Overly Picky.

PizzamanIRL · 28-09-2013 09:50AM

Bungarra wrote: »

I have a rating system

There's your problem.

MonstaMash · 28-09-2013 09:54AM

OP, you're not over picky...you're just a wanker :eek:

Czarcasm · 28-09-2013 10:30AM

Don't mind anyone else Bungarra, I certainly get where you're coming from. When you start hitting puberty you'll grow out of that whole ratings nonsense and you'll begin to see how silly it all was back then. You may even be embarrassed about it, but don't be, we all did childish things when we were children.

bumper234 · 28-09-2013 10:34AM

I think op is alone because he doesn't realise that women are using the EXACT rating system as him and he is a 2/10.

Legs.Eleven · 28-09-2013 10:39AM

desertcircus wrote: »

OP: has it occurred to you that the reason you're single is because drop-dead gorgeous Argentinian/Vietnamese/Namibian women who love bad jokes have more or less the entire male population to pick from? If you're not scoring 80%+ on what women are interested in, then there's not much point in presuming you're entitled to expect any woman you date should be scoring 80%+ on your scale.

Excellent point.

Legs.Eleven · 28-09-2013 10:42AM

Whenever I hear about fellas using a number system to rate humans, the first thing that enters my head is "Rain Man". The thought doesn't exactly get me hot and bothered so I can't imagine what a woman who would rate "10" on your scale who has the choice of most men would think.

Zombienosh · 28-09-2013 10:43AM

The Backwards Man wrote: »

I'm sure some people don't like me, I'm sure some despise me, doesn't bother me a bit. But people who rate people like they would grade vegetables make my blood boil.

OMG....

People grade vegetables?

biko · 28-09-2013 10:45AM

Overly picky? Indeed!
Particularly when you make :eek: at people "settling". You don't even know the first thing about them.
How about you just leave other people alone and focus on your own happiness?

maryk123 · 28-09-2013 10:50AM

What age are you as a matter of interest and what would you score yourself. I have many friends now that are moving on in age and would kill for a partner to share life with. They have no, kids friends have moved on and they are not truly happy. I don't think anyone here would say they hit 10/10 with their partner in any category but have fantastic partners and are not alone. Sometimes 10/10 isn't for you and maybe you need 5/10 in your categories as you can't reach the 10.

Rocket19 · 28-09-2013 11:11AM

Lol. So you want a gorgeous looking girl, who laughs at your jokes, and doesn't need to be intelligent/ambitious?
Get a blow up doll? :P

Also, I hope the OP is Brad Pitt (in his younger years...yum) or some kind of variant, because otherwise the rating 'system' is a utterly laughable.

eeeee · 28-09-2013 11:13AM

MonstaMash wrote: »

OP, you're not over picky...you're just a wanker :eek:

^^^^ This.
Your 'system' is the biggest load of ****e i have ever come across.
Stick with it though, at least you won't be inflicting yourself on anyone else!

biko · 28-09-2013 11:14AM

Bungarra wrote: »

I think I'd rather be permanently alone than settle with someone I'm not attracted to/bores me.

This is true imo, if you don't find someone who is right for you then waiting would be better than being with someone "just because".
There's someone out there for everyone.

Wibbs · 28-09-2013 11:38AM

The Backwards Man wrote: »

What's with this rating people craic, it's fcuking disgusting imo. If you like someone you like them, if you don't you don't. End of.

Well to be fair we all "rate" people, he's just stuck a scale on it and got anal about the whole thing(far more common among men). Like/dislike is based on an internal rating system and there are definable reasons why they tick one box or other for you. On the pair bonding front the majority of people tend to end up with about the same level of attractiveness as they present themselves, so an "8" will tend to be with another "8" and a "5" with a "5".

For all the whining from men about women having more power in this choice, men actually have more leeway. Men can earn attractiveness by social advancement, whether that be through the arts or business or even war in some cultures and times. So if a bloke who is pretty much a "5" ends up in a famous(even locally) rock band he can move up the scale. Wealth and notoriety add bonus points too(complete feckin loons on death row usually have full mailbags from female admirers). Men also have a wider reproductive window age wise too. At least ten years extra.

So lads quit your bellyaching. If you can't get a woman, the problem is you, not them.

Legs.Eleven · 28-09-2013 11:52AM

Wibbs wrote: »

Well to be fair we all "rate" people, he's just stuck a scale on it and got anal about the whole thing(far more common among men). Like/dislike is based on an internal rating system and there are definable reasons why they tick one box or other for you. On the pair bonding front the majority of people tend to end up with about the same level of attractiveness as they present themselves, so an "8" will tend to be with another "8" and a "5" with a "5".

For all the whining from men about women having more power in this choice, men actually have more leeway. Men can earn attractiveness by social advancement, whether that be through the arts or business or even war in some cultures and times. So if a bloke who is pretty much a "5" ends up in a famous(even locally) rock band he can move up the scale. Wealth and notoriety add bonus points too(complete feckin loons on death row usually have full mailbags from female admirers). Men also have a wider reproductive window age wise too. At least ten years extra.

