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Ever had a good deed backfire?

  • 06-11-2013 12:37AM
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    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 12,450 ✭✭✭✭


    I was just reading through the good deeds thread and it got me thinking about the times when good deeds have backfired or gone horribly wrong on me.

    One time, only a few months ago, I was out walking my dog in the park and throwing a tennis ball for him. I was just about to go home when I spotted a kid about 12, on his own with his dog. He was watching me throw the ball back and forth and I noticed he didn't have anything to throw for his own dog.

    He looked kinda sad so I walked over and asked him if he wanted my tennis ball. I said he can keep it because I've got loads more at home. He looked freaked out and just said "No" and ran off with his dog.

    I was left standing there confused, still holding the tennis ball in my outstretched hand.

    It was at that moment I realised I looked like a paedophile.
    I mean, what sort of grown man goes around the park offering tennis balls to lonely kids and their dogs?!!

    Anyway, as the title says, have you ever had a good deed monumentally backfire?


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,952 ✭✭✭Lando Griffin


    Yes.
    Today I went to the vending machine promising myself a bag of crisps only and no sugary food as I want to cut doen on my sugar intake.
    When the bag of crisos were falling they got stuck at the bottom. To dislodge I decided to get a chocolate bar that was above it but alas it just landed on top.
    I then had to get a can of cola from the drinks section to try and shift the other pair and hey presto it worked.
    I felt obliged to eat and drink it there and then.
    My good deed by not eating sugar outdone by a dumb machine.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 2,192 ✭✭✭pharmaton


    Gave a friend a job after he had been out of work for a while, it was only supposed to be a temporary thing until he found something else so I split some of my shifts with him and ended up so out of pocket had to leave to find work elsewhere. I used to love that job too. I have a rule about helping people now and unless they specifically ask for it I don't get involved.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,259 ✭✭✭mutley18


    Yes.
    Today I went to the vending machine promising myself a bag of crisps only and no sugary food as I want to cut doen on my sugar intake.
    When the bag of crisos were falling they got stuck at the bottom. To dislodge I decided to get a chocolate bar that was above it but alas it just landed on top.
    I then had to get a can of cola from the drinks section to try and shift the other pair and hey presto it worked.
    I felt obliged to eat and drink it there and then.
    My good deed by not eating sugar outdone by a dumb machine.

    Refusing to eat sugar is hardly a good deed though? I don't do heroin, does that count as a good deed?


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,952 ✭✭✭Lando Griffin


    mutley18 wrote: »
    Refusing to eat sugar is hardly a good deed though? I don't do heroin, does that count as a good deed?

    Saving the health service problems in the future.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 4,512 ✭✭✭Muise...


    a dishevelled-looking fellow asked me for money. I told him I hadn't much to spare but as I was on my way in to a shop to get a few things, I'd buy him some food. I ended up at the till with a few things, waiting on the vegan who didn't have much English to read the ingredients of every tin and packet in the groceries aisle. Beggars are choosers after all.


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,855 ✭✭✭Nabber


    Bought a cup of soup for a homeless man. He told me he wanted money and not soup. Felt sorry for him and not angry.


  • Posts: 31,828 ✭✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    When I lived with my parents
    Got home early from the pub ine evening and found my teenage sister and her friends "experimenting" with the drinks cabinet.
    Rat arsed the lot of them, so I had to get them home, the earbashing I got from their parents was unbelievable (they assumed I got the girls langered!), but at least I got a few apologies the next day.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,330 ✭✭✭Brego888


    I remember a few years ago holding a door open for a guy coming behind me in a wheelchair. He gave me verbal lashing for "disrespecting" him. "I can manage my own doors without your help thanks" and other such comments cursing under his breath as he left.

    Cheeky bastard. I would have held the door open for anyone wheelchair bound or not.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,010 ✭✭✭ringadingding


    Yes.
    Today I went to the vending machine promising myself a bag of crisps only and no sugary food as I want to cut doen on my sugar intake.
    When the bag of crisos were falling they got stuck at the bottom. To dislodge I decided to get a chocolate bar that was above it but alas it just landed on top.
    I then had to get a can of cola from the drinks section to try and shift the other pair and hey presto it worked.
    I felt obliged to eat and drink it there and then.
    My good deed by not eating sugar outdone by a dumb machine.

    Ah, the good old vending machine roulette, lose a bag of crisps one day, get a free can of coke another day.

    I tip my hat to you sir, a true maverick at this game of winners and losers


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,885 ✭✭✭Stabshauptmann


    Lending people money and they dont pay it back.
    Trying to help a co-worker with advice and they take it as an attack.
    Trying to stop someone being bullied and end up being ostracized
    Trying to solve a rental problem for our group and being attacked and shafted.

    One that annoyed me - a girl on grafton st was shouting at a man to let go of her and leave her alone. In steps mise, "Are you ok". Que her telling me to F off and asking her BF to bash my head in. FFS.


