men who don't like sex.

smash · 12-09-2013 05:55PM

They got 99 problems but a bitch ain't one!

Sometimes it's a problem worth having though...

seamus · 12-09-2013 05:55PM

Some men relish the chase, the work you put in laying groundwork chatting to a woman, playing games, before eventually getting them into bed. I suppose there's some kind of personal competitive element to it, they feel victorious, or something.

Most men that I know, fncking hate the chase. It's 3 or 4 hours of headwrecking does-she-doesn't-she, playing mind games, and being compltely and utterly terrified from the pit of your stomach, until at the end of it you're both so pissed you end up with a messy fumble of some of the least stimulating sex you've ever had. You don't feel victorious, you just feel like you've completely wasted your time, and you would have had more fun if you'd gone home and had a ****.

I would bet a fairly large sum of money that most of the men who claim to prefer a **** to sex are single. It's very hard to get a good shag from a one night stand. Occasionally I'm sure some people manage to get the chemistry right and a great time is had by all, but I imagine most of the time both people come away feeling slightly satisfied but also a bit peeved that they wasted so much time.

longhalloween · 12-09-2013 05:55PM

Legs.Eleven wrote: »

Well I've had a yeast infection since 2005. Do you reckon that could be it?

Probably not. Some men like their women a bit frothy.

Muise... · 12-09-2013 05:56PM

lukesmom wrote: »

I've never come across a man like this or even heard of one until your post. Maybe they don't like sex with women??

I came across a man like this. I don't care if he liked it or not.

lukesmom · 12-09-2013 05:57PM

I reckon most men like the chase and when they do end up sleeping with their target they move on.

Menas · 12-09-2013 06:01PM

Legs.Eleven wrote: »

Well I've had a yeast infection since 2005. Do you reckon that could be it?

Sex and taste of beer in one sitting.....Score.

Karl Stein · 12-09-2013 06:02PM

Timmyctc wrote: »

its just not all black and white.

Why do you always bring race into it?

Legs.Eleven · 12-09-2013 06:03PM

Czarcasm wrote: »

I'm wondering how that comment would've come out tbh. I'm almost afraid to ask did you ask them afterwards what they thought of sex or what way it went...

I'm thinking they pulled a "Tony Curtis" on you tbh Legs

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=beAO7zrZL3A

Jaysus Czarcasm, I was messing! I think I'd end it all now if it were true...

Serious answer: I haven't met a man who hated sex and would rather ****. The men who were into it the most were usually very good at it.

Menas · 12-09-2013 06:03PM

lukesmom wrote: »

I reckon most men like the chase and when they do end up sleeping with their target they move on.

Or move in.

Czarcasm · 12-09-2013 06:03PM

lukesmom wrote: »

I've never come across a man like this or even heard of one until your post. Maybe they don't like sex with women??

Muise... wrote: »

I came across a man like this. I don't care if he liked it or not.

I hope you cleaned up after yourselves!

Legs.Eleven · 12-09-2013 06:03PM

Trigger Happy wrote: »

Sex and taste of beer in one sitting.....Score.

More like old cheese, Trigger...

Menas · 12-09-2013 06:05PM

Legs.Eleven wrote: »

More like old cheese, Trigger...

Monster munch...in more ways than one.

12-09-2013 06:06PM

carzony wrote: »

How rare do you think this is? I was talkin to a couple of college mates today and a few actually said they would rather masturbate than have sex. Fair enough a few of them havnt had that much experience but still :eek:

clearly they havent met me yet;);)......

Czarcasm · 12-09-2013 06:11PM

bubblypop wrote: »

clearly they havent met me yet;);)......

You'd best start clearing out your PM Inbox about now...

smash · 12-09-2013 06:13PM

Czarcasm wrote: »

You'd best start clearing out your PM Inbox about now...

Why? Can you not get through to her?

Wibbs · 12-09-2013 06:21PM

lukesmom wrote: »

I reckon most men like the chase and when they do end up sleeping with their target they move on.

Nope. As seamus said and I'd agree, most men don't. It's a royal pain in the arse. For me if it's someone I'm starting to like the chase gets old quick and TBH if there's too much "chase" I'm outa there. Life is too short. If you're after a "quickie" there's only so much chasing you'll do before thinking "Next!". Sex versus Self actualised "release"? Comes down to a few factors. One night stand awkward fumble? Knocking a quick one off is quicker, costs less and you're gonna do it better. Loving relationship? Different story, but even there sometimes a bit of onanism is warranted.

As for men who don't like sex? I've known a couple in my life. Asexuality while not that common is common enough. Men who go off sex? Defo. Has happened to me. After one bad breakup, arsed I couldn't have been for months. I was decidedly "meh" about the whole thing TBH. Actually turned it down too.

There's an awful lot of ballsology surrounding sex and the genders. It's accepted that women can go off sex, yet men are supposed to be constantly in a state of priapic sprouting, ever ready to pounce. No pressure like. Men, especially young men, seem to have a collective need to back this idea up, but it's nowhere near the real story. It's akin to the old and stupid idea that women weren't that pushed about sex and often suffered it for the sake of their men. Arse. Fact is there are times when I'm hornier than a billy goat rendering plant and other times I'd rather watch the telly. I doubt I'd be alone in this. Unless you're 14, with three newly emergent chin hairs, in which you're a spotty life support system for your nethers.

