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Internet Dating.

  • 22-06-2013 02:20AM
    #1
    Trebor176
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,444 ✭✭✭


    Such a topic may have been discussed here before, so I apologise for starting another thread, if it's the case. Anyway, have any of you tried internet dating? If so, what were your experiences? What are you views on it?

    I'll admit that I joined one site a few weeks ago, and haven't had much in the way of replies (so far). I joined out of curiosity, so I am not expecting to meet anyone through it, but who knows? I am a genuine person, and there are some seemably genuine girls on there, and others obviously just take the piss.

    Now, I know people have mixed opinions about internet dating in general. I was a bit sceptical to start with, but just decided to try it in the end and see how things would go. Some reckon it's a better way to meet someone, rather than on a night out in a club or whatever, while others reckon it's a complete waste of time. I mean, there are plenty of other ways to meet someone, and I realise that, of course. I do have a decent social life, but perhaps I just need a little more confidence to approach someone, strike up a conversation and take it from there. Anyway, some are on these sites looking for romance, while others are just looking for friendship. I'm not entirely sure why for the latter. I would have said the former would be harder.

    Anyway, just a brief view about it, but I'd like to hear your thoughts and experiences :)


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  • #2
    humbert
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,238 ✭✭✭humbert


    I could have lived my life quite happily without having seen LOL used as a sentence.

    Sounds like your online dating experience will follow the same trend as your night out experiences; not initiating conversation and ending up alone.


  • #3
    superb choice of username
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 140 ✭✭superb choice of username


    Yeah, learnt the hard way - don't be yourself. Gotta 'play the game' - act confident and that

    Might be slightly easier than playing the confident person in the club...


  • #4
    smileyj1987
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,325 ✭✭✭smileyj1987


    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tSfUWegHjBU


  • #5
    KeithM89
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,557 ✭✭✭KeithM89


    I still prefer carbon dating tbh, its way more fun.


  • #6
    uch
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,035 ✭✭✭uch


    My eyes hurt after reading that

    22/25



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  • #7
    confuseddotcom
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,790 ✭✭✭confuseddotcom


    Boards Discussion here for Online Dating Group.


  • #8
    policarp
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,680 ✭✭✭policarp


    Ah. You'll be all right.


  • #9
    Bozo Skeleton
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 749 ✭✭✭Bozo Skeleton


    I joined up on a free site about a year ago. I never thought I would, and it turned out, it's just not my thing. If I ever meet anybody, it'll be at a gig or in a bar.
    Anyway, my point being. People who cannot spell, or write in text speak are a major turn off. They come across as idiots to me.


  • #10
    Canis Lupus
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 9,880 ✭✭✭Canis Lupus


    I currently work in credit card fraud and so get to see peoples spending. The amount of money people are spending on internet dating sites is mindblowing. I guess people just don't meet up like they used to.

    As an aside, having to call someone to see if they joined up to a site called CougarLife was fun and awkward all at the same time.


  • #11
    Galwayguy35
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 18,184 ✭✭✭✭Galwayguy35


    "Anyting u wanna kno just ask"

    "gjdfkgghdfgg will fill dis in later"

    "not being mean but if you know your ugly don't reply"

    Some of the well thought out profiles on POF.

    I'm on a paid site and find it better, more genuine people who actually want to meet someone and not timewasters.


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  • #12
    Karl Stein
    Closed Accounts Posts: 7,687 ✭✭✭Karl Stein


    Have you considered cocooning yourself in duct tape and staying in your bedroom?


  • #13
    kjl
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,127 ✭✭✭kjl


    Ok, so I travel a lot with work and don't really get much chance to go to nightclubs, so I joined an internet dating site thinking, maybe the tide has turned and this is how people meet nowadays. I sifted through facebook for a few photos when I thought I looked well and posted them up on OKCupid. Well I must have done something right because I started getting loads of messages from women on the site and here is my conclusion. There are two type of women on internet dating sites. Ugly ones and nigerian scammers trying to get you to send them money in some way shape or form.