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  • Posts: 31,828 ✭✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    Brego888 wrote: »
    I remember a few years ago holding a door open for a guy coming behind me in a wheelchair. He gave me verbal lashing for "disrespecting" him. "I can manage my own doors without your help thanks" and other such comments cursing under his breath as he left.

    Cheeky bastard. I would have held the door open for anyone wheelchair bound or not.
    No win situation, if you'd let it shut, you'd got even more abuse!


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 893 ✭✭✭danslevent


    My friend's dad is hilarious. Razor sharp wit coupled with the typical old Irish farmer attitude.

    Anyway, when she was about 17 they were the London tube together. A young enough lady got on, about 35, and my friend's dad kept egging my friend on to give her seat to the lady. To shut him up, my friend offered the woman her seat...who in turn gave her a look of disgust and said no. She was so insulted as being seeing as older and needing the seat instead of being able to stand


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,711 ✭✭✭stimpson


    When I lived with my parents
    Got home early from the pub ine evening and found my teenage sister and her friends "experimenting" with the drinks cabinet.
    Rat arsed the lot of them, so I had to get them home, the earbashing I got from their parents was unbelievable (they assumed I got the girls langered!), but at least I got a few apologies the next day.

    This story had so much potential.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,330 ✭✭✭Brego888


    No win situation, if you'd let it shut, you'd got even more abuse!

    Yeah I know. Was left there mortified as onlookers were giving me daggers clearly wondering what the dickhead at the door did to insult the poor innocent guy in the wheelchair!


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,145 ✭✭✭Katgurl


    Yes, I was out with a huge group of friends and friends-of-friends one night. The place emptied out early (school night) except for myself and one friend who were last to leave. As we walked out I noticed an iPhone on the ground. I put it in my bag and went home to bed. The next morning in work I left phone on my desk assuming someone would phone and help solve the puzzle. 'home' flashed up about a half hour later, it was the owner's mother. I answered, explained I had the phone, gave my direct work landline, my name, where i worked and all the rest for her to pass on to the owner.

    When my landline rang instead of the gushing thanks I was expecting, I got a very weird onslaught of questioning from a girl who I remembered from the night before saying things like "explain to me very carefully how my phone came to be in your possession". A few minutes later a guy phoned (friend of hers) and asked me a load of similar questions - all very aggressive. The phone rang again and it was my friend (vaguely knew the iPhone owner) saying she had received a call from the lunatic owner basically accusing me of stealing the phone.

    I have no idea what she thought - that I stole the phone, then bottled it and decided to return it.

    I was so baffled by the whole thing I didn't even have the cop at the time to tell her what an ungrateful c*^t she was.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 4,166 ✭✭✭Tasden


    I volunteer a couple times a week and I deal with alot of people experiencing financial difficulties or just general problems in life. Not alot of people realise the staff are a mix of paid and volunteers so they assume I'm paid to do what I do. One day there was a woman who admittedly was in a difficult situation but there was nothing our service could do to help so I referred her elsewhere. I have been experiencing similar problems to her own myself recently and said to her something like "I'm really sorry I couldn't do more to help, I understand its a difficult situation". She flipped saying things like what would you know, you're probably straight out of school and into a cushy job with no idea what responsibilities are etc. Funny thing was she was actually better off financially than I currently am and had a partner to share her "responsibility" whereas I'm bringing up my child with no support from a partner. But I volunteer my free time to help people in similar circumstances and she didn't appreciate it in the slightest.
    Some people are in dire situations and they show such appreciation for any help and they're the ones that make it worthwhile.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,330 ✭✭✭Brego888


    Ah Katgurls story reminds me off another good one. Not necessarily a backfire but you'll get the gist.

    My dad has often told the story of finding a handbag in a phone box in the mid 1980's. And in the bag there was around 3000 Irish pounds cash. A significant amount of money at that time and gods knows what the equivalent with inflation would be today. Probably €10,000 to €20,000 at a guess.

    Anyway he hands it in to the gardai leaving his address in case it was never claimed. A week later a note came on a scrape of paper in the post. "Thanks for finding my handbag" and included was a cheque for 6 pounds! Now my dad said he was never expecting a rewarding but to give him a 6 pound reward was just comical. Would have be better off sending nothing. Such a random number :)