12-09-2013 06:31PM

Different people are different. None of my friends like "the chase" but I would guess a few acquaintances do. None of my friends would prefer a **** but over time and as age increases the desire to spend 100 quid on a night out with a 10-15% chance of pulling followed by likely mediocre sex loses its lustre.

If someone is in a relationship and would rather sit downstairs and jack it to some porn then there's something wrong.

Menas · 12-09-2013 06:33PM

Deleted User wrote: »

Different people are different. None of my friends like "the chase" but I would guess a few acquaintances do. None of my friends would prefer a **** but over time and as age increases the desire to spend 100 quid on a night out with a 10-15% chance of pulling followed by likely mediocre sex loses its lustre.

If someone is in a relationship and would rather sit downstairs and jack it to some porn then there's something wrong.

10 to 15%!!

12-09-2013 06:39PM

Trigger Happy wrote: »

10 to 15%!!

Overall, yeah, we're not a handsome bunch. :pac: It's more that pulling wouldn't be the entire point of heading out every time.

smash · 12-09-2013 06:45PM

[Deleted User] wrote: »

Overall, yeah, we're not a handsome bunch. :pac: It's more that pulling wouldn't be the entire point of heading out every time.

So you don't look for sex, but when you get it you'd rather ****... Jesus man!

Joe prim · 12-09-2013 06:49PM

Check out these guys;

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Motto; Just don't do it !

( 99 posts ! I'll save the next one for something really exciting)

SCOOP 64 · 12-09-2013 06:54PM

Joe prim wrote: »

Check out these guys;

asexuality.org

Motto; Just don't do it !

( 99 posts ! I'll save the next one for something really exciting)

Say that again?

WilyCoyote · 12-09-2013 06:57PM

Timmyctc wrote: »

I know people who are fairly indifferent re: sex even though they have OHs.

Mental health has a bearing on it too though sometimes its just not all black and white.

All we need now is a few Travellers tossed into the mix before getting locked :P

12-09-2013 07:02PM

smash wrote: »

So you don't look for sex, but when you get it you'd rather ****... Jesus man!

Where did you get that from?

conorhal · 12-09-2013 07:11PM

Wibbs wrote: »

There's an awful lot of ballsology surrounding sex and the genders. It's accepted that women can go off sex, yet men are supposed to be constantly in a state of priapic sprouting, ever ready to pounce. No pressure like. Men, especially young men, seem to have a collective need to back this idea up, but it's nowhere near the real story. It's akin to the old and stupid idea that women weren't that pushed about sex and often suffered it for the sake of their men. Arse. Fact is there are times when I'm hornier than a billy goat rendering plant and other times I'd rather watch the telly. I doubt I'd be alone in this. Unless you're 14, with three newly emergent chin hairs, in which you're a spotty life support system for your nethers.

Yeah, well said Wibbs. Though I'm surprised most people haven't come across (if you'll pardon the pun) a 'Sheldon' or two in their lives, curiously asexual people that seem to have little or no interest in sex or relationships.

Then of course there are the many biological and psychological factors that contribute. Hormonal levels being one, women often have a decreeced libido after going through the menopause, and some men have very low testestrone levels.
Psychology plays it's part too.
A major sidefect of depression is often the loss of libido, and how many people are there in this country that suffer badly from depression?
Then there are those for whom lifes experiences had tarnished sex for them, for example, the woman that was once the 'sex kitten poster girl' of an entire generation, Marriane Faithful wrote reciently that she had never enjoyed sex. She hated sex and men in general as a result of the experiences of her family, her grandmothers brutal rape and the abusive relationship of her parents. It was decades before she ever came to enjoy a sexual relationship.
Who'd have ever guessed the 'mars bar girl' that hung on the arm of so many famous actors and rock stars managed to swing her way throughout the entire swinging 60's without ever having an orgasam? That sad fact, like you said, really underlines the difference between the perception and reality of human sexuality

lukesmom · 12-09-2013 07:13PM

Morrissey is Asexual. I don't buy the whole garbage that men think of sex every 40 seconds either. Such a cliche

lukesmom · 12-09-2013 09:44PM

I love Morrissey.

Femme_Fatale · 12-09-2013 09:46PM

lukesmom wrote: »

I love Morrissey.

I fancied him so, so fecking bad when I was a young 'un. Posters all over my room.

Karl Stein · 12-09-2013 09:47PM

Timmyctc wrote: »

black and white.

WilyCoyote wrote: »

a few Travellers

Sure I'll throw in a few Muslims and Roma Gypsies so the thread can descend into absolute chaos. :pac:

lukesmom · 12-09-2013 09:47PM

Femme_Fatale wrote: »

I fancied him so, so fecking bad when I was a young 'un. Posters all over my room.

I think he's even got better with age.

men who don't like sex.

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