Is sex passionate and meaningful anymore?

Itwasntme. wrote: »

Tis the season to be jolly, trolalalala...lalalala.

we should so hook up....







































.....some Christmas lights this year! pew pew pew!!!

Savoir.Faire wrote: »

If you meet someone who you find physically attractive and if there exists that mysterious chemistry between the pair of you, then a good long porking session is still as enjoyable as ever. The passionate embrace of lovers entwined in each other, the ecstasy of la petite mort, sharing a cigarette post coitus, watching her naked form walk across the room to the bathroom, silently congratulating oneself on another top-class tupping.

I was getting turned on there until you mentioned the smoking part.

Ihatecuddles wrote: »

Im not ugly and I'd say half the people I've had sex with Ive met online.

I'd say 99% of the people I've had sex with I met online. The other 1% was someone from work, which was terrible and created a lot of awkwardness afterwards. Damn those Xmas parties. :mad: :pac:

I think it's weird meeting people online and having sex with them.

Lollipops23 wrote: »

Weirder than meeting someone at a bar or at a party?

Personally I think it's weird going off riding anyone you don't know. Wouldn't be into that carry on at all now, tbh. But hey, each to their own.

Czarcasm wrote: »

Well that's an easy question to answer tbh:

Because that's how human beings have socially interacted for millenia - face to face initial interaction, as opposed to online dating and NSA encounter sites where it's that much harder to judge a person because of the "distance".

At least in close personal proximity to the person you can have a better idea of whether you are truly attracted to them sexually, or not.

Nobody has ever been able to determine from a person's online persona that the person could have severe hygiene issues, ,or falls well short of their 6ft4in Herculean physique that they embellished in their profile until they've met them in person of course

Point being really that despite the rising popularity of "Online Dating" in society nowadays, it's still a shìte way to judge potential sexual suitors!

There's worse things one could exaggerate about themselves.

strobe wrote: »

But surely it's just a way to ultimately arrange the actual face to face meetings where you can do the measuring taping, personal hygeine appraisal and judgement of sexual suitor potential.

I mean people do actually meet up and go on dates and things after making initial contact through the dating sites.They don't replace close personal proximity, they just help facilitate it.

That's the whole point of the thing from what I can see.

Least that's what I've always figured. Never tried online dating myself.

Ahh no certainly it can have it's advantages and disadvantages, but often times you'll meet people who seem to have become so completely immersed in the idea as if it's the greatest thing to happen to social interaction since some bright spark discovered the joys of alcohol

As for actually facilitating physical social interaction, well, that's debatable in all fairness. Consider if you will for a minute the person who spends hours flicking through profiles, makes the initial approach, lets assume their approach is reciprocated. From that moment they're building an expectation of the person in their heads from having read all the positives on their profile, then it gets as far as the first initial meeting, everything physically matches up, all good so far...

Five minutes after they meet up, one or the other realises the chemistry they had in the virtual world just doesn't translate into the physical world...

And all that time spent wooing and waiting and expecting just leaves them deflated, when they could've spent it interacting with people in closer proximity to them where expectations are more realistic and results are more instant.

I'm sure too strobe you'll at least have met people for whom the whole online dating has and hasn't worked out, and I could say with some certainty that for the majority of members on these sites, it hasn't worked out, as opposed to the minority for whom it has.

The whole reason many people consider it weird is because online interaction is a lot more built on a false premise than physical interaction. It's a lot more based on trusting the other person without ever having met them, than the instant gut feeling you get about somebody based on physically meeting them without knowing anything about them first, you don't have the same false or even hopeful expectations built up already.

What's the "these days" ,"anymore" stuff about? Casual sex has always existed.

Going by their use of the term "tart", I think when pundy expresses disgust at "people" having casual sex, they mean "women".

Obviously sex can be passionate and meaningful, like it always could be - strange title.

Czarcasm wrote: »

but often times you'll meet people who seem to have become so completely immersed in the idea as if it's the greatest thing to happen to social interaction since some bright spark discovered the joys of alcohol

And all that time spent wooing and waiting and expecting just leaves them deflated.

And how do you know they feel this way? I'm sure some people have felt the same way after a night out. From my own experience, people don't really take it too seriously and don't have high expectations of it. It's just another avenue to meet people. I've gone on a few dates that went better than I expected, and a couple that were not great; no spark or whatever, but you'll get good, bad and meh encounters with people regardless of how you're meeting them.

Daveysil15 wrote: »

And how do you know they feel this way? I'm sure some people have felt the same way after a night out. From my own experience, people don't really take it too seriously and don't have high expectations of it. It's just another avenue to meet people. I've gone on a few dates that went better than I expected, and a couple that were not great; no spark or whatever, but you'll get good, bad and meh encounters with people regardless of how you're meeting them.

Key phrase there Davey, and that's all any of us have to go on really is our own experience and the experiences shared by other people with us. That's how I know that there are many who are left deflated by their experience of online dating, because if it was as successful as those whom it's been successful for, well, we'd all be at it and it'd be far more popular than it is now, and that's coming from someone who has been part of the online dating scene since the early 90's when myself and a couple of my mates set up an online chatroom that we developed into a dating site, that shall we say catered for a niche but expanding market.

Off the top of my head I can think of three marriages that I was invited to, and there have been countless successful couples over the last 15 years, but it'd be silly to ignore the hundreds of single people on the site for whom online dating hasn't worked out.

Being a member of a dating site has a way of focussing that stark reality in a way that doesn't happen in the physical world. When you go to the club you're not thinking about Joan Soap over there, the cute looking Virgo who describes herself as bubbly and outgoing and just wants to meet a guy with GSOH, you don't know anything about her, other than the fact you find her physically attractive.

You can't make those sort of judgement calls from a photo and a brief description, it's like having a person's CV in front of you that takes all the mystery out of the equation, and replaces it with expectation. That's why as disillusioned as you might become with the pubs 'n' clubs scene, the online dating scene can be even more detrimental in fostering disillusionment.

Stheno wrote: »

I met my OH here on boards, and five years later we have a great relationship and a good sex life

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Is that weird?

TBF Stheno I think we could all cite individual examples and anecdotes, but it's far better to acknowledge that for some people, online dating and the idea of meeting people that you converse with online is still a concept that sits uncomfortably with some people who much rather interactions offline and closer to home.