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,885 ✭✭✭Stabshauptmann


    Tasden wrote: »
    I volunteer a couple times a week and I deal with alot of people experiencing financial difficulties or just general problems in life. Not alot of people realise the staff are a mix of paid and volunteers so they assume I'm paid to do what I do. One day there was a woman who admittedly was in a difficult situation but there was nothing our service could do to help so I referred her elsewhere. I have been experiencing similar problems to her own myself recently and said to her something like "I'm really sorry I couldn't do more to help, I understand its a difficult situation". She flipped saying things like what would you know, you're probably straight out of school and into a cushy job with no idea what responsibilities are etc. Funny thing was she was actually better off financially than I currently am and had a partner to share her "responsibility" whereas I'm bringing up my child with no support from a partner. But I volunteer my free time to help people in similar circumstances and she didn't appreciate it in the slightest.
    Some people are in dire situations and they show such appreciation for any help and they're the ones that make it worthwhile.
    The world would be a brighter place with more people like you. Sorry to hear about that particular incident - its some peoples stress release valve to take it out on others.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 417 ✭✭Cycling Dumbasses


    El Guapo! wrote: »
    I was just reading through the good deeds thread and it got me thinking about the times when good deeds have backfired or gone horribly wrong on me.

    One time, only a few months ago, I was out walking my dog in the park and throwing a tennis ball for him. I was just about to go home when I spotted a kid about 12, on his own with his dog. He was watching me throw the ball back and forth and I noticed he didn't have anything to throw for his own dog.

    He looked kinda sad so I walked over and asked him if he wanted my tennis ball. I said he can keep it because I've got loads more at home. He looked freaked out and just said "No" and ran off with his dog.

    I was left standing there confused, still holding the tennis ball in my outstretched hand.

    It was at that moment I realised I looked like a paedophile.
    I mean, what sort of grown man goes around the park offering tennis balls to lonely kids and their dogs?!!

    Anyway, as the title says, have you ever had a good deed monumentally backfire?
    No offence OP but he prob thought you were a jimmy savile, i presume his parents have warned him of this situation.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 1,072 ✭✭✭Dan Chipowski


    Saw a fella in a wheelchair berate a woman in a supermarket once. She made the mistake of asking if he needed help acquiring anything from the top shelves.

    Horrible little sh!t. Poor woman was mortified.


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,330 ✭✭✭Brego888


    It's a sad state of affairs when a man can't make even the smallest of kind gestures to a child without being thought of as a paedophile.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 417 ✭✭Cycling Dumbasses


    Brego888 wrote: »
    It's a sad state of affairs when a man can't make even the smallest of kind gestures to a child without being thought of as a paedophile.
    Thats health and safety for you, always do you risk assessment.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,330 ✭✭✭Brego888


    Thats health and safety for you, always do you risk assessment.

    Health and safety be damned. It's a sad indictment of our society that any man interacting with kids could possibly be tarred as a paedophile


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 5,628 ✭✭✭Femme_Fatale


    Brego888 wrote: »
    Health and safety be damned. It's a sad indictment of our society that any man interacting with kids could possibly be tarred as a paedophile
    http://www.belfasttelegraph.co.uk/news/local-national/uk/bijan-ebrahimi-disabled-iranian-who-stood-up-to-vandals-smeared-as-a-paedophile-beaten-up-and-burnt-to-death-29706760.html


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 417 ✭✭Cycling Dumbasses


    Brego888 wrote: »
    Health and safety be damned. It's a sad indictment of our society that any man interacting with kids could possibly be tarred as a paedophile
    You have to live in the real world now not imagination land.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 953 ✭✭✭donegal__road


    I was in a pub in Toronto and there was a group of us sitting at a table, 6 people or so. I was late joining the crowd by a couple of hours so decided to do the decent thing and buy a round, and I paid cash at the bar for the round. After guzzling my first pint I asked again, did anyone want a drink.. a couple of them said yes and I duely went back up to the bar and bought a few more pints, paid over the counter for the round, and went back to the table and drank the pint.

    Seeing as there was no one offering to buy back, I decided to stay on my own and buy at the bar for myself... but at the end of the night, a bill was presented to the table for all the drinks that had been ordered for the 2 hours that preceded me being there.. and when I tried to explain that I had been paying at the bar, no one seemed to understand. I didn't pitch in for the bill, as I had already spent $100 on beer only having had 4 pints myself.... I left the pub looking like a free-loader.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 340 ✭✭The_Mask


    Saw a fella in a wheelchair berate a woman in a supermarket once. She made the mistake of asking if he needed help acquiring anything from the top shelves.

    Horrible little sh!t. Poor woman was mortified.

    Would have been a funnier story if he was a dwarf.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,330 ✭✭✭Brego888


    You have to live in the real world now not imagination land.


    Nice. I do live in the real world. Unfortunately the real world means I'm less likely in the future to do much of the volunteer work I've previously done with underage football teams and other youth groups that I enjoyed.


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 2,192 ✭✭✭pharmaton


    Brego888 wrote: »
    Nice. I do live in the real world. Unfortunately the real world means I'm less likely in the future to do much of the volunteer work I've previously done with underage football teams and other youth groups that I enjoyed.
    as long as you have Garda clearance this shouldn't be an issue, it's a requirement for everybody working with kids. (paid or voluntary)


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