So lads quit your bellyaching. If you can't get a woman, the problem is you, not them.

Women have make up, short skirts, low cut tops and heels. Incredible how one or a combination of these things can make on a night out.

Bungarra · 28-09-2013 11:59AM

Wow... Massive amount of negativity towards me today... Luckily I half expected it so I'm not too upset. I thought I'd find a few more like minded (normal) people though. After hours do get angry pretty easily don't they!

People are getting hung up on the rating thing... I never actually rate them in my head. It's just to illustrate my point and preferences. I don't think anything I've said is way off the mark... Everybody has different preferences.

Helen and Anne are not equal though like people seem to be suggesting. Helen is hot, easy to talk to, and a Canadian Inuit so we have funny conversations about our different cultures. Anne is a neighbour I grew up with who is semi-attractive, the conversation is boring and she doesn't get on with my friends. Those women are not equal! But yet some people would settle for Anne, I just want Helen!

I'm in the 25-30 age bracket for those of you insinuating I'm some kind of child. I've a decent job and am not the "wanker" people want to paint me as. Everybody has preferences in women, some people just settle because they're scared to be alone/are needy. I'm not saying I'm Brad Pitt like someone suggested. Nor the best conversationalist. Nor am I lots of other things. There's millions of quality women out there who'd suit me better than some of the women I've happened across over the past few years. Probably a few times I've found one with potential who's shot me down. Fine. I'm happier single than with someone I'm not suited. Lots of people I know aren't.

Also... I'm not hated in real life as I seem to be here so I'm going to bring this up in conversation tonight, I don't think it'll go down as lead balloonishly as it did here though because the people I'll be speaking to are unlikley to be as uptight and angry.

Geomy · 28-09-2013 11:59AM

Bungarra wrote: »

I've come to the conclusion over the past 3 years that I'm overly picky with women and will probably end up alone until I get old(er) and desperate.

I have a rating system for attraction that goes something like this:
PLUS 1-10 for physical appearance
PLUS 1-5 bonus points for nationality (the more culturally different the better)
PLUS 1-10 for sense of humor (laughing at my crap jokes)
MINUS 1-10 points for immature/stupid people

I've found a 20+ once probably and i had her for a while then lost her to circumstance but I think I still plan on getting her back at some stage. Where i am right for the past couple of years doesn't really lend itself to high point scorers.

The amount of people I see settling for 5-10 pointers is probably 80+%. :eek: I think I'd rather be permanently alone than settle with someone I'm not attracted to/bores me.

Discuss my (or your own similar) issues here please.

Why don't you put up your photo and credentials here, and we'll all give you a vote :-D

Wibbs · 28-09-2013 12:00PM

Oh sure the ladies are masters of disguise on that front

and that stuff does tweak a "rating" and certainly widens the reproductive age thing a few years, but nothing like social power in a bloke. If there was ever an argument that female physical attractiveness wasn't that important the fashion industry blows that clean out of the water. Now men do buy into fashion, but not nearly to the same degree(and social status is a lot of it), nor to the same degree of discomfort and impracticality often attached to hair, high heels, tight clothing etc.

Femme_Fatale · 28-09-2013 12:05PM

Bungarra wrote: »

I thought I'd find a few more like minded (normal) people though.

Your take outlined in your opening post is definitely not normal - soz.

If you encounter a woman you like, then try making a go of it. End of. No need to be over-thinking things and trying to work out what box she fits into. She's a person, not a doll/element of a mathematical formula ("I had a 20 and I'm working on getting her back" - lol; really does seem like one of them life-like dolls).

Of course we all have preferences, nobody's disputing that - but we certainly don't all use a weird formula like you do in your opening post.

Bungarra · 28-09-2013 12:05PM

Wibbs wrote: »

Well to be fair we all "rate" people, he's just stuck a scale on it and got anal about the whole thing(far more common among men). Like/dislike is based on an internal rating system and there are definable reasons why they tick one box or other for you. On the pair bonding front the majority of people tend to end up with about the same level of attractiveness as they present themselves, so an "8" will tend to be with another "8" and a "5" with a "5".

For all the whining from men about women having more power in this choice, men actually have more leeway. Men can earn attractiveness by social advancement, whether that be through the arts or business or even war in some cultures and times. So if a bloke who is pretty much a "5" ends up in a famous(even locally) rock band he can move up the scale. Wealth and notoriety add bonus points too(complete feckin loons on death row usually have full mailbags from female admirers). Men also have a wider reproductive window age wise too. At least ten years extra.

So lads quit your bellyaching. If you can't get a woman, the problem is you, not them.

I think for future correspondence on this subject the angry people should just speak to the good Mr. Wibbs here, he explains it in a less offensive way than I can.