    There is an stench of desperation from most of the girls on the site. Every photo looks like they have been carefully selected from a thousand bad ones because the girl kinda looks less fat in it. You make a comment about something in their profile and they are eager to get chatting to you and finding out more. I find the whole thing pathetic, so I was correct about how people meet nowadays, just ugly people. People incapable of meeting someone in real life.

    There is a certain stigmatism associated for using a dating site and I feel this should stay and not be lost. If you are not good enough to meet women in public, you should not be praised for having a laptop but be mocked for having to resort to it.


  • #14
    Bozo Skeleton
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 749 ✭✭✭Bozo Skeleton


    Galwayguy35 wrote: »
    "Anyting u wanna kno just ask"

    "gjdfkgghdfgg will fill dis in later"

    "not being mean but if you know your ugly don't reply"

    Some of the well thought out profiles on POF.

    I'm on a paid site and find it better, more genuine people who actually want to meet someone and not timewasters.

    A friend of mine met someone on The Guardian dating site, they clicked, moved in together, and now have a new born kid, a success story. Dating sites are not my bag really. I prefer real life interactions. Maybe that's why I'm single :D


  • #15
    just_be_nice
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 58 ✭✭just_be_nice


    It's been around for a long time now and it has been gaining in popularity all the time. It's one of the most popular ways to meet partners in North America.

    There isn't such a culture of asking people out on dates in Ireland so online dating is slower in developing but many people are using it.

    I have not tried it but I think it's a great idea. It seems like a great way to meet lots of people, get some info on them, email and chat to find out more, then if all is good, go on lots of dates!

    I know of a quite a few couples who met online and they are all very well matched and have a lot of fun together.


  • #16
    Karl Stein
    Closed Accounts Posts: 7,687 ✭✭✭Karl Stein


    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=O5UEZYeSVqA


  • #17
    Singularity 1
    Closed Accounts Posts: 100 ✭✭Singularity 1


    I tried it for 2 years and in that time I only went on 1 date. I deleted my profiles a couple of months ago. I found it too time consuming and over all just disappointing. The problem is there are so many creeps on it sending dic pics so the women become extra cautious and the whole thing becomes like an audition where you have to prove you're not a creep - guilty until proven innocent, a bit like the pub/club scene.

    Although I find with the foreign women they're not as suspicious and will generally reciprocate the chat. This goes for online dating as well as real life, but that's just been my experience.


  • #18
    Duggys Housemate
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,298 ✭✭✭Duggys Housemate


    kjl wrote: »
    Ok, so I travel a lot with work and don't really get much chance to go to nightclubs, so I joined an internet dating site thinking, maybe the tide has turned and this is how people meet nowadays. I sifted through facebook for a few photos when I thought I looked well and posted them up on OKCupid. Well I must have done something right because I started getting loads of messages from women on the site and here is my conclusion. There are two type of women on internet dating sites. Ugly ones and nigerian scammers trying to get you to send them money in some way shape or form.

    There is an stench of desperation from most of the girls on the site. Every photo looks like they have been carefully selected from a thousand bad ones because the girl kinda looks less fat in it. You make a comment about something in their profile and they are eager to get chatting to you and finding out more. I find the whole thing pathetic, so I was correct about how people meet nowadays, just ugly people.

    People incapable of meeting someone in real life.

    There is a certain stigmatism associated for using a dating site and I feel this should stay and not be lost. If you are not good enough to meet women in public, you should not be praised for having a laptop but be mocked for having to resort to it.

    Extremely weird logic. You assumed they were ugly because they were talking to you when you wrote on their profiles despite the good pictures on their profiles?

    I've never used online dating but that kind of logic makes no sense.


  • #19
    Canis Lupus
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 9,880 ✭✭✭Canis Lupus


    Duggys Housemate wrote: »
    Extremely weird logic. You assumed they were ugly because they were talking to you when you wrote on their profiles despite the good pictures on their profiles?

    I've never used online dating but that kind of logic makes no sense.

    I like how he labels everyone on the site pathetic EXCEPT himself. I guess he ended up not getting laid.


  • #20
    Bipolar Joe
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,443 ✭✭✭Bipolar Joe


    Canis Lupus wrote: »
    I like how he labels everyone on the site pathetic EXCEPT himself. I guess he ended up not getting laid.

