Is there any reason a bride shouldn't wear white?

hoodwinked wrote: »

your wedding you can wear what you want,

but i know my mum on her second marriage wore silver, she didn't feel white was appropriate,

when i got married i wore ivory, (but that is because i have a pale irish complexion and i don't do fake tan, white would have drowned me out)

so go with what suits you and to hell with what she thinks!

Thanks for the reply and the kind suggestions. Ivory does sound a lot more flattering than bright "wedding" white.

I'm not Irish and although I've lived here a about on and off for 12 years weddings haven't really been something that's been too the fore of my mind even though I've been engaged a while. I just wanted to make absolutely sure that there wasn't a tradition or a legitimate reason that I was unfamiliar with that meant it was bad form for me to wear white.

If it makes any difference to the context, its not a second wedding, this will be my first marriage.

I mean I kind of assumed it was a bout of nastiness, but it was just so uncharacteristic and out of the blue it kind of made me question whether there was something else behind it. . I'm starting to think maybe she really wanted to tell I was too fat to wear white and she just added the age thing into to make it sound less like a dig about my weight, as her own daughter who is 6 years older than me and walked down the aisle in white last year.

Thanks for all the replies and reassurances and setting me right on this! (Sometimes you just need to hear someone else saying it to really get it.)

Unfortunately I'm not able to either disassociate from the lady in question or not invite her as she's a member of my fiancé's family. I guess I'm just going to have to get myself some wedding planning armour then, and who knows, I might just get me some in a lovely shade of white too!

To be honest, I'm not even sure what colour I'll wear I've not even really looked at any dresses yet. I know the roughly the type of dress that I'll be going for (a 50s swing type, not anything crazy) and I'm sure I'll take flack for that off her for that too, and probably lots of other things about this wedding as well. And whilst it seems like it should be obvious it was a bitchy comment, it kind of just got under my skin and made me think, maybe there's something in what she's saying?

I've been browsing some other wedding forums and lot of the bride who seem to be wearing white would seem to be my age or older than me, like I said this woman's own daughter wore white at her wedding and she was a good 5 or 6 years older then than I am now (and is a similar size to me to boot). As for the white not being too flattering on a larger frame, I will be trying to loose weight before my wedding but if I don't, I trust myself to pick a dress that flatters me and still makes me look like a bride, whether that dress is white or ivory or red or black or blue or whatever.

I had to admit I had no idea wedding planning could be so horribly trying, oldest sibling so no wedding in the immediate family and none of my friends are married yet so I've never seen it up close before. But if people are going to bitch then they're going to bitch. Why should I make myself miserable to try to appease them. It my wedding, not hers or anybody else who might have problem with it (I'm sure they'll be others if I know our families)! But you know what? I'm going to tell them, as politely as I have to, to shove their opinions. At the end of the're paying for our own wedding entirely on our own so we're under no obligation to run things by family members, so the only people that needs to approve our choices are us.