed with a medical condition and is unwell. I feel sorry for her, her life must be agonisingly stressful.

    Of course, I feel great pity for him too, and admiration that he's stuck with her this long.


  • #39
    mathie
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,103 ✭✭✭mathie


    Grayson wrote: »
    Not like you could catch her.

    You'd need nets from a football match.


  • #40
    GLaDOS
    Moderators, Regional East Moderators Posts: 23,257 Mod ✭✭✭✭GLaDOS


    I feel if you can't trust your partner, there's no point being in a relationship with them. Nothing wrong with feeling the odd pang of jealousy, some things are human nature. But if it gets to the point where you're actively suspicious of their daily routine or trying to control them, something's gone badly wrong and it's time to either work it out, or walk away..

    Cake, and grief counseling, will be available at the conclusion of the test



  • #41
    Tasden
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,166 ✭✭✭Tasden


    I Heart Internet wrote: »
    It's anxirty. The woman seems to be suffering from very severe anxity and it manifests in an almost OCD type of compulsion to prove to herself that her man isn't cheating.

    It's good that she's getting treatment. Regardless of whether her man wants to stick around for her or not.

    I was speaking about people in general, not necessarily the woman in the article cause tbh it just looked like a load of crap to me. Not saying there aren't people like that though.


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  • #42
    Walter Breeze
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 10 ✭Walter Breeze


    What is it that makes people feel jealousy, I mean, why would it be so terrible if your partner had sex with someone else? Millions of people have sex everyday with other people, why is it so bad the your partner has sex with someone else.


  • #43
    anncoates
    Closed Accounts Posts: 13,925 ✭✭✭✭anncoates


    I Heart Internet wrote: »
    It's anxirty. The woman seems to be suffering from very severe anxity and it manifests in an almost OCD type of compulsion to prove to herself that her man isn't cheating.

    It's good that she's getting treatment. Regardless of whether her man wants to stick around for her or not.

    While you're probably right, you could ascribe psychological factors to a lot of abusive behaviour.

    It doesn't mean it's acceptable or that the guy shouldn't skedaddle.


  • #44
    mathie
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,103 ✭✭✭mathie


    Walter Breeze wrote: »
    What is it that makes people feel jealousy, I mean, why would it be so terrible if your partner had sex with someone else? Millions of people have sex everyday with other people, why is it so bad the your partner has sex with someone else.

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  • #45
    az2wp0sye65487
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,931 ✭✭✭az2wp0sye65487


    How come they both have the same surname, but they're not married yet?..... Are they already related somehow??


  • #46
    mathie
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,103 ✭✭✭mathie


    Saylor Chubby Pinto wrote: »
    How come they both have the same surname, but they're not married yet?..... Are they already related somehow??

    I'd say their parents were.


  • #47
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 26,219 ✭✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    Saylor Chubby Pinto wrote: »
    How come they both have the same surname, but they're not married yet?..... Are they already related somehow??

    According to the article
    She has changed her surname to his in anticipation of marrying him


  • #48
    Maximus Alexander
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 13,080 ✭✭✭✭Maximus Alexander


    What's going on with all the Daily Fail links lately? The people in this story may not actually exist, that's before we get to the accuracy of the particulars.


  • #49
    ScumLord
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 28,787 ✭✭✭✭ScumLord


    Maximus Alexander wrote: »
    What's going on with all the Daily Fail links lately? The people in this story may not actually exist, that's before we get to the accuracy of the particulars.
    It's a conspiracy by the Roma Gypsies to give white people cancer so they can steal our jobs.


  • #50
    Shivers26
    Closed Accounts Posts: 639 ✭✭✭Shivers26


    He is obviously willing to put up with all of this though?

    Yes, I have had times where I was a jealous partner. Unfortunately, it was with good reason and my suspicions were founded.


  • #51
    BillyMitchel
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,324 ✭✭✭BillyMitchel


    Yeah I've had a really jealous one before, not to that extent but was still abnormal the way she carried on. Sad thing is I really loved this girl but she ruined it with her jealously. I'm a pretty flirty person so that probably didn't help anyway.

    Your man should run and run fast. This type of behaviour can rub off on you.


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  • #52
    PizzamanIRL
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,147 ✭✭✭PizzamanIRL


    That's some Jeremy Kyle stuff right there.


  • #53
    Slutmonkey57b
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2, Paid Member Posts: 5,673 ✭✭✭Slutmonkey57b


    I Heart Internet wrote: »
    http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2507072/Paranoid-woman-Debbi-Wood-suffering-Othello-Syndrome-forces-fianc-lie-detector-test.html

    This woman has an extreme condition where she is incredibly insecure and worried that her partner is being unfaithfully to her all the time.


    Would you put up with it?

    Have you ever been the jealous partner? Had you a reason to be jealous?

    Have you ever been in a relationship blighted by a jealous partner?

    I can understand people being insecure and anxious - it's often in our nature. But it's a really bad foundation for a relationship.

    Are you a radio call in dj?
    Are you pretending to be an Internet poster while researching a filler piece in ok magazine? Why are you polluting the Internet with links to the daily ducking mail?


  • #54
    Irish Guitarist
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,736 ✭✭✭Irish Guitarist


    Mr Wood, who started dating Miss Wood in 2011 after they met through a friend, is even banned from watching women on television or looking at pictures of them in magazines.
    That doesn't sound so bad. He can still enjoy the many quality programmes that don't have any female characters whatsoever, for instance Roadrunner and the Angelus.


  • #55
    Idbatterim
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 18,706 ✭✭✭✭Idbatterim


    I was wondering if she was that paranoid, why not follow him, after seeing that photo, its self explanatory!


  • #56
    Festy
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,425 ✭✭✭Festy


    Poor auld Steve, he can't even wack one out when watching the weakest link.


  • #57
    wandatowell
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,433 ✭✭✭wandatowell


    If i ever got "banned" from doing something that would be the exact same moment in time where I'd kick the OH out the front door.


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