    Also, the chicks photos looked like they were carefully selected so they looked good, which is bad, after he trawled Facebook selecting a picture where he looked good.


  • #21
    Thwip!
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,234 ✭✭✭Thwip!


    Bipolar Joe wrote: »
    Also, the chicks photos looked like they were carefully selected so they looked good, which is bad, after he trawled Facebook selecting a picture where he looked good.

    Was just going to point that out


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  • #22
    Esoteric_
    Closed Accounts Posts: 11,255 ✭✭✭✭Esoteric_


    kjl wrote: »
    Ok, so I travel a lot with work and don't really get much chance to go to nightclubs, so I joined an internet dating site thinking, maybe the tide has turned and this is how people meet nowadays. I sifted through facebook for a few photos when I thought I looked well and posted them up on OKCupid. Well I must have done something right because I started getting loads of messages from women on the site and here is my conclusion. There are two type of women on internet dating sites. Ugly ones and nigerian scammers trying to get you to send them money in some way shape or form.

    There is an stench of desperation from most of the girls on the site. Every photo looks like they have been carefully selected from a thousand bad ones because the girl kinda looks less fat in it. You make a comment about something in their profile and they are eager to get chatting to you and finding out more. I find the whole thing pathetic, so I was correct about how people meet nowadays, just ugly people. People incapable of meeting someone in real life.

    There is a certain stigmatism associated for using a dating site and I feel this should stay and not be lost. If you are not good enough to meet women in public, you should not be praised for having a laptop but be mocked for having to resort to it.

    I'm neither fat nor ugly, I don't have hundreds of photos to even sift through to find 'good' ones, I'm more than able to meet people 'in real life' (most of my relationships were with people I met offline), and I still think OD is great. It takes some time and effort because there ARE chancers and liars on it, just like in every walk of life, but people like you are the reason some stigma still exists.


  • #23
    miamee
    Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators, Regional East Moderators, Regional North West Moderators, Paid Member Posts: 13,320 Mod ✭✭✭✭miamee


    confuseddotcom wrote: »
    Boards Discussion here for Online Dating Group.

    The social group is actually closed now but if you want to post/ask questions, PM me for access to our private forum :)


  • #24
    Esoteric_
    Closed Accounts Posts: 11,255 ✭✭✭✭Esoteric_


    miamee wrote: »
    The social group is actually closed now but if you want to post/ask questions, PM me for access to our private forum :)

    Or me. :D


  • #25
    starlit
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 12,349 ✭✭✭✭starlit


    So is it not ok to select a pic that shows the person in the best pose than something that might make someone run off.


  • #26
    Coffeeteasugar
    Closed Accounts Posts: 75 ✭✭Coffeeteasugar


    Tried it, but wasn't for me, nothing much materialised out of it besides a lot of online conversations, so difficult to know whether you have the same chemistry in real life!


  • #27
    biko
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 81,060 ✭✭✭✭biko


    Trebor176 wrote: »
    Such a topic may have been discussed here before, so I apologise for starting another thread, if it's the case.
    www.google.ie/search?q=Internet+Dating+site:boards.ie


  • #28
    starlit
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 12,349 ✭✭✭✭starlit


    Very mixed on it myself.


  • #29
    IM0
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,390 ✭✭✭IM0


    Id say for anyone serious about it they will join a paying one, for people that are not and are timewaster flirters married with kids and want to feel better about themselves OR/and butt ugly ect, they will join free ones. its a last resort thing Id say, wreaking of desperation usually. Id say its like finding a needle in a haystack though trying to find the ones who genuinely dont have time for going out too much for work reasons/kids ect and will tick your boxes, if you arent desperate and dont just want a shag yourself in any hole will do kinda way like the local bike


  • #30
    jackstapleton
    Closed Accounts Posts: 32 ✭jackstapleton


    I've never done it personally...but I had a friend who used it extensively going on three or four dates a week. Its actually not a bad idea, since you can kiss a lot of frogs, so to speak. If you are professional, and don't do bars, then internet is useful.


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  • #31
    Daveysil15
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,301 ✭✭✭Daveysil15


    The internet is great for meeting people. Any women I've met over the last few years have all been through the internet. Although only 1 of them was through a dating site.


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