Wibbs · 28-09-2013 12:08PM

Bungarra wrote: »

Helen and Anne are not equal though like people seem to be suggesting. Helen is hot, easy to talk to, and a Canadian Inuit so we have funny conversations about our different cultures. Anne is a neighbour I grew up with who is semi-attractive, the conversation is boring and she doesn't get on with my friends. Those women are not equal! But yet some people would settle for Anne, I just want Helen!

Seems perfectly fine to me. Why would anyone go out with an "Anne" as you describe her?

Also... I'm not hated in real life as I seem to be here so I'm going to bring this up in conversation tonight, I don't think it'll go down as lead balloonishly as it did here though because the people I'll be speaking to are unlikley to be as uptight and angry.

It was the opening rating stuff that will set cats among pigeons. Understandable, though the fact is we all rate people, especially potential romantic partners, it's just we don't like to see it written down as a balance sheet sorta thing.

I did say earlier that this is more likely to be a man thing. Thinking more on it a fair few women I've known did similar. They didn't use 1-10 scales, but definitely had set criteria and were happy to express them and some were just as daft as blokes who fed into the 1-10 scale. With some after hearing of their criteria for a suitable man it was all I could do to not hand them a few cats, because that was their future if they were that bloody picky.

mikom · 28-09-2013 12:09PM

Bungarra wrote: »

Helen and Anne are not equal though like people seem to be suggesting. Helen is hot, easy to talk to, and a Canadian Inuit so we have funny conversations about our different cultures. Anne is a neighbour I grew up with who is semi-attractive, the conversation is boring and she doesn't get on with my friends. Those women are not equal! But yet some people would settle for Anne, I just want Helen!

Helen doesn't want you............ and neither did Anne, it seems.
Have you tried fucking lizards?

Legs.Eleven · 28-09-2013 12:10PM

Wibbs wrote: »

Oh sure the ladies are masters of disguise on that front and that stuff does tweak a "rating" and certainly widens the reproductive age thing a few years, but nothing like social power in a bloke. If there was ever an argument that female physical attractiveness wasn't that important the fashion industry blows that clean out of the water. Now men do buy into fashion, but not nearly to the same degree(and social status is a lot of it), nor to the same degree of discomfort and impracticality often attached to hair, high heels, tight clothing etc.

It's a little bit easier for women to doll themselves up than a man to get social status though, no? Attractiveness is easier to fake although granted, a man could lie.

Bungarra · 28-09-2013 12:12PM

Femme_Fatale wrote: »

Your take outlined in your opening post is definitely not normal - soz.

If you encounter a woman you like, then try making a go of it. End of. No need to be over-thinking things and trying to work out what box she fits into. She's a person, not a doll/element of a mathematical formula ("I had a 20 and I'm working on getting her back" - lol; really does seem like one of them life-like dolls).

Of course we all have preferences, nobody's disputing that - but we certainly don't all use a weird formula like you do in your opening post.

Lol... She was a 20 for me... I know also that for a few of my friends she's a 5...

Ps.. I didn't come here for relationship advice. People stop treating me like I'm on a therapists chair. I'm perfectly fine in my judgemental loneliness.

Femme_Fatale · 28-09-2013 12:14PM

"I and my friends refer to women as mathematical equations and the bitches aren't interested in us - how can that be?! :mad:"

Legs.Eleven · 28-09-2013 12:15PM

The fact of the matter is, people have all these criteria for a woman or man but I think we've all met people who've blown those criteria completely out of the water and my criteria has changed over the years depending on the success or failure of those dates/relationships.

mikom · 28-09-2013 12:17PM

Music in the OPs head when eyeing up the ladies...........

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EgKczdKdnKM

♫
Plastic tubes and pots and pans
Bits and pieces and Magic from the hand
We're makin weird science

Bungarra · 28-09-2013 12:19PM

mikom wrote: »

Helen doesn't want you............ and neither did Anne, it seems.
Have you tried fucking lizards?

I didn't think this would need explaining but I'll give you a hand...
Helen and Anne were a figment of my imagination, solely for ilustrative purposes of course...

And no, I haven't tried ****ing a lizard, just women so far, is it worth a try? I think I'd be uncomfortable with the whole use of force aspect of it I think...

Legs.Eleven · 28-09-2013 12:20PM

Bungarra wrote: »

Lol... She was a 20 for me... I know also that for a few of my friends she's a 5...

Ps.. I didn't come here for relationship advice. People stop treating me like I'm on a therapists chair. I'm perfectly fine in my judgemental loneliness.

Well in fairness, you did ask people to comment on your system and your "issues"....

mikom · 28-09-2013 12:20PM

Bungarra wrote: »

I didn't think this would need explaining but I'll give you a hand...

Give ME a hand............ Makes a change........

Bungarra · 28-09-2013 12:24PM

Femme_Fatale wrote: »

"I and my friends refer to women as mathematical equations and the bitches aren't interested in us - how can that be?! :mad:"

Oh me ol' mate Femme... I explained already the numbers were just for illustrative purposes. Dogs with bones...

Overly Picky.

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